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Someone seriously asked me to "pick that stick up, you're so loud pushing it". (self.Blind)
submitted by Bsmith0799
I was going to a lower light environment today and so brought my cane along, I don't need it in every situation so I only bring it when I'll need it. Since it was insanely bright outside, I also needed to use it upon leaving the place I'd been.
Someone stopped me as I was walking down the sidewalk and asked me this. I was using a roller ball tip.
Obviously the answer is "no" but like how the heck do you phrase this in a way thats polite and educating them on mobility aids? Asking for if I run into this problem again.
Someone stopped me as I was walking down the sidewalk and asked me this. I was using a roller ball tip.
Obviously the answer is "no" but like how the heck do you phrase this in a way thats polite and educating them on mobility aids? Asking for if I run into this problem again.
Mamamagpie 28 points 1y ago
I’m too snarky to answer this question… but I will try.
No, I need to hear when the sidewalk changes to a curb cut. That is why they put those dots on the curb cuts. It I left it up I might blindly walk out into a street.
No, I need to hear when the sidewalk changes to a curb cut. That is why they put those dots on the curb cuts. It I left it up I might blindly walk out into a street.
Bsmith0799 [OP] 18 points 1y ago
I was honestly very thrown off by that question like, I've never heard of anyone asking something like that before!
Mamamagpie 15 points 1y ago
I think the number of people who think the world should bow to their whims has increased.
Bsmith0799 [OP] 6 points 1y ago
Possibly
Adventurous-Bid-9341 4 points 1y ago
Omg my dad is totally blind and…100% snark i can see him picking it up and asking them if they’d rather he swing it around to ensure he’s safely traversing the landscape. What an ass!!!
nadmaximus 26 points 1y ago
For some reason I think it would be funny to say "....oh my god...you guys can HEAR me??!?"
letspaintthesky 19 points 1y ago
I don't know, but I was using two point touch in a mall once and my mum complained about her headache and said 'can you stop?'
People can be so entitled.
People can be so entitled.
bradley22 1 points 1y ago
I mean I can understand where she's coming from but on the other hand, you need to get around.
Lighthouse412 14 points 1y ago
WOW
I hate people.
My dad has recently started O&M classes and it's fascinating to see all the information he's started to be able to pick up just by using his cane.
I would be rather tempted to say "Sure thing, right after you close your eyes while crossing a street"
I hate people.
My dad has recently started O&M classes and it's fascinating to see all the information he's started to be able to pick up just by using his cane.
I would be rather tempted to say "Sure thing, right after you close your eyes while crossing a street"
AllHarlowsEve 14 points 1y ago
What the fuck? I'm an insanely quiet person and I would never think to tell someone their cane's too loud. Even the people who swing their cane like they're trying to use it to slice through bricks aren't that loud.
Bsmith0799 [OP] 6 points 1y ago
I was very thrown off by it for sure
bradley22 -2 points 1y ago
I'm sorry but they are lol.
ElfjeTinkerBell 12 points 1y ago
As someone who has enough vision to drive... I think the only good reaction is to lift up your cane and "accidentally" hit that person.
Use this advice at your own risk though.
Use this advice at your own risk though.
Adventurous-Bid-9341 3 points 1y ago
Yup. This. It would silence that horrible sound of cane on concrete. Good grief people can be ridiculous
SoapyRiley 10 points 1y ago
“Be glad to as soon as you become the god you think you are and restore my vision.” Homo sapiens can be so infuriating.
CosmicBunny97 10 points 1y ago
I’d tell them to fuck off
blindchickruns 7 points 1y ago
Same. Might even throw in you ablest prick.
accessaces 7 points 1y ago
I am absolutely appalled to hear this someone using a rollerball makes the least amount of noise possible I can't understand how people think that they have the right to ask people to do something different than they are already doing when they are already able-bodied and entitled I agree with everyone else tell them to mind their own fucking business and leave us alone
Adventurous-Bid-9341 3 points 1y ago
It’s like people that try to walk up and “guide” a blind person. (Sort of, both are just so rude) - my dad has had folks put their hands on him to “help” and he’ll lose it. It’s like.. he also never liked cats. They’re too quiet and suddenly you have this little fireball on you and you don’t know wtf is happening!!
RapperNev 6 points 1y ago
I would just say "mind your fucking business" and if they would've pressed, I would've explained how that was in fact not how the cane worked in a way that would be sure to humiliate them.
Idk about anyone else but if some random fool came up to me and said "pick up the cane, you're so loud pushing it" I'd be pretty pissed off. Not like I have much of a goddamn choice to live this way.
Idk about anyone else but if some random fool came up to me and said "pick up the cane, you're so loud pushing it" I'd be pretty pissed off. Not like I have much of a goddamn choice to live this way.
Riyeko 4 points 1y ago
You dont phrase it politely or nicely to educate people like this.
They'll scoff and think theyre doing things the right way and obviously youre wrong and too sensitive for any kind of criticism.
You literally look at this person and loudly proclaim that you are blind or visually impaired and then explain that youre mobility aid needs to make noise and youre not sure what a stick is, but youre pretty sure youd beat them with one if you had one.
