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To all the blind people on here, what does sexual and/or romantic attraction feel like for you? (self.Blind)
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laconicflow 5 points 2y ago
So there are things I don't care about. Like the color of a woman's hair. Or the proportion of her lips to her nose.

I went to a wax museum with my best friend like ten years ago, and touched a hundred different faces in an hour, and I realized that faces don't mean shit to me.

That thing about "let me touch your face." Might mean something to people who lost their vision and still picture things, in pictures, in their heads.

But I suspect that faces are a very visual thing, the proportions and stuff.

So, as long as a woman isn't missing a lip or as long as she isn't two-face, with burns and shit, I don't think I care too much about the face. Assuming it's normal enough. A large nose wouldn't bother me unless we were like deep into freakshow terratory.

And eye color doesn't interest me either, because color is just words to me.

But bodies interest me very much. So. So if some girl is five feet tall weigh's four-hundred pounds, has A-cup boobs, and no ass, I am not interested. I might be interested before I know what her body looks like, but as soon as we started to make out, and I found out, I would be just as uninterested as anyone else who doesn't enjoy that look.

I always say to my friends. "What does that girl look like." So I don't waste anyones time. It's like if you were talking to a woman and you were blindfolded. You'd judge everything but her looks, but when the blindfold came off, you'd judge the looks too. And because I judge 'looks' by touch, I have to judge them later, but it doesn't mean I don't care. I have just as firm preferences as most men I know.

I like voices a lot. I can hear a voice and be instantly attracted to someone, (still wondering about the body when I'm attracted to the voice,) and I can be attracted to personalities, or the way a person carries herself, and the smell of perfume or showered woman, or whatever is attractive. As a blind person I can recognize the people I know well by scent.

Accents are sexy too. But most of these things are true for everyone.

Clothing can be attractive, not because of color but because of material and cut.

I'm living in the same world everyone else is, just getting my information about it a little differently.

And that Ray Charles wrist thing, that's true, but it doesn't always work because some people have skinny wrists unrelated to the rest of them.

I hope this helps and if you have any questions, feel free.

And also, this is just how it is for me, in my head, other people are going to say different things because they are different people.
bradley22 1 points 2y ago
I couldn’t have said this better myself!
VI_Shepherd 1 points 2y ago
I'm somewhat in both worlds. I'm serverly visually impaired in one eye, and the other being totally blind.

Independence is a strong factor. I don't mind a little bit of cute clinging or obviously asking for some help, but full on neediness and demands... That's very unattractive (unless, you know, an accident happened or something.) I'm very independent, but I'm also not a stubborn doofus who refuses to ask for help. Just a nice mix of those would be attractive.
It can be a mix of what I see at a distance (blurry colored blobs), what I see close up, and what I hear of the voice and personality.
I don't understand all body language, but I've subconsciously learned to avoid people with certain stances I can notice at a given distance.
There's also some inflections that are very irritating to me, and some personalities I wouldn't live with even if the woman was everything I physically dream of. Smell, as well. Perfumes are difficult for me because of my genetics. I can smell the grossness of many perfumes and many times they cause my asthma to flare up. All the gross chemicals they use.
However... A good, fruity smelling perfume, I'm like a cheap bottle of water; crumply and almost malleable. I love, love, LOVE fruity scents on a woman! Or even minty!
The only physical attributes I don't go for are... Don't look or feel like my family. ESPECIALLY my mother (complicated childhood trauma, blah, blah, blah.)
The feel part is mostly my highly sensitive nerves. My family hug a certain way, and their bodies are shaped a certain way, so if I hug you and I feel like I'm hugging a family member... I'll be instantly uninterested.
As for clothing, I really enjoy punk/goth women. A little bit of preppy dressing is ok, but none of this new age constant yoga pants BS. You don't need to be constantly fashionable, but it would be nice to see some REGULAR clothes on a woman at least 2-3 timess a week. I know it's hard to understand, but my eye and brain enjoys variety, because it's something different to notice, different colors to seez textures to understand and feel.
I'm somewhat of a home body because my poor vision, but I also wouldn't mind a woman who likes small adventures to abandoned towns and stuff! Scary movies, and some fun nerd stuff. As well as her own things she likes to do in her, "me time." That's always important to have, no matter what.

I'm not really sure if everything else is a direct result of my poor vision, or if it's just normal stuff. So, I'll leave it out.
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