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Full History - 2021 - 09 - 22 - ID#pt8qaz

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*RANT* how to deal with the people who have you play the guessing game like you memorize every acquaintance voice. (self.Blind)

submitted by Trick-Regret-493

Have you delt with people you know and you only see occasionally in public. Where they're like"OHHH COME ON!!! you don't remember me??!" when in all reality you do once they say their name, but sorry no Karen I don't remember your voice from last year's church picnic or other insignificant event you named a year prior. Like how should I handle that type of encounter?

modulus 13 points 1y ago

This is the 2nd, seldom acknowledged, use for the white cane.

Trick-Regret-493 [OP] 2 points 1y ago

I always have my cane...rip.

carolineecouture 9 points 1y ago

I don't play that game. "No, I don't recognize you/your voice, where do I know you from?"

Trick-Regret-493 [OP] 3 points 1y ago

That is a great response. Thank you.

macmutant 2 points 1y ago

This is what I do, too. No judgement or emotional reaction, just a polite honest response.

afraidofdust 8 points 1y ago

Ridiculously ableist for them to do that. Sighted people aren't expected to play that game and it's perfectly normal for us to see someone and vaguely recognize them but not remember their name or where we met them. It's so normal that people make memes about it.

PepperPhoenix 5 points 1y ago

As a (currently) sighted person with a very poor memory, plenty of people still make me play. It drives me crazy.

afraidofdust 4 points 1y ago

That's shitty.

spider_lord 6 points 1y ago

That happened to me once. One of my professors from school came up to me in a parking lot and was like, do you remember me? I was like, uh...who are you? Then they were like, guess. It took me a minute but I figured it out. So awkward.

Trick-Regret-493 [OP] 4 points 1y ago

Yes I just get so uncomfortable as is in I really don't appreciate people asked me to guess the m by voice. 9 x out of time I do remember them just not their voice.. I try to roll with the th0.

Davidbrcz 3 points 1y ago

Depending on your personality, you could say you don't remember people by their voice, but hitting them with your white cane might be helpful to help you remember

Trick-Regret-493 [OP] 2 points 1y ago

Sometimes I'll just say "Dad???” to get a chuckle. But it keeps happening and not sure how to deal.

QuentinJamesP89 2 points 1y ago

That's a great response

DrillInstructorJan 3 points 1y ago

Same as anyone, this is not just a blind person thing, though it certainly is easier if you can see. Anyway, don't sweat it. Shake your head ruefully, apologise, and say "Sorry. Was it at that picnic last year?" It doesn't matter what you say or even if the event you're referring to exists. It gives them the hint you have no clue who they are...

arsen_gevorgyan 2 points 1y ago

I don't really have any problems about it since I have a (almost) good memory of a computer and a strong ear of a music producer

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