Then you lift your head up high and walk away.
They'll scoff and think theyre doing things the right way and obviously youre wrong and too sensitive for any kind of criticism.
You literally look at this person and loudly proclaim that you are blind or visually impaired and then explain that youre mobility aid needs to make noise and youre not sure what a stick is, but youre pretty sure youd beat them with one if you had one.
Then you lift your head up high and walk away.
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Adventurous-Bid-9341 3 points 1y ago
I think that’s just how some of us are wired? We don’t want to be an ass, we want to be kind, understanding, but some situations - this one - it’s an asshat being so rude and without any kind of understanding he deserved a swift swing of the cane to his knee.
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ColdShadowKaz 3 points 1y ago
I can partly understand it but only partly. I’m bad for tripping up over potholes and things down at ground level which means i need to drag the cane. I get headaches so theres days I cant go out and use the cane. But on the other hand I’ve been told to stop using my cane by another headache user when I was heading to a nearby shop once and I had to stop were I was. I didn’t mind stopping for a few moments to get the phone call over with. What pissed me off was I was expected to keep going wile not using the cane.
BenandGracie 3 points 1y ago
That's a new one. I have had sighted folks ask questions and make strange comments over the years, but I have never have anyone say that to me.
I don’t know what I would say in that situation. The surprise alone might make me speechless.
I don’t know what I would say in that situation. The surprise alone might make me speechless.
mdizak 2 points 1y ago
\> like how the heck do you phrase this in a way thats polite You don't. You say something like, "sure, but only once you stop being an asshole which doesn't seem very likely".Treat people how you want to be treated...
Maber711 2 points 1y ago
That person is an idiot.
TechnicalPragmatist 1 points 1y ago
Just move right along.
If the person was curious I’d like to explain it to them. I enjoy education. But this person?
I also use to stand there and reason/debate/argue/explain. But I don’t do that anymore.
Do I know them? No? Will I ever see them again? Probably not? Okay I am walking away. At the expense of seeming fricking rude, obstinant, or whatever. I don’t care. And thanks I’ll make sure to tap or roll it harder. At your expense.
If the person was curious I’d like to explain it to them. I enjoy education. But this person?
I also use to stand there and reason/debate/argue/explain. But I don’t do that anymore.
Do I know them? No? Will I ever see them again? Probably not? Okay I am walking away. At the expense of seeming fricking rude, obstinant, or whatever. I don’t care. And thanks I’ll make sure to tap or roll it harder. At your expense.
JaideSL 1 points 1y ago
I'd probably ask them how would you be able to get around if you're blind/legally blind if you can not hear where you are going? See what they say... :o I'm only legally blind and I've bumped into things where I am familiar and have no cane with me. I live in a bldg and have bumped into a few things. O\_O So what can people expect. Or you could say. OH, I'm so sorry. I just couldn't hear what was around me and I'm blind/leg blind. O\_O Maybe they would think, "oh no that was so rude of me!". :O
JaideSL 2 points 1y ago
Although you should never need to apologize for using your cane. :o
MysticOnionRing 1 points 1y ago
WTF? I just don't get how someone can ask this. I'd answer with a question if the person will help me when I trip over something or a car runs me over. Oo
bradley22 1 points 1y ago
I would probably let them know that I can't do that because I need to get around, or just say no and move on.
LeakySkylight 1 points 1y ago
Lol Some people literally can't put two and two together. They don't understand why it's so important.
This sounds like the person who put the Braille above the door of a public bathroom, because that's where it would fit
Some people just need a bit more education than others. If I said something as ignorant as that person did, I would want you to explain it to me.
They may never have experienced a person with partial sight before.
This sounds like the person who put the Braille above the door of a public bathroom, because that's where it would fit
Some people just need a bit more education than others. If I said something as ignorant as that person did, I would want you to explain it to me.
They may never have experienced a person with partial sight before.
Wolfocorn20 1 points 1y ago
wow that's one i've never heard befor.
pritty rude question if you ask me.
i'd probably be the nice guy and try to explane why that just wouldn't work and if they don't wanna listen i'd just wish them a good day and move along ignoring them
pritty rude question if you ask me.
i'd probably be the nice guy and try to explane why that just wouldn't work and if they don't wanna listen i'd just wish them a good day and move along ignoring them
WorldlyLingonberry40 0 points 1y ago
THERE are people that drag the cane or tap it quite hard, as a result their technique is not effective. I'll assume that you were using your cane right, so the request would have been unreasonable.
Bsmith0799 [OP] 8 points 1y ago
No I don't swing it hard. That said, would it be appropriate to ask a wheelchair user to "stop wheeling themselves around" because the sound of the motor is annoying or a manual wheelchair has a squeaky wheel?
Would it be appropriate to ask an amputee to remove their prosthesis because it's "scaring a child" to see it?
No. So it isn't appropriate for some random lady to make comments to me about using my cane.
Would it be appropriate to ask an amputee to remove their prosthesis because it's "scaring a child" to see it?
No. So it isn't appropriate for some random lady to make comments to me about using my cane.
bradley22 0 points 1y ago
You're right but I have come across people the first person is talking about.
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