I generally forget my glasses sometimes, and i clearly cant see.
"You can see just fine without glasses"
"Stop looking at my notes"
"why are you squinting? you look stupid."
"I don't believe you can't see, I've seen you at the back working fine without glasses." *No shit sherlock, my friends let me look at their notes sometimes.*
"You work too slow, pick up the pace and look at the board." *Again, no shit I work slow - thats just me at my own pace.*
"Prove you can't see with no glasses, your dawdling and you seem fine chit chatting with your buddies" *How tf am i meant to prove that?*
Also the fact people treat me like I'm a twat with no level of self control. I don't need my hand held when I go down stairs, I don't need someone asking me if I'm ok over and over. I'm not *that* damn blind, jesus-
Pickleweede17 points1y ago
I hate it that fully sighted people think blindness is all or nothing. It makes me sooooo mad. Sorry you've experienced that OP
ravenshadow201315 points1y ago
As a visually impaired person who "gets around pretty good" I can most definatly relat . As I got older though I adopted the f%$# you stance on all the attempted bullying and shaming I don't have to do anything to ease their concerns I work at my own pace and I do my own thing, yes it was hard at first but the more practice the easier it gets
0Microwaved_Gerbils0 [OP]2 points1y ago
Certainly true.- I got bullied for braces and glasses.
The stupid part of it all is my teachers wear glasses themselves, and I apparently was too slow at working and needed to prove i couldnt see.
playwhaat3 points1y ago
My favorite is when people try to convince me that their eye sight is worse, whether it be age or that I’m wearing contacts. Trust me, mine is worse, I don’t have any way of proving it cause I’m not taking my contacts out for you to hold up your fingers and ask me how many. If the eye doctor tells me every single time “you have the worst vision out of all my patients this month!” I’m sure I’ve got ya beat 😂
0Microwaved_Gerbils0 [OP]1 points1y ago
Yoo, when they compare their eye sight....-
I don't even bother taking my glasses off for someone to show how many fingers I have and do some stupid ass "hypnosis".
Optometrists never miss ya with the cost tho lmao
PrincessDie1233 points1y ago
Ugh yes people suck. I get this all too frequently. It’s really annoying when people say “can’t you read the sign” right after I asked them for help with reading the sign.
0Microwaved_Gerbils0 [OP]3 points1y ago
It's always the "how many fingers am i holding" and "Your glasses look better on me than they do on you".
I was at my friends place and we went to get lunch, couldnt see anything on the board - the counter with a glass shelf infront and so on. I said I didn't want any food (politely) simply because I wasn't hungry and I also asked for help reading the menu - I was starving for the next couple hours.
PrincessDie1232 points1y ago
Yep. I don’t allow anyone to try on my glasses anymore because the idiots aren’t careful enough and I can’t afford another pair. But I feel the menu thing especially in low light establishments yes it’s easier on the eyes but they always seem to have a tiny wonky font and too many graphics on the page to read it.
0Microwaved_Gerbils0 [OP]2 points1y ago
It pisses everyone off with glasses when people take them.
"Can i clean your glasses?" *no thanks.*
"Why do you wear glasses?" *Just- what-*
People most of the time without glasses *NEVER* understand how expensive glasses are, how much effort people put in to making them, how easy it is to drop n scratch them, TOUCH LENSES WITH FINGERS.
I went to Specsavers for a while and they said if my glasses are damaged (to a certain degree and are my second+ pair) they can fix it for me.
My friend always gets pissed at me when I tell her "no" to cleaning x touching my glasses because they are expensive and she don't even need to touch them.
PrincessDie1232 points1y ago
Mine are extremely specialized and no one but the manufacturer will handle them, they are so heavy despite being high index that the company always has to order new materials for them AND they go spinning haywire off into the machine during the finishing phase and the machine cuts lines into them so they have to start over again from the beginning at least once every single time. Then when people find out that each pair is a minimum of $500 and getting more expensive each year they have the audacity to say “Walmart can do it cheaper” No the fuck they can’t they won’t touch me because they don’t have the expertise or equipment so please keep your grubby mitts off my face.
Laser_Lens_43 points1y ago
There is no convincing people like that. The best you can do is tell them to go fuck themselves and go on about your business
0Microwaved_Gerbils0 [OP]3 points1y ago
lmao I can get expelled from my college for that, I'm tryna get a job soon and I don't think I will if people see that I told my teachers to fuck themselves
dunktheball3 points1y ago
I am going to assume that's not adults or it would be **extra** ridiculous.
PrincessDie1233 points1y ago
Idk it’s usually adults, kids are more apt to ask questions than be pissy about it.
0Microwaved_Gerbils0 [OP]3 points1y ago
Even though kids just want to know sometimes and are usually curious, they can still be pretty rude when they are 11 - 13 because they definitely know what they're talking about and nothing they say is an "accident"
PrincessDie1232 points1y ago
Well yeah that’s true haha kids that age are pretty snooty
0Microwaved_Gerbils0 [OP]2 points1y ago
Yeah they piss me off. I'm an older cousin myself, my youngest one is a year younger than me and she looks like a 7 year old, she's arrogant and full of herself. She always wants to touch my glasses.
This is also why I just hate kids that age, they're rude. I don't expect them to suck up to me because I was that age too and I look back at it like "Bloody hell".
0Microwaved_Gerbils0 [OP]2 points1y ago
Oh yes they are adults. Literal assholes
dunktheball2 points1y ago
wow. I thought you must be in hs or something with them acting that immaturely. lol.
