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Full History - 2022 - 02 - 01 - ID#sht2wi
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Do people see your disability before they see you? (self.Blind)
submitted by joannu
I'm writing a blog post for work (we're a visual impairment focused company) about the spectrum of people treating disability too extremely or choosing not to see it at all.

So for example, as someone with an invisible illness, people tend to try and normalise and neutralise how I feel, saying 'everyone feels tired sometimes' and so on. Whereas, if I were to guess, someone who used a cane or a wheelchair might have the opposite issue where people assume that their disability is very defining of their character, treating them too carefully, etc.

I'd love to hear any thoughts and experiences? I'll be referencing them in my content writing so let me know if you'd like to be anonymous or give me a name to call you.
retrolental_morose 10 points 1y ago
Oh all the time. people assume I had a child to "be my eyes", that I am only with my wife because we are both blind, that I must be so happy to have family nearby to help me. It's ridiculous.
fanofthefollowing 9 points 1y ago
Oh yeah they sure do. I'm legally blind, my left eye is turned inward and I use a white cane.

One of the worst moments I've had, I've posted before, but I'll share it here too.

My first day of college: I had to let the instructor of my first art class know about my disability and that if I needed any help I'd let her know.

Her response "So why are you here?"
the_orca_jungle 7 points 1y ago
yes all the time. there has always been the conflict of being treated like everyone else and being treated with a bit of extra attention due to my blindness.

i was very uncomfortable in middle school and high school because it was really difficult getting accommodations. went to a super small school where everyone knew everyone. i remember the morning of the ACT (standardized test for college).

i used a massive CCTV so i could see the test better and before i went in to take it, everyone was telling me things like “it’s really nice you got that technology to help you” and “you are such an inspiration because of your visual impairment” which was nice and all, but also very annoying and patronizing to some extent.
maxyield5 6 points 1y ago
As a newly blind person I've been noticing how a lot of ppl are unforgiving towards me as I'm attempting to maneuver sidewalks and stores in general. Having an invisible disability really sucks ass.
epileptic_blind_guy 5 points 1y ago
No, I have a damaged optic nerve. Others assume I see or I'm faking my blindness. If I don't have my cane out when I walk thru a crowd I'll bump into people (I'm sorry old lady!) and get some dirty stares. If I'm walking around my apartment or down a empty sidewalk I don't need the cane, I just use it to let others know I can't see them.
solidDessert 3 points 1y ago
When I try to explain I have a visual impairment, I'm usually met with something along the lines of "Oh I totally get it, I couldn't even get a driver's license without my glasses."

Maybe it's because I also wear glasses? Or I do enough "normal" stuff in the meantime that folks don't understand this impedes on a lot of things I try to do?
bradley22 3 points 1y ago
Oh definitely.
BooksDogsMaps 2 points 1y ago
Pretty sure about it, yes. I use a cane, my face is always just a few centimeters from my phone/computer screen, so I would be hard not to.😅 I feel that it takes most people a bit of time to see me past my disability and I would need to display something about me very clearly to have a chance of changing that (like walking around in T-shirts of my favourite band or something like that all the time).
What annoys me most about it is being treated according to the stereotype of the helpless blind person. For example, a guy at a concert I attended with my mother told me that it was so nice of her to take me, so I could get out of the house. I had never met the dude and he was obviously unaware that I‘ve done several international (across Europe + Canada) train and plane journeys on my own and commute to uni multiple days a week equally by myself.
gay_catgirl 2 points 1y ago
Yup, my disability is probably the first thing people notice about me because I use a white cane and usually wear an eye patch over my left eye when in public to signal to others that I can't see out of that eye. And people always assume and treat me as if I'm fully blind even though I'm only blind in one eye, and not both.
TechnicalPragmatist 1 points 1y ago
Yes! Very much so. I am totally blind so there is no hiding. I also don’t look normal because I was born with very very extremely low vision. I could see some but not a lot and limited vision ever. I remember stuff but not much to speak of. Basically almost no diffferent then born totally blind. I’ve been blind for 20 years. I look blind and that’s the not easy part. Very recognizable. All the pity is there, I almost seem like an alien from mars to them.

I’ve also been told how uncomfortable my presence have been to people and not because I said or did anything at all. Simply because I was blind. I was working with this one guy on his public channel to do this psychology type thing worked with two psychologist one in more of a private seting and one that was a public youtube one, and the public youtube one because it captured him too it was pointed out to me and commented upon how uncomfortable he was. The other guy wasn’t comfortable either I could tell by his responses.

I had told people that may not work as well as we thought it could because they used a lot of body language type clues. And I don’t use any if any it would be strange or awkward or made up. Just me moving around my own gestures when talking. I don’t gesture that much, in fact very little. Also my facial features do not change much and if they do it’s very much again a twitch or something or something unnatural.

So using that as part of a conversation doesn’t work. And the entire thing just went badly. They couldn’t find stuff so they more or less made it up by what they saw which really wasn’t anything normal. But you could tell even through translated writing that it was probably not comfortable.
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