Hi, I'm a 25 year old pagan bisexual mexican girl. I happen to be completely blind. I also have to go to dialysis 3 times a week. However, like any other 25 year old, I would like a job. I would like to be independent, and live on my own. I've had my go at living on my own twice already, and twice, I failed. At this point in my life, I have no real friends, I have no support that I feel comfortable calling support. I have nothing to lose. So I found this job at this place called envision, but it's in Wichita Kansas. I don't know anyone there. But they help relocate you. My thought process is this. Ve got nothing to lose. I'll be going somewhere new with a clean start, where people don't know me. I'll have a job, albeit a shitty one, but a job nonetheless. If you were me, would you do it? I live at home with my family, but this isn't what I want in my life! I want a real life. I want to meet a person, start a family someday maybe. I want a chance to be someone new. Am I crazy?
Anxious and hoping for help Lost in LA.
BluntArtTrauma963 points2y ago
Hello, I actually applied to that company years ago. I decided not to go with the company. I had my reasons, partly because of the job but more for personal circumstances. Can't really say if you should or shouldn't but when I applied they had a week long work trial to see if you would fit the job/area. I never got that far in the process but would say, at the least, do this if they still offer it, could provide some useful insight into both job and area. I also agree with the other commenters point about it being a good learning experience. That even if it doesn't work out, at least you tried, which is more than I can say for myself.
TechnicalPragmatist2 points2y ago
Have you thought about a training center? Getting some good independent skills. Also get some skills. And I don’t mean this in a rude way. So I would say a key to success is finding your calling/gifting. Do a lot of soul searching talk to people about who you are and understand your strengths and weaknesses. I’ve taken a year to do this, I sat here and did a lot of introspection. Since you are a pagan and wouldn’t have my issues of faith have you thought about jungian typologies or the enneagram. Find where your profile fits in. Either r/socionics or r/mbtitheory I have been doing a lot of studying through that. Be a studewnt of yourself and of typology. Where is my place in the world. What are my true gifts? Am I technical, more in to working with people, more in to researching and where would I fall, anything else I would be geared to do that my gifts and natural skills and inclinations gear me towards. Am I geared towards working with people, or geared towards working alone in a back office. Do I do more filing type work and paperwork, or in sales or in the front working with customers? What’s my life’s mission. What have you done so far even voluntarily that you enjoy doing? Are you more creative? Active? Original? Sciency? Then carve a path for yourself. Reflect and introspect. I want to do x so now what? Does x require school? If yes go after it. If no then either get certified or go look after that line of career.
I would say you don’t want to go anywhere if you don’t have the independent skills. Maybe a training center needs to be first but even so you can start on the introspection aspects. I would say look in to that envision place but be careful, again introspection and carving out your life may help.
WarriorPrincess31 [OP]1 points2y ago
I've been to 3 different training centers already. The last training center I went to, ended in me being sexually assaulted. I don't know what I'm good at because I've never really had the opportunity to figure that out. I know in my soul that I am a pagan. I know that I am good at customer service. But I also know that I would not be opposed to a factory job where I use my hands to do something. I've always felt so useless and like I have never really contributed to society in any real and meaningful way. Even if envision turns out to be a shitty job, I'm going in with the mindset that this is a new experience for me. I've never ever had a job, let alone one that ultimately produces things that eventually somebody will use. It's not much, but to me, it's the difference between living off an SSI check for the rest of my life, and earning my own keep, no matter how little it might actually be.
TechnicalPragmatist2 points2y ago
that’s definitely not good concerning the training centers.
Would you like to figure that out? For me I think that my 20s was full of it I would say try out different hobbies. Also do some self exploration. Jungian and otherwise. Interacting with the world and trying different interests and see what sticks. Also study yourself. Use tools that you can soul search and ask questions. If I have to do this how would I feel? Who am I really?
I think it’s important to figure out where you stand in society and how you can help that’s a fairly important process.
Maybe you can look for that type of work. Would you be good at anything that would require a degree?
Have you thought of trying out the holland code test. Are you with vr. Ask them to give you access to a holland code test or an mbti test. It’s better if you study the system and self reflect but it’s up to you what you want to do. I spent a few years soul searching on what my greater purpose is suppose to be I was always studying liberl arts for many years. Then now I’ve switched over to computers..
Yeah, you asked for what to do so I gave you some advice. Even if you do it I suggest reflection soul searching. It’s medicine. I feel not enough blind people do this type of stuff.
BlindRyan12 points2y ago
If your current situation is fucked, why WOULDN'T you do this? My advice: when you get there, MAKE FRIENDS IMMEDIATELY! Then, even if it goes tits up, you're still in a better situation than you are now since you'll have a support network.
Be prepared for the culture shift. California sucks from top to bottom and if Kansas is anything like Washington, you'll have to learn how to be nice to people and for people to be nice to you. It's really jarring that first month.
bradley222 points2y ago
I’d love to get away from my family so would take it.
letspaintthesky2 points2y ago
Do it. It's maybe not the job you want, but it's a fresh start in a new place-an adventure if nothing else. If there's not a bus going to where you want to go, do you stay home? No, you probably get on a different bus that takes you closer to where you want to be.
Mark Twain once said 'I'd rather regret the things I did than the things I did not'. Seems like good advice to me.
niamhweking2 points2y ago
I would give it a go. If this company supports you in the practical aspects, that's one thing less to worry about. I would highly recommend joining societies or clubs involving your interests.
I've no vision issues but I like you have had numerous years and long passes in my life where I really haven't had friends. I’ve had people I work with, but no friends and just night after night, week after week just went home every night to an empty house.
While I did courses and hobbies they only filled the hour in the evening.
I would think something more like a social group, a weekly coffee morning, a zoom language course for example would work better for relationships.
Work has usually been where eventually I've made long term friends, only 1 per job really now looking back but there are usually Christmas nights out, some bigger places might have social committe that arrange events during the year
macadamia_owl1 points2y ago
I would take the chance of changing the life i don't like to a better one. Of course it may not work out but if you don't try at all nothing will change in your life and will stay the same. Before moving there visit the place if you can do walks there or O&M (with trusted person or trainer), research about interesting and useful spits nearby do a list of them you would like to visit (parks, cool shops and restaurants, interests etc), prepare yourself as best you can it eases anxiety alot and will make you more positive about change. It's not a one-way ticket if it won't work out you could come back it won't be a failure it will be valuable learning experience you will notice it later, it hurts alot but it's bearable i dealt with it 3 times already (I'm leaving blind on right eye hand movement and left eye fully blind since 15 years). Moved to different towns (even foreign country) i didn't knew - made great friends and enemies too - experienced awesome and sad things - learned so much all of it made me stronger despite "failures" i know from time distance that it's better this way how it turned out but yeah i miss some people and activities. But i don't give up! In 3 months i trying again in biggest city in my country i completely don't know i had no O&M there i will rely on my phone navigation, orientation skills, what I've learned previously. Some people can be friendly help each other they will help you if you ask. If you don't have family or friends supposed check out external ones trainers, groups for blind and low vision, foundations.
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