I feel like "what's it really like to be married to a blind person?" is such an individual question that there's no one answer. Okay, my first, rather snarky reply is that it's exactly the same as being married to a sighted person. But that's because I don't want people to assume my husband is my caretaker, that I'm dependant on him, &c. I didn't marry my husband so that he could look after me, and am quite jealous of my independence, honestly. And it should be the same as marrying a sighted person in all the important ways: love, honesty, trust, communication, &c.

After that, it's all variable by couple. I've been mostly blind my entire life, so I already know how to do things independently, both around my house, but also out in the community. I've also already got a head start if something should happen and I lose the rest of my sight (though I'm not expecting to). Someone who goes from full sight to blindness has a whole lot to relearn in order to regain their independence. Consequently, they may rely on their spouse for different things than I do. And then there's just personal preference and personality.
Some blind people may be more comfortable doing some tasks compared to others, e.g. some who stay home, others who work. About the only constant, I suspect, is not being able to drive, but even then, some will rely on their spouse to help them get places more than others (depending on access to other transit options, how comfortable they are travelling, how willing they are to ask for help, &c.)

It's interesting to hear your experiences as a couple, but it's important to remember that isn't a reflection on the experiences of all blind/sighted couples, by any stretch. While I don't think you are claiming that it is, your title does kind of imply that, hence my initial, somewhat snarky answer to that question. There's already people who assume blind people can't feel sexual attraction because they can't see, or that we are effectively helpless and need to be coddled. I don't want marrying a blind person to be seen as weird or awkward, or different, as I don't want people to be put off from relationships because oops, someone's eyes don't work the same. Eh, maybe I've just been dealing with too many sighted assumptions recently. XD

Thanks for sharing your experience.

I think it varies so much from couple to couple. In my situation I (the blind one) work full time from home. My husband doesn't work for a variety of reasons and does the majority of the household chores, not because of my vision loss, but because that feels like a fair division of labor. When our son was younger and I was taking a few years off while he was working, that was reversed and I was the one doing most of the household stuff.

Obviously, any time we go anywhere, he's driving, which means he's either accompanying me or dropping me off. If he drops me off that doubles the amount of driving that needs to happen since he then has to come pick me up later, so that usually only happens for things that are going to take a while. A quick run to the store or something, we're going together. We don't have any public transportation or Uber/Lyft/taxis here.

We have some shared hobbies and he sometimes has to help me out with things I can't see related to those hobbies, but we're doing them together anyway, so it's cool. They were his hobbies before they were mine. We have a lot of fun together.

I agree it’s not universal.

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