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Rant. (self.Blind)
submitted by bradley22
Sometimes I truly despise being blind.
It is horrible that I have to ask my grandad to put the boiler on to make the water hot to have a shower. I’m 20 fucking eight and still have to do this, god forbid he teaches me to use the damn thing.
It’s the same with the washing machine and tumble dryer, I know how to use them, but still have to ask my grandparents.
housing is so expensive here, if it wasn’t, and people took disability money, I’d leave.
The only way I can really leave is waitingfor them both to die and then get a council flat, I’m on the lease so will be moved out into a smaller place. Or I could wait for my grandma to die and then say fuck it I’m done, and then get a single room, I might end up doing that.
It is horrible that I have to ask my grandad to put the boiler on to make the water hot to have a shower. I’m 20 fucking eight and still have to do this, god forbid he teaches me to use the damn thing.
It’s the same with the washing machine and tumble dryer, I know how to use them, but still have to ask my grandparents.
housing is so expensive here, if it wasn’t, and people took disability money, I’d leave.
The only way I can really leave is waitingfor them both to die and then get a council flat, I’m on the lease so will be moved out into a smaller place. Or I could wait for my grandma to die and then say fuck it I’m done, and then get a single room, I might end up doing that.
tasareinspace 15 points 1y ago
Your grandparents need to chill the fuck out. My blind kid is half your age and has never burned the house down or whatever they're afraid of you doing, despite doing laundry every week for the past like two years. You're a capable adult and you deserve to be treated as one.
bradley22 [OP] 2 points 1y ago
Oh, I know. It’s more my grandad but yeah.
ginsenshi 3 points 1y ago
I remember your grandparents being a pain in the tail
bradley22 [OP] 2 points 1y ago
My grandad can be sometimes.
ginsenshi 3 points 1y ago
Yeah sorry about that. Hopefully you’ll gain some independence after their passing.
TechnicalPragmatist 7 points 1y ago
Can you get some independent living skills and do those things by yourself, learn to turn on the boiler somehow? Or will they not let you do it know how or not?
I’ve fought long and hard for my own independence and thus have it but have a similar situation with housing. Because I am a student and don’t have my own money I still live with my parents at 30 years old. I am quite independent in all other things and allowed to do things.
I’ve fought long and hard for my own independence and thus have it but have a similar situation with housing. Because I am a student and don’t have my own money I still live with my parents at 30 years old. I am quite independent in all other things and allowed to do things.
bradley22 [OP] 3 points 1y ago
Not really, I can at least make my bed and use the washing machine.
TechnicalPragmatist 3 points 1y ago
Is it a matter of not knowing how or not being allowed. If not knowing how getting some training I think would be awesome.
bradley22 [OP] 3 points 1y ago
Not being aloud much.
TechnicalPragmatist 3 points 1y ago
That’s sad, sorry speak up and be more outspoken about it. You may have to fight them. Like argue with them. It isn’t just and you want to and you want to learn, and they are just sheltering and coddling you.
vwlsmssng 5 points 1y ago
You talk about getting a council house one day. Does this mean that you are in the UK? Are you in contact with your local sight support charity?
bradley22 [OP] 4 points 1y ago
I'd be getting a flat but nah not really. My local charity is the RNIB and I doubt they help with housing.
vwlsmssng 5 points 1y ago
In addition to the RNIB (which tends to be national) there are many local sight support charities across the UK as well as other national charities that can offer help.
For example there is HERIB in Hull and they run supported housing at Beech Holme Court and Wilberforce Trust in York who offer supported housing and supported living.
If you need help with education or employment then the Thomas Pocklington Trust have a focus on these matters https://www.pocklington-trust.org.uk/
You might do well to have a hunt around the RNIB's SIghtline directory which helps you look for services aimed at helping blind or partially sighted people
https://www.sightlinedirectory.org.uk/
Please tell me if this helps?
For example there is HERIB in Hull and they run supported housing at Beech Holme Court and Wilberforce Trust in York who offer supported housing and supported living.
If you need help with education or employment then the Thomas Pocklington Trust have a focus on these matters https://www.pocklington-trust.org.uk/
You might do well to have a hunt around the RNIB's SIghtline directory which helps you look for services aimed at helping blind or partially sighted people
https://www.sightlinedirectory.org.uk/
Please tell me if this helps?
bradley22 [OP] 3 points 1y ago
Thanks. Honestly I don’t need this stuff right now but appreciate it.
redmarus 3 points 1y ago
One of the more insidious forms of ableism I find is that forcing of dependency and helplessness. I'm sorry you're in this situation with some semblance of housing instability on top of it.
bradley22 [OP] 2 points 1y ago
Thanks.
retrolental_morose 2 points 1y ago
I went from parents who ignored me to grandparents who smothered me. Was really odd. Never went back after college, though. If I'm on the phone to grandma and I'm using a sharp knife or even boiling water, I'll get the whole be careful thing. But then so does her son, and he's in his 50's and fully-sighted.
Hope things ease off eventually.
Hope things ease off eventually.
bradley22 [OP] 1 points 1y ago
Thanks.
retrolental_morose 2 points 1y ago
not easy, having eyes about the house who think you can't do shit. :) I'm in the midlands, DM if there's ever anything I can advise on.
In fairness, my kid, who's always lived with her blind parents, can be too much the other way sometimes. Took her a while to understand we could Seeing AI the electricity meter but not the gas, for example.
In fairness, my kid, who's always lived with her blind parents, can be too much the other way sometimes. Took her a while to understand we could Seeing AI the electricity meter but not the gas, for example.
bradley22 [OP] 1 points 1y ago
Thanks, I think you can get talking electric smart meters if that helps.
retrolental_morose 1 points 1y ago
oh, it's fine; the gas one is outside the house so they can read it themselves. we're knocking down a few walls soon, so seemed silly to replace meters just to move them again. it was just an illustrative point really. :)
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