Would you go to a stand up comedian show?

My SO has low vision that is getting worse over time, IMO Practice makes perfect, you should do what you enjoy doing and just learn what you need to change to still enjoy it. If you're in the US make sure you take advantage of ADA tools like AD headsets in theaters, having ushers escort you, etc. If you're self conscious about messy eating, eat somewhere messy like a crab bake or BBQ joint. And at the end of the day someone who judges you negatively for how you interact with a world that's not built for your needs can go fuck themselves anyways.

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https://marconius.com/blog/index.php/2021/07/30/blind-dating-primer/

A concert might be fun. Or like someone said a comedy show. Popular podcasts are starting to tour again so if you have one you both like that might be fun. Depending on where you live going to the beach/pool or a park to hang out.

I remember going on a first real date after losing my vision to an art museum. They did not have audio description for it, but it was really cool to see how my cited girlfriend at the time adapted to guiding me in a place that was high traffic, and the way that she described everything to me. It was an experience, and we both learned a lot.
When it comes to things that you are uncomfortable with like the stairs in a movie theater, I would highly suggest bringing a white cane and working at it. The steps there are long, so it will be nice practice.

My local AMC and regal theaters offer audio description headsets. I haven’t run into an issue with them but there are people on here that have had the wrong headset handed to them such as the headset for hearing impaired. As a fully blind movie lover myself I find audio descriptions to be very helpful.

I don’t see anything wrong as a totally blind person with movies and dinner. I personally wouldn’t like the movie idea but that’s just me. If it’s a movie I want to see sure. But I don’t watch very much.

But blind people can do that. And the date would help you with the stairs or you can get training or both. So it’s not undoable. Movie plus meal sounds like a good date idea even for blind people you may want to make sure the movie has audio description. But yeah, if you want it that is, some movies the newer ones it’s easier especially action heavy ones. Again some people like it some don’t.


But don’t let your blindness stop you from date ideas.

You don't say how long you've been in this situation or if you're doing any training or anything, but I would say that stairs become easier the better you become at cane travel. Nobody wants to do it and nobody likes doing it, but if it lets you go to the movies, well, it's worth it. It is a problem you can solve.

And yes on the food thing, I totally get it, I end up ordering things I know I can eat with some level of grace and style as opposed to what I might actually want. Although in the long term that means I eat more caesar salads and less spaghetti which is no bad thing from the perspective of fitting into my skinny jeans.

Just wanted to chime in and say this is such a wonderful thread to see, blindness absolutely shouldn't stop you from going on dates and having an amazing time so I love to see the positive messages and ideas here.

It's also worth pointing out that sometimes you need to remember you're really the same person you used to be. Would you go on a first or second date to the movies even if you were sighted? Maybe, but most dating advice I've read advises against it. The reason? You're both focussed on the movie—you aren't interacting with one another. A comedy show is still watching/listening to entertainment but I see it as more interactive. You get a sense for what you guys find funny and there's more opportunity to talk.

Going to a restaurant and eating tidy foods...nobody orders messy food when newly dating even if you can see. Wine tasting, going danceing, going to karaoke, just going for a drink, any wacky/interesting museums or tourist attractions your town has? Anything where you can create something together, like food or art? Get in touch with a trusted friend or family member and ask what they think. Above all have fun, don't take yourself too seriously, try to laugh at your stumbles or minor misfortunes...you got this!

My "last" first date was just a simple walk and Starbucks. I bought a brand new pair of shoes just for my date, I was stupid and wore them for the first time on the date, and they completely wrecked my feet with blisters. I told my partner about this near the end of the date, or next time, can't remember, and just laughed about it. We're still together.