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I'm visually impaired, am I able to ask for mental help in this group...? (self.Blind)
submitted by VI_Shepherd
I don't know any other blind/visually impaired people, except for my sister, and she hates talking about our vision problems. I'm 30-years-old, and I'm just facing a really tough time right now. I've been visually impaired my whole life, but only recently have begun feeling scared like a child because of it. I just need someone to listen and not tell me a bunch of stupid positive affirmations for once.
If you know of a group better suited for this, please let me know. Thank you so much, and I'm sorry if this falls under, "not allowed", by the rules. I read them, but I'm still trying to understand Reddit. (It all seems so arbitrary sometimes.)
If you know of a group better suited for this, please let me know. Thank you so much, and I'm sorry if this falls under, "not allowed", by the rules. I read them, but I'm still trying to understand Reddit. (It all seems so arbitrary sometimes.)
bradley22 5 points 2y ago
Perhaps if you write down how you’re feeling we can listen that way?
I’m 28 and it’s hit me over the year that I may die alone. I’m blind and live in London and have found it either hard or impossible to find someone.
I might one day but this is how I feel right now.
I’m 28 and it’s hit me over the year that I may die alone. I’m blind and live in London and have found it either hard or impossible to find someone.
I might one day but this is how I feel right now.
VI_Shepherd [OP] 1 points 2y ago
I also meant, I didn't want to assume my story was worth taking up people's time unless it was approved of. Sometimes people can get upset in different ways when you try to post your difficult life problems. Not always offended, but sometimes just feel like I could've done it somewhere else.
VI_Shepherd [OP] 1 points 2y ago
That's moreso what I meant, yes... I just didn't want to assume, write down my whole problem, then either have people be total butts, or accidentally misunderstand the rules and all my writing goes down the toilet.
Also, my problem deals with something very mentally serious I'm not sure people are allowed to write about on Reddit or in this subreddit. (It has to do with the, "S", word.
I don't know if it means much in the way of comfort for you, but, I live in the U.S.A, and I, too, find it very hard to find a partner. I don't think I'm greater than everybody else,but I'm certainly a thinker. A LOT of people in the U.S.A don't like that, because they don't like to truly face their emotions, only pretend they do. Not everyone, but most people I've met.
Would it be ok if I direct messaged you the whole thing? Or do you think reddit would be cool with me writing about the, "S", problem? Would YOU he ok with me writing about the, "S", problem?
Also, my problem deals with something very mentally serious I'm not sure people are allowed to write about on Reddit or in this subreddit. (It has to do with the, "S", word.
I don't know if it means much in the way of comfort for you, but, I live in the U.S.A, and I, too, find it very hard to find a partner. I don't think I'm greater than everybody else,but I'm certainly a thinker. A LOT of people in the U.S.A don't like that, because they don't like to truly face their emotions, only pretend they do. Not everyone, but most people I've met.
Would it be ok if I direct messaged you the whole thing? Or do you think reddit would be cool with me writing about the, "S", problem? Would YOU he ok with me writing about the, "S", problem?
bradley22 1 points 2y ago
I doubt reddit would have an issue with that.
Honestly mate, you can write to me if you like but I can’t really help there sorry.
Honestly mate, you can write to me if you like but I can’t really help there sorry.
VI_Shepherd [OP] 1 points 2y ago
No it's ok. Like I said, the sort of, "help", I'm looking for is just some sort of understanding from someone. That's it. I'm not looking for advice or someone to cheer me up, just someone who listens (or reads) to what I say and says, "Yeah, I kind of get what you're saying", and gives a little explination of how they understand what I'm saying. That's it. Apologies if I seem terribly unprepared with my explinations, hahaha. Just nervous the internet will cancel me if I get in too deep, HAHA.
I seriously don't want to make you uncomfortable, dude, so please don't feel pressured! If you're truly ok with it, I certainly won't beat around the bush anymore and just message you.
Regardless, I do appreciate you speaking with me, at the very least.
I seriously don't want to make you uncomfortable, dude, so please don't feel pressured! If you're truly ok with it, I certainly won't beat around the bush anymore and just message you.
Regardless, I do appreciate you speaking with me, at the very least.
bradley22 2 points 2y ago
Oh! In that case, go for it!
It’s no problem at all.
It’s no problem at all.
BlueIr1ses 2 points 2y ago
I'm sorry you're going through a hard time right now. If these feelings are new for you, or more intense than they used to be, you might want to consult your doctor or a therapist. Sometimes hormone changes, medications, who-knows-what, can trigger a depressive episode and medication/therapy is needed to help sort things out. I was taking an immunosuppressant once and it made me depressed. I felt completely flat and dull. Good luck!
VI_Shepherd [OP] 1 points 2y ago
I see a therapist, but he's sighted, so it's hard for him to really understand my frustrations and feelings about being blind/visually impaired.
Also, the only meds that are new are my vitamin D, and that's supposed to have the complete opposite effect.
I know it isn't meds, because it's caused by my life situations, not anything I take.
Thank you for the tips, though, I appreciate it!
Also, the only meds that are new are my vitamin D, and that's supposed to have the complete opposite effect.
I know it isn't meds, because it's caused by my life situations, not anything I take.
Thank you for the tips, though, I appreciate it!
