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question about roommates and housing accommodations (self.Blind)
submitted by ihaveafewquestions17
hello everyone! i am in a rather conflicting situation and was just hoping for some advice from people who have a better perspective than me.

i will be rooming with someone next year who is partially blind, and i was just wondering if it would be insensitive for me to bring this up. the situation is that, in my university, you can file for accommodations for certain housing amenities, etc. we all want to be able to live in a specific housing area that is in a good location and well-maintained, but it is extremely competitive and hard to get into. the only person who i know that lives there currently was able to reserve a room because her roommate filed an accommodation because she had type 1 diabetes. i want to ask my future roommate if that could apply to our situation, but i don’t want to be insensitive or imply that i’m using her or anything, so i was just wondering if you guys would feel that that would be an insensitive suggestion or if there would be a better way to word this to be more sensitive. i in no way want to make her feel like she has to do this or that i’m taking advantage of her in order to get something, but i also feel like she should be aware of the fact that she might be able to ensure that we get a room in a place we all want to live in. from any of your perspectives, would you feel like there is a good way to approach this situation with her, or would you rather that i just don’t bring it up?

i appreciate any and all advice, thanks for your help!

\*also as a side note, i won't be able to see my future roommate in person until it is likely too late for this to be an option, as we don't live in the same area and have both gone home from college for winter break, so any communications regarding this would most likely be through text, which also worries me since i can't convey tone, etc., through that as well
blind_cowboy 5 points 1y ago
If you can talk through text, you can make a phone call. That takes care of tone.

Nobody but your future room mate knows how she would feel about it. For example, my wife loves to cook, so one year I got her a new stove for Christmas. For many other women, giving an appliance as a gift is taboo.
BooksDogsMaps 1 points 1y ago
I think informing her about it is actually a good idea, but make sure you really word it as an information about an option she might have and don‘t push her for it.
moonpegasus19 1 points 1y ago
If you guys are friends then just ask. If it's in a sub-optimal place, it may be doable, but the colledge is going to want a good reason.
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