0Microwaved_Gerbils0 [OP]1 points1y ago
Ooo yep. lmao, I'm nearly a adult and I reported them to one of the deputy principles - shame on them, they're adults and should know better.
dunktheball2 points1y ago
oh ok, I thought you meant even older ones. Either way, it's weird for anyone to doubt people. What would even be the point of faking a vision issue? lol.
gabby_skii2 points1y ago
I know exactly how this goes. I don’t want to share my personal life on this app, but I’ll say the comments I receive from my family can be really unforgiving and harsh, like when I make an “idiot” of myself moving close to read labels or asking for help when I can’t read the scoreboard at a game. It hurts especially since you’re rightfully entitled to compassion and support rather than criticism. Don’t let anyone around you tell you what you can and can’t do, we’re all just trying to get by.
0Microwaved_Gerbils0 [OP]2 points1y ago
Totally understand not wanting to share personal life on this app - I agree with the family thing, sometimes I'm told "How blind are you? I had worse eye sight than you, can't you be more grateful?" when there are people out there who can't even see *anything* let alone my own sight being blurry and shit.
I know how personal space works, all of my family does except my dog - shes a dog for chrissakes. I try and move closer to someone in order to see what they're showing me and I feel like a dumbass for asking "can you zoom in or just pass it to me please?" and the answer I usually get is "yeah sure" (which I really appreciate) or "bruh your blind af" - if im unlucky enough, theyll ignore me. It's more my teachers than my family though, my parents and brothers know I cant see that well so they might tell me to go get glasses on or just let me look myself but they can be a bit rude and judgemental sometimes.
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I know probably make my sight sound worse than it is and i also know that there are people out there with much worse eye sight than my own, but its kinda difficult to 'be grateful' for my eye sight even though its a struggle and will obviously get worse. Besides, everyone with minor to severe vision impairment should be supported like you said.
gabby_skii2 points1y ago
I love this, this is so true.
I had an experiance not too long ago at uni where someone (im assuming innocently) joked about how much I needed to zoom in on my screen. I'm not so open about my VI, but it stuck with me for a while. I've only ever recieved comments like that from family, and to hear it from a somewhat stranger was interesting to say the least.
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But then again, this whole topic doesn't get talked about enough.
0Microwaved_Gerbils0 [OP]2 points1y ago
Oof.- Yeah I get people joking about how much I need to zoom in on things, I don't take it as a joke and it bothers me a lot. I suppose it's harder to tell if someones being sarcastic/joking on txt so it feels more personal.
gabby_skii2 points1y ago
I get that too. My friend the other day sent me a video of me reading some sort of weird communist brocher I got handed (you get offered a lot of those in my city) and omg that shit was right up to my face.
I guess the key is work towards being less ashamed of it? I know I get embarrased when it gets pointed out by others.
achromatic_032 points1y ago
I will say this was rarely an issue after high school and college... and it's about finding good people to befriend 🙂
0Microwaved_Gerbils0 [OP]3 points1y ago
You'll know you've found some good friends that understand you and are willing to help out, even if they might not be experiencing the same thing :)
bulagbandit2 points1y ago
I think the best way to eal with people like that is to be very blunt and relate it something that they might understand. I say might, since some of these people just may not care of course. I'm a visually impaired martial artist and a lot of people say similar things oh it looks like you see fine etc. I'd say, just cause I can do one thing doesn't mean I can do another. Just cause you can work fast doesn't mean I can. Some people need help, some people don't. I think saying things like that will put it into context for them.
0Microwaved_Gerbils0 [OP]2 points1y ago
Yeah, I tell people the same. Just because I can design name tags and shit, doesn't mean I should if I can't see that well. I enjoy it, so I'll do it anyway. I want help, I'll ask. If I don't, leave me alone.
I appreciate being helped but people need to get a fucking grip of themselves because they treat me like Im completely blind. I don't want and don't need to be bubble wrapped with rose petals, I can walk myself down stairs even though Im clumsy, and I can walk to the bathroom without someone holding my hand or shoving me in an elevator.
RapperNev2 points1y ago
I'll just be like "sounds like a personal issue." People got a lot of nerve.
TechnicalPragmatist1 points1y ago
Sounds interesting and horrible hahaha! Yeah, that’s interesting I am a total and have been since 8 and my vision was so bad I really didn’t have much. People spot me for blind wherever I go I have a cane but not only that but I don’t look sighted either haha!
DrillInstructorJan1 points1y ago
If it helps usus it's not even about how much you can see. I'm about as blind as it's possible to be and even so I've had people say things amazingly like that. Part of it is body language and I have basically normal body language because I could see fine until I was nineteen. Part of it is that in social situations I have sometimes worn sunglasses so as to be able to sit at a bar and have a normal conversation with people which is probably asking for trouble, but it also happens at work. I'm a musician and if I had a pound for every person who refused to believe it's possible to do what I do without sight... Anyway.
Usually ends up with them saying wow, you look so normal. I tend to take it as a compliment!
0Microwaved_Gerbils0 [OP]1 points1y ago
When people say I look better with glasses on, I generally don't know if that's a compliment or what - I don't get compliments on anything so I just don't know if people are actually serious or joking when they point something out.
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I get really paranoid about forgetting glasses / not bringing them to events / etc because people who actually know me automatically assume "she'll be fine, she can see from where she is." when I can't and I'm too quiet to say anything which results in me getting in trouble because "it's my fault" and I have a couple problems like this with a few people who obviously know I can't see.
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Today I was getting some lunch from a local restaurant and I was going take out, walked around for a bit looking at the artworks and the stores. I saw a young boy, maybe 10 years old? He's blind with sunglasses and uses a cane. - His mum and auntie were with him, helping him feel for things on his own and he managed to get around some big pots and people on his own with his mother and auntie behind him ready to help him if needed. The people outside the restaurant were cheering him on and clapping for him. I thought it was really amazing because he tried that stuff on his own and really nothing stopped him.
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