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Hoping to help others to travel and don’t rule out LDRs (self.Blind)
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DrillInstructorJan 7 points 1y ago
I'll second that about travelling. I just went from London to Toronto solo and everything went smoothly. I had to do an absolutely enormous amount of planning but no problems at all.
NovemberGoat 2 points 1y ago
Was this your first time going through Toronto? I've been through there a few times and have had mixed experiences throughout my visits. My last visit in 2017 was by far my favourite. The airport was transitioning to a more modernised infrastructure, and better practices in assisting passengers who required it. Before then, it really wasn't hard to find someone with a story of an assistance nightmare at Toronto.
DrillInstructorJan 2 points 1y ago
It was my first time. There was a tiny bit of a glitch when we went out to meet my car. Basically it was just a very busy day and it was hard for the airport person to find the car, so we ended up standing out there for half an hour while the poor guy went round and round. I'm lucky that the people I'm working for booked me a car in some ways, I don't always get that, but honestly it would have been easier to just get a cab as there was a huge line of them waiting to pick people up.
The airport people were fine, though. I went with an airline person off the plane and the airport person met me at the top of the airbridge. I then went with them to immigration where we met an immigration person who just dealt with all that, pressed all the right buttons. I had to stand in the right spot to get photographed. The same person went with me to pick up baggage where I used the fact that I had put coloured webbing on my luggage to make it really easy to identify. We got that then just walked out to find the car.
I have to say part of the reason it was easy was that immigration was super, super simple and straightforward, and the same airport person stayed with me all the way through immigration, which often they don't in my experience. American immigration people are often grumpy and unhelpful but here in Canada it was fine.
The airport people were fine, though. I went with an airline person off the plane and the airport person met me at the top of the airbridge. I then went with them to immigration where we met an immigration person who just dealt with all that, pressed all the right buttons. I had to stand in the right spot to get photographed. The same person went with me to pick up baggage where I used the fact that I had put coloured webbing on my luggage to make it really easy to identify. We got that then just walked out to find the car.
I have to say part of the reason it was easy was that immigration was super, super simple and straightforward, and the same airport person stayed with me all the way through immigration, which often they don't in my experience. American immigration people are often grumpy and unhelpful but here in Canada it was fine.
boobarmor 1 points 1y ago
Hi! Sorry to reply from a post from so long so. I lost my vision suddenly two years ago, and I’m still figuring out the in s and outs. I’d like to take a trip and will have to fly alone, but I’m not sure what the process is. I’m still pretty clumsy (definitely s fall hazard) and definitely couldn’t navigate alone. Would I get a wheelchair service out if there another service offered? It should I just call and ask?
DrillInstructorJan 2 points 1y ago
Call and ask is basically the answer to all these questions. It's just planning, it's just setting things up. It sounds complicated but it's not really complicated, it's just a lot of phone calls. If you can plan making a cake you can plan flying. Just make sure you give yourself lots of extra time and always have a backup plan!
I personally won't go in wheelchairs. There's nothing wrong with my legs and I can walk. Some people do it because it's just easier, but it always makes me worry that the people who are helping out really aren't paying attention. If they just see special assistance and automatically grab a wheelchair, they are not thinking, they are not reading the notes, and they are not paying attention. Or they're incredibly dumb. All of those things are issues which will get you into trouble, so I'd watch out for it. Honestly you have to be very careful that you aren't dealing with idiots at the best of times...
I personally won't go in wheelchairs. There's nothing wrong with my legs and I can walk. Some people do it because it's just easier, but it always makes me worry that the people who are helping out really aren't paying attention. If they just see special assistance and automatically grab a wheelchair, they are not thinking, they are not reading the notes, and they are not paying attention. Or they're incredibly dumb. All of those things are issues which will get you into trouble, so I'd watch out for it. Honestly you have to be very careful that you aren't dealing with idiots at the best of times...
boobarmor 1 points 1y ago
I appreciate that. Part of me feels like a wheelchair is overkill (because you’re right—nothing wrong with my legs), but I’m also aware I’m at a high risk of falling. I’ve only been able to walk around a little bit for the past few months due to my vision constantly changing, and I don’t have any training with a white cane or anyone who can help out. I live alone with no family in this part of the country. Just nervous. Don’t really want to make this trip. I’ll definitely call though and see what they say.
Remy_C 3 points 1y ago
I did the long distance relationship for many years with several different girls. The experience while there was really great. And I used to really enjoy traveling back then. Except the Toronto airport. Nothing good ever happens in the Toronto airport for me. Or my wife now. The biggest problem was how bloody expensive it got. You can really only see each other every once in a while. Of course, back in my day all we really had was Skype and MSN messenger. Maybe it would’ve been easier now. I still think I would really miss the one on one time in person however. And I did luck out and found somebody locally. Been married now for 13 years. If things were not to work out though, I really don’t know if I could ever do the long distance relationship again. Never say never I suppose. Anyway, I’m really glad you had such a great experience. I hope it continues to be so in the future.
1BlindNinja 2 points 1y ago
Thanks and I wish you both many, many more years of love and happiness 💓
Arcane_Panacea 2 points 1y ago
Sadly, I can't get any girls whatsoever, be it short-distance or long-distance. It's something that I feel extremely depressed about. I'm now in my 30s and I've only ever had sex with one single woman. For a long time I thought other blind people, or at least other blind guys suffer from the same problem. After all, finding a girlfriend isn't easy for able-bodied men, so it seemed logical to assume that disabled guys would struggle even more. But then I saw some of the things folks write on this sub and I've realized... nope, it's actually just me. I've always thought I'm a nice and charming person but for some reason, women don't want me. Since other blind people are doing just fine, I don't know what my problem is.
Anyway, sorry for crying on your thread.
Anyway, sorry for crying on your thread.
csloth 1 points 1y ago
It is a numbers game, and perhaps somewhat a maturity game on the part of your potential matches. Keep trying. Like sales, you have to go through a lot of knows to get to you you’re yes.
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