If someone is interested in you and you match well together, I don't see why they would have a problem with driving you around. You're more than your inability to drive.

i know how this feels. i lost my left eye entirely and am legally blind in my right eye (cancer in both eyes as a child). i'm 30 and have now been married for 6 years to an awesome woman who coincidentally always prefers to be the one driving, in any situation.

but when i was your age and younger, not being able to transport myself always presented a huge challenge when it came to dating. i honestly approached it a little differently every time, depending on the person. in the early stages, i typically relied on friends to drop me off. i had some good ones that were very supportive. when i started dating my now wife, my friend dropped me off on our first date, and the day before went to the location with me to help me acclimate and get familiar.

a few times i had success asking a girl if i could take them out, then made it into a bit of a joke by saying they'd actually have to take me out.

overall, i would say the best thing for a first date is to meet at the location of the date. have someone you are close to drive you and be prepared to pick you up later. it sounds like you have a close knit community that would love to get to be there for you. but this way, you can cross the transportation bridge with a SO on your own time. could be during the date, or not until a later date when you are more comfortable. and if the date isn't going well and you aren't interested, you never have to even bring it up.

Probably a stupid question, but is moving to the city out of the question? The fact of the matter is that it *is* difficult to manage this sort of thing on your own, without access to things like Uber or Public Transit.

You date exactly like everyone else.

Stumble, say the wrong things, make stupid choices, and wander for a while.

until You find someone that wants you, whoever you are, and whatever you bring.

I’ve dated before and I love it. I’ve found that women are fine with driving you to the place as long as you at least offer to pay for gas also, learn how to pump gas. Even though we can’t drive, I know how to pump gas. It’s a very useful skill.

Uber. Or she drives and you pay.

Plenty of people who don't own cars and can't drive manage to get layed, so can you.;;;

So I'm sighted and my boyfriend is blind. We're in our 30's. While he does live in an area with uber, dating is difficult for him. When I matched with him and we started talking, he pointed out that I'd have to drive. I actually laughed, because DUH. Of course I would, as he had already told me that he's completely blind with only some light perception. I was like, "Well I hope so. I'd rather not get into a crash." (We have matching dark senses of humor. lol.) Anyway, I knew going into the relationship that I'd be driving. I also figured that I'd be helping him get to appointments and such because uber is fucking expensive even if you do have it in your area. If someone forms a connection with you and you care about them, driving and getting around isn't going to impact that relationship all that much. I used to live in the sticks, and it's hard. I'm hoping you can find someone who gets you. It's all any of us really want.

They have them out there. My dad is fully blind and had matches and long term partners from online dating. Just be upfront about it and if they are interested in you then they won't have any issues doing the driving for you.

Hey man, I'm 22 as well and here's how I think of it. Our disability is a great way to filter out shallow people. If you're interested in someone who isn't willing to adapt to your specific needs, then they're not a partner. You will find someone who will be totally okay picking you up for a date: in the grand scheme of things, that's not a lot to ask for. If anyone reacts negatively to that, then they're not worth your time anyway.

I gave up on dating, myself. I have nothing women want (I'm not hot, rich, or equipped like Ferdinand the bull), and I'm tired of being made to feel like either some kind of pet project or like they're doing me a favor by condescending to be with me.

The thing is a lot of them don't even realize they are doing such a thing. But I can feel it. Look at me, I'm so wonderful for broadening my horizons and being with this blind dude. Or, my grandfather/uncle/whatever was blind and I know all about it. They don't even realize how condescending or patronizing that is, as if we can all be lumped into one category.

Then there's the inate sense of superiority that comes across. It doesn't bother me that you're blind, but I'm so glad it's not me. Really? How wonderful for you.

As to the driving thing, most women won't even give you a second look if you can't drive. I see it all the time in personal ads and such. Must have job and car, because I don't want to play taxi. So I'd say being able to drive is an important criterium.

Now, I'm not saying every sighted person is like that. I'm just tired of always finding the ones who are. So I've given up and will no longer put myself out there to encounter them anymore.

Do you have any opportunities to socialise in a friendly manner with groups where there may be some eligible women?

E,g, helping at a Youth club, joining a ballroom dancing club, perhaps a reading group? Anything like this that would improve your networks where you might meet someone who wants to know you better, or someone who will give you a lift to other social activities, or maybe you meet someone who knows someone who would like to someone like you.

When it comes to changing things in your life it help to think not just about where you want to be but also what might be the stepping stones that would get you a little closer to your goal.

I'm not sure if this is really advice, but more of an experience I've had. Both my brother and I are legally blind and as a result, can't drive. However, my brother also has a long-term girlfriend who is willing to drive him places so that seems to work out nice for him. I on the other hand live somewhere where the public transportation is semi-decent so I get around that way. Although, not being able to drive is pretty frustrating and I hate having to rely on people. Also as a suggestion, maybe you could go on a couple dates via Zoom or something? I know this is not ideal but you never know.

Try your local paratransit service.