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Dating? (self.Blind)
submitted by unemployedgrad999
Hi everyone,
Hope you are well.
I am a late 20s man who's slowly going blind. My prescribed vision is around - 30 with a lot of scaring. I've had lucintus ejections and a retinal detachment by this point. Unfortunately, my atrophy is increasing to the point where the 'static greyness' is reaching my very central vision and its only a matter of a few years, at best before it takes over my reading vision.
At this point, I can still get away with wearing contact lenses outside and extremely thick glasses inside. Anyone observing me from the outside wouldn't know all of this is going on.
For those of you who have gone through the process of losing your vision, how do you tell prospective people you're dating about this? Do you bring it up on the first date?
Thanks for your input.
Hope you are well.
I am a late 20s man who's slowly going blind. My prescribed vision is around - 30 with a lot of scaring. I've had lucintus ejections and a retinal detachment by this point. Unfortunately, my atrophy is increasing to the point where the 'static greyness' is reaching my very central vision and its only a matter of a few years, at best before it takes over my reading vision.
At this point, I can still get away with wearing contact lenses outside and extremely thick glasses inside. Anyone observing me from the outside wouldn't know all of this is going on.
For those of you who have gone through the process of losing your vision, how do you tell prospective people you're dating about this? Do you bring it up on the first date?
Thanks for your input.
Crafty_Dragon_roll 6 points 2y ago
I met my husband through online dating. I used pictures of myself that had my cane in them, so a guy who was interested would know straight away I have some kind of visual impairment. It worked well for me to be upfront about my disability and opened dialogue to ask about it.
It worked out great for me as I met my hubby in the first week of trying online dating. I was also 31 at the time and was open about what I was looking for and what I would accept.
To me it helped getting it out at first because it helps to weed out the people you don't want. What your life goals are, expectations in a relationship. I am also childfree so I put that in as well to keep away men who wanted kids. Marvel is better than DC. Haha Things like that.
Hope this was helpful.
It worked out great for me as I met my hubby in the first week of trying online dating. I was also 31 at the time and was open about what I was looking for and what I would accept.
To me it helped getting it out at first because it helps to weed out the people you don't want. What your life goals are, expectations in a relationship. I am also childfree so I put that in as well to keep away men who wanted kids. Marvel is better than DC. Haha Things like that.
Hope this was helpful.
snow671 4 points 2y ago
I've had the best success meeting people through activity groups like running or hiking. It greatly increased the pool.
Online dating was a shit show for me, but your experience may differ.
Online dating was a shit show for me, but your experience may differ.
BlindLuck72 2 points 2y ago
I’m also super up front about it, it saves a ton of time by filtering out people who won’t work out.
Funny you mentioned online dating was a shut show that was my experience too, not sure why that is
Funny you mentioned online dating was a shut show that was my experience too, not sure why that is
NoClops 1 points 2y ago
What’s your vision? I’m completely blind and want so badly to run/hike. I don’t feel comfortable doing it alone, but I can’t find a tandem partner.
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I believe reddit etiquette mandates I notify you I edited this for a typo.
StrawbearieWheee 2 points 2y ago
I was pretty up front about all my medical issues, vision issues included. I figured it was for the best, and I eventually ended up with a very loving and supportive dude. He worries a lot about my health problems, but is getting use to dealing with them and helping me when I need it. He still has a habit if trying to lead me by grabbing my hand though, but I can't blame him for wanting to hold hands so bad.
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