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Grandfather going blind. help? (self.Blind)
submitted by JustAthinking2
Hi, my grandfather has a condition that is deteriorating his retina. They have gone to many doctors and his condition cannot be fixed it is now about getting him to accept that he might be going blind. My grandmother has told me she's caught him trying to read in frustration and hides it as soon as she comes downstairs leading us to believe he's embarrassed and not ready to accept the circumstances.
This is fine as it's going to take time, but I'm wondering how hard brail is to learn and if with brail could he read newspapers or crosswords again? He loves doing crosswords it's his routine and it's distressing him he needs help doing them. The thing is I'm willing to learn brail and teach him myself but my grandmother doesn't believe it's possible at his age and he's struggling of course. If brail is too much I need to know if there are crosswords that he can do for blind individuals.
I also would love to know how I can go about getting him to slowly accept this because I want him to realize he can still live a happy healthy normal life even with the challenge. Is there anything i can do that may help besides the above? Thank you. I'm sorry if my grammar and spelling is bad i tried editing the best i can.
This is fine as it's going to take time, but I'm wondering how hard brail is to learn and if with brail could he read newspapers or crosswords again? He loves doing crosswords it's his routine and it's distressing him he needs help doing them. The thing is I'm willing to learn brail and teach him myself but my grandmother doesn't believe it's possible at his age and he's struggling of course. If brail is too much I need to know if there are crosswords that he can do for blind individuals.
I also would love to know how I can go about getting him to slowly accept this because I want him to realize he can still live a happy healthy normal life even with the challenge. Is there anything i can do that may help besides the above? Thank you. I'm sorry if my grammar and spelling is bad i tried editing the best i can.
KillerLag 3 points 1y ago
A coworker of mine has taught Braille to clients who are over 100. The biggest factor is a willingness to learn. Some people get frustrated and give up easily.
Where do you live? In North America, there are a few places that can teach people braille.
Where do you live? In North America, there are a few places that can teach people braille.
JustAthinking2 [OP] 2 points 1y ago
USA i don't know if I can get them to bring him to anyone to teach him because his wife currently believes he's too old I think it's just them both coping with it in a strange way. Eventually, I think they'll realize they have to do something and the problem is here he still has a bit of his sight left a tiny amount, and starting him soon is what i want to get him doing. I don't know if I can, but I'm trying to slowly discuss these things with my grandmother. The only thing she may be receptive to is getting him into a support group and i was just looking those up after i posted this here. (I feel if he has others like him around he may come around a bit) The 2d thing though is i want to find him crosswords he can do it's his routine and i don't know where to find a lot of these things.
KillerLag 2 points 1y ago
Call your local state rehabilitation facility, and they can make some suggestions. They would be most aware of the resources available in your area. They may also be able to talk to your grandfather and discuss training options.
https://hadley.edu/workshops/braille
Here is also a link to a Braille workshop, where someone can learn Braille by mail.
https://hadley.edu/workshops/braille
Here is also a link to a Braille workshop, where someone can learn Braille by mail.
JustAthinking2 [OP] 2 points 1y ago
Thank you so much. I will i have a appointment tomorrow with a rehabilitation place for my own disability's (i hate the word rehabilitation) but it is what it is right?
But that's a good idea cause i'll ask the person in call with me at the end.
But that's a good idea cause i'll ask the person in call with me at the end.
KillerLag 2 points 1y ago
The word rehabilitation means "restoring someone back to health or normal life through training". Not everyone is a fan of that word, especially because some training will never replace/fix what someone has.
SLJ7 1 points 1y ago
This is not r/relationship_advice, but I think you may need to have a conversation with his wife. It is a very bad (and harmful) idea for her to be actively discouraging him from learning things. He needs the people closest to him to understand what he can do and to encourage it. I know he's also part of the problem but one would think his wife has a high chance of helping him come to terms with it if they're in a healthy relationship. Really I think both of them probably need a support group.
JustAthinking2 [OP] 1 points 1y ago
Oh i agree, she has always been a very demanding and abusive person. Shes gotten better but its not justified.
I can't tell you If she does the same to him that she does the others but I'm not putting it past her. Half of the reason why I'm doing this is because I'm trying to figure out a way so I can have that conversation. Unfortunately I don't think they're going to listen to their 27 year old grandson let alone anyone else. At the very least I think I could convince her to put him into support groups where he could help outside of her apporval. I feel a bit bad because it's sort of blind siding her as shed be oblivious to them helping. But helpings positive so not really? And at least he will get support and maybe help. To be honest I don't think he really is much of the problem of the problem I think he is struggling with something that is very obviously distressing. And I think he would try if he was given the encouragement to try. I also think a part of the reason why he feels ashamed is because I've watched her Play down his feelings before and so i bet he doesn't feel like he can express his emotions but she wouldn't be ready to hear and and would get very upset with me. There is an exactly a lot I can do but I plan to try to do whatever i can get them to listen to.
I can't tell you If she does the same to him that she does the others but I'm not putting it past her. Half of the reason why I'm doing this is because I'm trying to figure out a way so I can have that conversation. Unfortunately I don't think they're going to listen to their 27 year old grandson let alone anyone else. At the very least I think I could convince her to put him into support groups where he could help outside of her apporval. I feel a bit bad because it's sort of blind siding her as shed be oblivious to them helping. But helpings positive so not really? And at least he will get support and maybe help. To be honest I don't think he really is much of the problem of the problem I think he is struggling with something that is very obviously distressing. And I think he would try if he was given the encouragement to try. I also think a part of the reason why he feels ashamed is because I've watched her Play down his feelings before and so i bet he doesn't feel like he can express his emotions but she wouldn't be ready to hear and and would get very upset with me. There is an exactly a lot I can do but I plan to try to do whatever i can get them to listen to.
PrincessDie123 1 points 1y ago
My town has a program for the blind and elderly folks go there to learn braille and life skills all the time, nobody is too old to learn unless they are unwilling to try.
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