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Is moving to another city really worth it? (self.Blind)
submitted by r_1235
Hi, I graduated 2 years ago, with good grades and relevent subjects. Job offers were there, but, I rejected many of them since they were out of city. However, Just recently, I've recieved a very nice job offer, from a multi-national company. Ironically, their HQ is in my current city, but, they want me to move to another city 1000 KM away.
Also, when I say job offer, it will be at first, an internship of 6 months with performance evaluation and final job offer at the end of 6 months.
The company is very serious about including disabled people in their workforce, and the payment I'll be getting is very attractive for a beginner.
Now, the question is this: What do you think about moving away from your home city for an attractive job. Is it worth leaving your family and every support system behind?
For context, I've been living with my parents till now, and I haven't learnt cleaning or cooking or any more significant life skills till now. I suppose for beginning, cleaning and cooking would be managed by just sending the clothes out for laundry, and getting readymade food from some service. I can clean floors, but will have to pay someone to clean toylet, don't know how to do that yet.
I know that I can learn this all very quick if I put my time to it, but, don't think i'll be getting time to do so for at least next few months. Further, I've never lived away from my parents, accept hostel during high-school. I am worried about falling sick, getting injured, or any other medical emergencies, since there won't be anyone who would really care or help me in that case.
Traveling is not that big of a worry, because I'll be focusing on getting an apartment literally next to my office building, or at least same area. If that doesn't work out, I'll just use cab for going between home and office, yes that is afordable.
I am tempted to just reject it and wait for openings in my city, but, that seems very risky. Dispight living in a very financially strong city, I haven't seen many openings for differently abled or even normal people in this city, and never for the position and payment that I would be getting for this one.
Employment for disabled people is tough thing, and I do want to become financially independent. This opportunity seems like a once in a lifetime oppportunity, but, I don't want to just make my decision because the payment seems good.
Also, when I say job offer, it will be at first, an internship of 6 months with performance evaluation and final job offer at the end of 6 months.
The company is very serious about including disabled people in their workforce, and the payment I'll be getting is very attractive for a beginner.
Now, the question is this: What do you think about moving away from your home city for an attractive job. Is it worth leaving your family and every support system behind?
For context, I've been living with my parents till now, and I haven't learnt cleaning or cooking or any more significant life skills till now. I suppose for beginning, cleaning and cooking would be managed by just sending the clothes out for laundry, and getting readymade food from some service. I can clean floors, but will have to pay someone to clean toylet, don't know how to do that yet.
I know that I can learn this all very quick if I put my time to it, but, don't think i'll be getting time to do so for at least next few months. Further, I've never lived away from my parents, accept hostel during high-school. I am worried about falling sick, getting injured, or any other medical emergencies, since there won't be anyone who would really care or help me in that case.
Traveling is not that big of a worry, because I'll be focusing on getting an apartment literally next to my office building, or at least same area. If that doesn't work out, I'll just use cab for going between home and office, yes that is afordable.
I am tempted to just reject it and wait for openings in my city, but, that seems very risky. Dispight living in a very financially strong city, I haven't seen many openings for differently abled or even normal people in this city, and never for the position and payment that I would be getting for this one.
Employment for disabled people is tough thing, and I do want to become financially independent. This opportunity seems like a once in a lifetime oppportunity, but, I don't want to just make my decision because the payment seems good.
Amonwilde 7 points 1y ago
I say take it. It sounds like it's an opportunity not only to take a new job, but also to learn life skills that you should have, and that there's really no excuse not to develop. You can send your laundry out, fine, but you should learn to prepare meals for yourself and clean to a relatively low standard. You don't have to make the place spotless, many sighted people don't clean much, either. And if you don't take it, who knows what opportunities you'll wind up turning down in the future because you're afraid or apprehensive of living independently.
Move as early as you can before the internship. That way you can learn some routes, where to get food, and learn some new skills related to independent living while less stressed out. Preferably this would be a month or months, but circumstances will likely not allow for that.
Good luck, and congratulations.
Move as early as you can before the internship. That way you can learn some routes, where to get food, and learn some new skills related to independent living while less stressed out. Preferably this would be a month or months, but circumstances will likely not allow for that.
Good luck, and congratulations.
r_1235 [OP] 3 points 1y ago
Thank you.
I really needed to here this. Both of my parents are very worried about sending me alone, and, I am having hard time convincing them not to interfeer. I sometimes feel very surprised that my own parents have such a low confidence in me regarding this.
Strangers, teachers, friends, all say I can do it, but my parents. And it herts when they say that I can't manage it.
I really needed to here this. Both of my parents are very worried about sending me alone, and, I am having hard time convincing them not to interfeer. I sometimes feel very surprised that my own parents have such a low confidence in me regarding this.
Strangers, teachers, friends, all say I can do it, but my parents. And it herts when they say that I can't manage it.
Aggressive-Yoghurt31 2 points 1y ago
I think this is the case with many parents of blind children, I believe they are just worried more than doubting your capabilities I see this with my parents all the time they just love us too much to let us in any difficult situation, although some parents put their worries away and let you try anything you want no matter how hard it is. Just try to remember it is out of love although it might not be the best thing for you. You have to explain to them and make them understand that it is better for you to struggle a bit so you can be more independent than just sit end have everything given to you. And of course you should take this opportunity no matter where it leads you, You will meet a lot of barriers for sure but that is the beautiful thing that you will learn to overcome them. I wish you good luck no matter what you choose
Amonwilde 2 points 1y ago
The reality is, you really can do it, in all likelihood. Blind people live independently, it's not uncommon or even unusual. It'll take a lot of work and you'll be outside your comfort zone for an extended period, and you'll have ups and downs, but that's life. You can't grow without putting yourself in new situations.
So...you can do it! :)
So...you can do it! :)
[deleted] 2 points 1y ago
I am totally blind and my parents are very much this way too. Going as far as to say I can’t do it. No one else and myself included have any doubts I can do it.
SoapyRiley 3 points 1y ago
Do it! You will never regret getting out on your own and living independently, but you will likely regret not doing it sooner. Also, it’s really nice to prove it’s totally possible for you to succeed on your own to the naysayers.
[deleted] 3 points 1y ago
I think you should do it and not let any such things hold you back. It sounds like a wonderful job and a great job opportunity you will have.
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