Fridux 2 points 2y ago
I'm not a mod on this sub or anything, but from my experience you are allowed to talk about your problems as long as you aren't encouraging anyone to harm themselves.
If by S you mean suicide, I've been there too, and the only reason why I don't have those thoughts anymore is because I found out that my profession and main pastime before going totally blind is still doable to some extent.
If by S you mean suicide, I've been there too, and the only reason why I don't have those thoughts anymore is because I found out that my profession and main pastime before going totally blind is still doable to some extent.
VI_Shepherd [OP] 1 points 2y ago
Thank you for the helpful information!!
Also, I would never do such a thing on purpose. I guess it would definitely be important if I ever shared, to specify I don't ever think any other blind or visually impaired people are as worthless as I feel, that the feelings are only specific to me and not meant to generalize anyone else.
Again, thank you so much, that really helped me!
I'm on the verge of crying, because I've been trying for almost 2 years to find a community with at minimum two people I could at least talk to who would even slightly understand my plights of depression and suicidal thoughts...
Also, I would never do such a thing on purpose. I guess it would definitely be important if I ever shared, to specify I don't ever think any other blind or visually impaired people are as worthless as I feel, that the feelings are only specific to me and not meant to generalize anyone else.
Again, thank you so much, that really helped me!
I'm on the verge of crying, because I've been trying for almost 2 years to find a community with at minimum two people I could at least talk to who would even slightly understand my plights of depression and suicidal thoughts...
Fridux 2 points 2y ago
> Thank you for the helpful information!! Also, I would never do such a thing on purpose. I guess it would definitely be important if I ever shared, to specify I don't ever think any other blind or visually impaired people are as worthless as I feel, that the feelings are only specific to me and not meant to generalize anyone else.
Yeah, that was my position regarding this subject too. I felt worthless, and that was part of the reason why I wanted to end it, with the other part being the boredom that I felt due to not having a hobby. I felt that although some blind people can be happy with this condition, the skills required for that were beyond my reach. However I ended up learning that I was wrong at least to some extent as I had enough skill to be average at the thing I love doing most, but that doesn't satisfy me since I keep comparing my current performance to my sighted performance and it sucks. I'm still a worthless waste of taxpayer money, but at least now I don't care anymore since I'm entertained.
Yeah, that was my position regarding this subject too. I felt worthless, and that was part of the reason why I wanted to end it, with the other part being the boredom that I felt due to not having a hobby. I felt that although some blind people can be happy with this condition, the skills required for that were beyond my reach. However I ended up learning that I was wrong at least to some extent as I had enough skill to be average at the thing I love doing most, but that doesn't satisfy me since I keep comparing my current performance to my sighted performance and it sucks. I'm still a worthless waste of taxpayer money, but at least now I don't care anymore since I'm entertained.
VI_Shepherd [OP] 1 points 2y ago
I just wanted to find just a modicum of fellowship in how I felt. It's the whole crap people tell you, "You're not alone in your feelings. It'll be ok." Um, yeah, I am alone. Do you see tons of blind/visually impaired people being on the streets as frequently as sighted people? No.
My sister and I are 1 in 3 billion with our particular eye disease, and since she HATES talking about it. Yeah, I feel stupid alone. So, even just a small amount of, "Oh yeah, I totally get that!", from a fellow blind or visually impaired person would help me not feel so alone, like my therapist keeps trying to make me feel, lol
Sighted people trying to relate to me is hilarious and a bit offensive, because they think just because they have momentary lapse in brain and eye function, it makes them, "just like me!" It never made me feel understood.
I'm so thankful you shared with me, and I hope maybe I can repay the favor some day.
If you don't mind me asking, what is it you like to do?
My sister and I are 1 in 3 billion with our particular eye disease, and since she HATES talking about it. Yeah, I feel stupid alone. So, even just a small amount of, "Oh yeah, I totally get that!", from a fellow blind or visually impaired person would help me not feel so alone, like my therapist keeps trying to make me feel, lol
Sighted people trying to relate to me is hilarious and a bit offensive, because they think just because they have momentary lapse in brain and eye function, it makes them, "just like me!" It never made me feel understood.
I'm so thankful you shared with me, and I hope maybe I can repay the favor some day.
If you don't mind me asking, what is it you like to do?
Fridux 2 points 2y ago
I like to code and learn new stuff, but unfortunately I lost the ability to assess the quality of most of the things I create, my performance dropped dramatically because I'm not very skilled at using a screen-reader even after 7 years, and I can no longer experience the fruits of my work the way I intend people to experience it. To make things worse I'm kind of a perfectionist and have a bit of conscious impostor syndrome because I keep comparing myself with able people who also know more than I do about the subjects that I'm currently researching.
BlueRock956 0 points 2y ago
Go develop independence skills at a rehab center for the blind. I recommend the Louisiana Center for the Blind. Once you are able to do things despite being blind, you'll feel ready to do what you wish.
VI_Shepherd [OP] 1 points 2y ago
Also, I'm already independent. I learned those skills as a child, both by myself and via training from a school for the blind.
I'm facing completely different issues than, "not having independence".
I'm facing completely different issues than, "not having independence".
VI_Shepherd [OP] 1 points 2y ago
That isn't what I was really asking... Did you accidentally reply to the wrong post?
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