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How to deal with people doubting your vision (self.Blind)
submitted by NiceShinyEspurrs
Hello,
I put a NSFW tag as this topic can be pretty stressful and I do not want to cause anyone stress. I recently lost my pet parrot who was like an emotional support animal for me. I find because of this I am not handling things as well as I normally would. I am legally blind with cortical blindness I had a stroke December 26 2018. I am fairly young and extremely stubborn I try to do everything myself even if I can not see what I am doing.
We moved into a military housing community in 2019 I wore sun glasses at the time as I was very insecure about my vision loss especially my right eye looks a bit off. I do have sensitivity to light but I find just letting my eyes adjust and do their own thing is better than wearing sun glasses for me. I found I was wearing sun glasses more to avoid people looking at my right eye due to insecurity and also doubting my vision loss. Sadly a lot of people believe that you are blind or not and do not understand being legally blind, if you do not fall into that stereotype they will attack you. I have a white cane so that usually attracts attention to me, my husband is trained through mobility training so that I can use him instead of my white cane when going out but I still like to be independent.
We had neighbors that were nice but I noticed over the past couple months they started making comments about if my vision improved or if I was faking it because I no longer wore sunglasses. They usually hung out in our driveway so anytime I was going out this became a routine of asking me if I was really blind. They recently moved out and were not too nice about it they scratched up my husbands car. I was nothing but nice to them so we were both shocked. I even would bring their trash bins in for them to be nice. This happened with almost every person I have interacted with in this area. I am not sure if its because I am too passive and go out of my way for people.
I started doing public speaking prior to covid but that is on pause sadly now. I know it is not my job to educate people but I really can not handle constantly being questioned and attacked by this small town of people.
I am really not sure what to do as I am just trying to live my life and try my best. It's gotten to the point where I do not want to go outside anymore.
I put a NSFW tag as this topic can be pretty stressful and I do not want to cause anyone stress. I recently lost my pet parrot who was like an emotional support animal for me. I find because of this I am not handling things as well as I normally would. I am legally blind with cortical blindness I had a stroke December 26 2018. I am fairly young and extremely stubborn I try to do everything myself even if I can not see what I am doing.
We moved into a military housing community in 2019 I wore sun glasses at the time as I was very insecure about my vision loss especially my right eye looks a bit off. I do have sensitivity to light but I find just letting my eyes adjust and do their own thing is better than wearing sun glasses for me. I found I was wearing sun glasses more to avoid people looking at my right eye due to insecurity and also doubting my vision loss. Sadly a lot of people believe that you are blind or not and do not understand being legally blind, if you do not fall into that stereotype they will attack you. I have a white cane so that usually attracts attention to me, my husband is trained through mobility training so that I can use him instead of my white cane when going out but I still like to be independent.
We had neighbors that were nice but I noticed over the past couple months they started making comments about if my vision improved or if I was faking it because I no longer wore sunglasses. They usually hung out in our driveway so anytime I was going out this became a routine of asking me if I was really blind. They recently moved out and were not too nice about it they scratched up my husbands car. I was nothing but nice to them so we were both shocked. I even would bring their trash bins in for them to be nice. This happened with almost every person I have interacted with in this area. I am not sure if its because I am too passive and go out of my way for people.
I started doing public speaking prior to covid but that is on pause sadly now. I know it is not my job to educate people but I really can not handle constantly being questioned and attacked by this small town of people.
I am really not sure what to do as I am just trying to live my life and try my best. It's gotten to the point where I do not want to go outside anymore.
ABlindManPlays 10 points 1y ago
I doubt their intelligence.
NiceShinyEspurrs [OP] 3 points 1y ago
I use to just laugh and if someone was really being an arse hat I whack them with my cane. Now I feel like everything I am doing is under a microscope and it makes me fearful to go out.
Laser_Lens_4 2 points 1y ago
frankly, they sound like a bunch of assholes. I would take the advice of other people in this thread. Ask them if you can take their car for a test drive. Simultaneously display your confidence while reminding them that you are in fact blind. Let’s see how quickly they change their tune. it should make them feel sufficiently uncomfortable whilst doing no harm to them
NiceShinyEspurrs [OP] 2 points 1y ago
Thank you Laser Lens. It's hard to deal with makes me question myself especially seeing I am vulnerable right now with grieving. Unfortunately I am different and that is why I was not welcomed into the community.
nullatonce 1 points 1y ago
And this needs to be spoken.
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While the public speaking is on pause you can get some books on psychology or something. That might help to deal with this passive agression shit.
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Print a flyer and stick it to the somewhere to educate.
But remember - morons have short attention span. :)
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Here is some brain food:
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Keywords: dealing passive agression
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I don't want to give uneducated advice, but "I was nothing but nice " can be a problem (from my understanding).
I think J. Peterson talks about it quite often look up some lectures of his on youtube.
O just did - he does, tho don't have time to search a good one so won't post links.
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Hope this helps.
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While the public speaking is on pause you can get some books on psychology or something. That might help to deal with this passive agression shit.
​
Print a flyer and stick it to the somewhere to educate.
But remember - morons have short attention span. :)
​
Here is some brain food:
$1
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Keywords: dealing passive agression
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I don't want to give uneducated advice, but "I was nothing but nice " can be a problem (from my understanding).
I think J. Peterson talks about it quite often look up some lectures of his on youtube.
O just did - he does, tho don't have time to search a good one so won't post links.
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Hope this helps.
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Iamheno 5 points 1y ago
I offer to drive!
matt_may 2 points 1y ago
This sucks, sorry.
[deleted] 2 points 1y ago
I found that explaining my situation is best. People are ignorant and I feel that it's my job to enlighten them when it comes to my own issues and not presume they will figure it out on their own hahaha
NiceShinyEspurrs [OP] 2 points 1y ago
My problem is I have explained to them but it goes right over their head.
[deleted] 2 points 1y ago
I see, then there's not much you can do at that point other than just ignore them. Did you call the police about them scratching the car?
NiceShinyEspurrs [OP] 1 points 1y ago
No we sadly did not notice it until after it happened we would of had to been there when it happened. It sucks too because we are selling our car and buying a new one and lost $500 on it because of the scratch.
[deleted] 2 points 1y ago
I'm sorry to hear that. People can be truly disgusting.
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