The hardest part for me was the toddler stage when they want/need a little freedom to explore their world. You don't want to be a helicopter parent, but it's easy to lose track of them because they're tiny and quick and don't understand not to run off or can't be relied on to always come back when you call for them.
I kind of had to just hover a little more than I wanted to, but still tried to not be over-protective when doing so.
Note this was mostly an issue in public play spaces. At home, the yard was fenced and if we were doing other things like shopping, he rode in the cart or held my hand.
retrolental_morose7 points1y ago
I'm part of a totally blind couple and, as u/codeplaysleep says, the balance of freedom at the toddler stage was my first real issue also.
Nothing was really unusual at the baby stage, and even when it walked - at only 9 months - it was ok because we had a wrist-strap when out in public and it tired easily so running off was rarely on the agenda.
Our child is 11 now and off to high school soon. Keeping up with the flurry of console gaming, instant messaging and handwritten notes back-and-forth between them and their classmates is a bit of a handful sometimes. I look back and laugh at myself for worrying about teaching them colours and things, when of course the reality is that the world is suffused with them. It turned out to be far more important to teach kindness, empathy, respect for divergence without pandering to a ridiculous degree, etc.
We watch many movies and TV shows together , read books etc (I used to do the reading but have been supplanted by Kindle now), and almost every time, unless the film was a straight-up comedy or something, we pick apart the moralities, discuss motivation, dissect consequences to the characters etc. We really annoyed one of their friends who was around for a sleepover once by pausing mid-battle to plot out what would or could happen. TV in this boy's home was purely something in the background, not mind food.
We're currently working our way through Sabrina the teenage witch, which I rather enjoyed a quarter of a century ago.It's a gentle move away from some of the younger stuff whilst being entertaining, and nostalgic for me too.
If I had to pick one bit of positivity from being a blind parent, I'd say it was the vocabulary my child has. it couldn't just point and make a noise when it wanted something, so learning to express itself became important early on. Despite them not being a brilliant writer or speller, their worldly understanding, ethics, ability to perceive reasons behind others actions and hopefully grasp of consequences is quite developed for their age.
DHamlinMusic3 points1y ago
Did your kid have a fascination with the braille pips? Mine keeps trying to pick them off the board books we have for me to read to her.
retrolental_morose2 points1y ago
Nope, no interest at all. But they always found reading a chore, so perhaps that's just self-preservation!
Ancient_Ad_58092 points1y ago
I'm VI and I have four children, but my wife can see perfectly. It worries me, honestly, if something happened to her if her family would try to go for custody of my children because of my impairment. I'm a good parent, and not really restricted on how I do things with them except for public outings, but some people see being blind as you're useless. Unfortunately, those people tend to work for the government.
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DannyMTZ9562 points1y ago
It takes practice doing things. The baby will constantly be developing, so the practice turns into figuring out how I am going to do the needed task. For example, dypers were easy, it took a few mistakes before I had it on my baby, but now the challenge is trying to place a dyper on a baby that is wiggling and crawling all over the place. I stopped being consirned when my wife called me over so that I could hold my baby on his back, while she wiped and placed the dyper on him.
retrolental_morose1 points1y ago
oh it's a team sport sometimes, no doubt about that.
DHamlinMusic2 points1y ago
I have an 11 month old who has decided she runs the house, gonna need to get bells for her to track at some point :D. It's like anything else you just have to learn how to do it in a way that works best for you, also get used to stepping/tripping on toys. Not really sure I have any specific advice however.
DannyMTZ9562 points1y ago
My boy is also 11 months old. Lol! Cat bells is exactly what I was looking for yesterday.
anonymombie1 points1y ago
That tripping on toys thing is real! I've learned to drag my feet instead of picking them up, because I'm less likely to trip. I also bought my kid some wearable rattles. We have wrist rattles, and rattle socks. They help so much because once kids are on the move? They go so fast.
DHamlinMusic1 points1y ago
Yep, the shuffle walk is great, only need to worry about kicking the baby as well instead of stepping on them.
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DHamlinMusic1 points1y ago
Lol, they make baby bells, mostly for getting them to play with their feet, I know a guy who airtags his almost 3 year old.
DeeDeegc1 points1y ago
Well I'm still new to it but it seems the whole stepping on a Lego in the middle of the night is more severe as I occasionally end up stepping on or kicking larger things. Also when the kiddo wants to play with my shoes, it can be difficult to find them after.
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