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Full History - 2021 - 10 - 03 - ID#q0gx5q
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Dating Blind? (self.Blind)
submitted by Beneficial-Durian-44
Hey folks happy blind awareness month!

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I wanted to know what helped you get out into the dating world?

What kind of things did you use and are they working? Thanks in advance!
Marconius 5 points 1y ago
After I went blind, I wrote a little dating primer that I send out to people before meeting up with them for a date. Here is a link: $1

I primarily use OkCupid for dating, but know that practically all apps have accessibility issues and you may need sighted assistance to set up profiles and change preferences and parameters. Tinder works for the most part once you get the hang of it, but sucks for setting up photos and you can't change the age range or distance limits with VoiceOver. OkCupid also sucks with photo management, and the app has a slough of usability issues, but has the most gender identities and alternative relationship styles. Facebook Dating is manageable if you can deal with the fake bots that just try to catfish you out to Whatsapp. Dating here on reddit works great; I post and have met a few people from a variety of dating subreddits like /r/r4r and others.

Personally, I don't mind disclosing my blindness on my profiles. It weeds out people that would find it to be a problem, and if I match with someone, chances are good that they don't mind. Be yourself, be confident, and do your best to get offline ASAP. If you click within the first few messages, try to set up a date somewhere public that you are very comfy with getting in and out of. Have a check-in plan with a friend for safety, whether vfia a call or text set up for a certain time during the date. All in all, have fun, be comfortable with yourself, be prepared to face rejection and move on to other dates should things not work out, and also be prepared and open for the connection you are seeking!
OldManOnFire 3 points 1y ago
I loved your blind dating primer! You did an amazing job of laying out the expectations. Your writing voice is authoritative without being condescending, sprinkled with humor and humanity. Kudos and much respect!
Unlikely-Database-27 2 points 1y ago
You can change distance with vo now, not sure about age though, haven't touched that in a while, lol.
jimmyTheBlind 5 points 1y ago
It took me quite a while before I was able to get the courage up to rejoin the dating scene. Mostly, I had to become comfortable enough with myself that I wasn't self-conscious of my blindness. Once I got to a good place mentally and emotionally I was going out with friends just as I had before losing my sight. It wasn't too terribly long before I was able to start dating again. Not going to lie to you though. Dating while blind or severely visually impaired is challenging. Meeting the right person that can accept you as a whole person will take time and effort. I wish you the best of luck
[deleted] 3 points 1y ago
How do you bring it up? Is it just on your tinder profile bio or what?
jimmyTheBlind 2 points 1y ago
I’ve met all my partners off line. But I’m in the full-disclosure camp. It’s not like it’s going to remain a secret.
[deleted] 2 points 1y ago
What's your experience been like? I have an invisible disability, so it's a bit different and I have the "privilege" of being able to choose if I want to disclose it immediately and I've had some success completely fooling people for a while. So I'm curious what the dynamics will look like if I choose to fully disclose it at the beginning.
Beneficial-Durian-44 [OP] 2 points 1y ago
I hope to be as confident as you one day, thanks friend!
siwy4don 3 points 1y ago
I'm doing quite well with tinder, but don't write that you're blind in your bio. It's best to casually drop it in a conversation or do it in some humorous way.
Unlikely-Database-27 2 points 1y ago
I have it in my bio but its implied in a joke rather than straight up said. In my opinion blindness is not a problem unless you make it a problem. If its obvious that you don't really see it as a major concern and simply as part of life, you'll fair better off.
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