OldManOnFire 2 points 1y ago
I visualize everything. I can't imagine ever stopping.
I'm not worried about forgetting what people look like. I will, of course, that's just part of being human. But we replace the fading details with constructs from our own imaginations. We don't notice it because it happens slowly, but the more time passes the more of what we remember is actually a made up substitution for the details our minds forgot. For example, if you picture in your head a place you haven't been in awhile, really concentrate and try to picture it as it really is, then go there and observe it you'll see how much simpler your mental image is than the reality. Our brain filters out the unnecessary details so we can focus on the more important ones.
So yes, I will forget the details of my wife's smile, of my daughter's hair, of my grandson's hands. But it doesn't bother me because I know my mind will fill in the blanks in such a way that all of the love I felt when my wife smiled at me will still be conjured up when I remember. It's the old Ship of Theseus question - Here's a wooden ship. If I replace a piece of wood on the ship with a new one is it still the same ship? What if i replace more than one? What if I replace every single piece of wood on the ship, one board at a time, with an identical but new board? Is it still the same ship?
My answer is if this reconstructed mental image of my wife's smile still evokes the same warm feelings of love and happiness then it's the same smile. I don't need all the details, I just need all the love.
That's why it doesn't bother or worry me.