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I'm going to be the nerd guy in college. It is a good idea? You can find the reason below in the post. (self.Blind)
submitted by Thecapitalistboy
I am an extremely shy person when I meet new people and they can easily consider me an idiot.
I know that my disability will put me even more at a disadvantage when I get there.
I analyzed the data and I think that the optimal solution would be to I look nerdy, at least at the beginning.
I can put on my (sunglasses), do my haircut like in the movies and everything else I need.
I don't like to blunt, but in the social life I identify with the typology of the nerd, I don't want to go out with friends, I prefer to stay with them on the phone.
The problem here is that those colleagues might consider me confident, proud, contemptuous because I don't speak and I don't want that.
What can I do?
Thank you for answers.
I know that my disability will put me even more at a disadvantage when I get there.
I analyzed the data and I think that the optimal solution would be to I look nerdy, at least at the beginning.
I can put on my (sunglasses), do my haircut like in the movies and everything else I need.
I don't like to blunt, but in the social life I identify with the typology of the nerd, I don't want to go out with friends, I prefer to stay with them on the phone.
The problem here is that those colleagues might consider me confident, proud, contemptuous because I don't speak and I don't want that.
What can I do?
Thank you for answers.
mantolwen 13 points 2y ago
Are you going to college for the first time? I think you should be yourself. It will be better than people finding out you are blind later and feeling deceived. That can lose you friends. You will find at college there are lots of groups and societies with different interests, including nerdy stuff like games, computers and Sci fi. If you join these groups you will make loads of friends who don't care at all about whether you can see or not.
TK_Sleepytime 10 points 2y ago
As an autistic legally blind person I can tell you that you can mask all you want but you won't find true friends unless you're willing to be yourself. I made life-long friends in college and I wish you the best of luck.
Thecapitalistboy [OP] 1 points 2y ago
Thank you. I thought I'd look nerdy at first, so people wouldn't think I was weird because I was silent, but it's probably a bad idea.
Amonwilde 8 points 2y ago
Just do your best. I would invest in a decent haircut, though. And join at least 3 clubs, structured activity is easier for interverts and for blind people as well.
niamhweking 1 points 2y ago
Yes, join a social club. I'm presuming most universities and colleges have a huge choice so you will find a few you like
CosmicBunny97 7 points 2y ago
Just be yourself and be friendly. Even if you’re quiet, it doesn’t hurt to say a “hi, how are you?” To the person sitting next to you. Even if they don’t respond, that’s on them and not you
GTbuddha 1 points 2y ago
Are you saying that you are an introvert?
Thecapitalistboy [OP] 1 points 2y ago
Yes.
GTbuddha 1 points 2y ago
LHave you done much reading about introversion? I found that as I learned more about introversion, and it's many subtypes, I was more comfortable in my own skin. I also started to understand why I behaved the way I did. It helped me understand and explain to others why I do some of the things I do.
Now my friends tell me how many people will be at a dinner party. They know if it more than 6 that I'm 98% of the time going to say no.
https://socialpronow.com/blog/5-best-books-introvert-reading/
This is a pretty good list to look at for ideas.
Now my friends tell me how many people will be at a dinner party. They know if it more than 6 that I'm 98% of the time going to say no.
https://socialpronow.com/blog/5-best-books-introvert-reading/
This is a pretty good list to look at for ideas.
Thecapitalistboy [OP] 1 points 2y ago
Oh, thank you. An excellent read! Didn't your friends consider you proud, contemptuous when you told them about the maximum number of people who need to be in the room to you feel at ease?
I'm afraid they might not understand my introverted personality.
I'm afraid they might not understand my introverted personality.
GTbuddha 1 points 2y ago
For me and to the it is like having a bbq when you have a vegan friend. I would invite them and say, "hey we are having a bbq on Saturday. I know meat isn't your thing but we would love to have you there. If it doesn't work for you maybe the next time it will be something different. "
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