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Full History - 2022 - 05 - 20 - ID#uu1d91

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Should I avoid talking too much about my VI on dates ? I feel like it comes up too much even in natural conversation (self.Blind)

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oldfogey12345 5 points 1y ago

I don't talk about it at all unless I am asked.

I would much rather talk about kites or rock climbing but that's just me.

You have to be more interesting than your disability to successfully date. You clearly are but you need to show it.

Ok-Communication2195 3 points 1y ago

Oh yea it just comes up when I talk about it, like for rock climbing or bouldering they would ask me how I go about seeing how to path / spotting the colours if different holds if it's indoor climbing

I suppose it's okay if they bring it up, if they are curious I shouldn't worry talking about my VI ?

DannyMTZ956 2 points 1y ago

Hi, from what you write in this comment, you are doing just fine. It's a matter of responding to their questions respectfully and demonstrating how you use alternative techniques to rock clime or do anything else.
If you do feel that every conversation is revolving blindness, read and expand your conversation material. ,

oldfogey12345 -2 points 1y ago

Usually women aren't interested in your limitations, so don't bring it up unless they do.

bradley22 5 points 1y ago

My advice would be, if the other person isn’t bothered, you shouldn’t be bothered.

Ok-Communication2195 3 points 1y ago

Well I find it hard to pick that up, they never said anything but I don't know if they would ?

bradley22 4 points 1y ago

Well, that’s on them not on you.

Achro_Matt 3 points 1y ago

I'd mention it, but not go into depth unless the other person asks to know more about it. It's not really about me, but if they see me across the room or on the street and I don't recognise them, they'd know that I am not being impolite.

TechnicalPragmatist 3 points 1y ago

Be proud of your identity.

Ok-Communication2195 1 points 1y ago

Haha thank you. I really am! It's just I don't want them to be overwhelmed

TechnicalPragmatist 1 points 1y ago

If they are that’s their problem.

gay_catgirl 3 points 1y ago

I prolly talk about my VI a lot but none of my partners seem to mind and arent at all bothered by it and still love and accept me fully and want to be with me, and one of them even proposed to me. So my point being is if someone truly likes and wants to be with you, odds are they won't mind or be bothered by your VI or you talking about it a lot and will want to be with you regardless.

EmeraldSunrise4000 2 points 1y ago

I love this!!! Are you also poly? And congrats on the proposal!

gay_catgirl 2 points 1y ago

Yeah, I'm polyam. And thanks, the proposal legit happened on christmas and is like one of my happiest memories.

EmeraldSunrise4000 2 points 1y ago

Ahhh this is so wholesome, so happy for you!!

Complex_Platform_981 2 points 1y ago

No. You are VI if they don’t like that then they don’t like who you are. Make space but take space too.

gunfart 0 points 1y ago

I always keep the mentality that I am a human being first, and do not define myself by my disability. If someone is curious, I will answer questions but I do not revolve a whole conversation about it. That sounds super conceited and nobody likes that.

If you had three arms or 12 toes, would you constantly talk about that? No, because that would get annoying very fast.

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