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am i being harassed? (self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by iindiieecindiee
i am a fairly new shift (about 2 months) it is going great ive picked up the shift procedures quite fast and for the most part i love being a shift so far. however there is one big problem that keeps occurring and its getting to the point where i might have to leave stores.
i have a partner who makes it very known that she does not respect me, my decisions as a shift, tells lies about me to other partners, and is constantly challenging me in front of others. This lovely interaction has been going on way before i got promoted but once i got my promotion she has got more disrespectful. i am the main closer for my store as well as her and for the most part ive been taking the high road by letting her talk crap about me to other partners ( i have partners tell me how she is talking about me) she also speaks Spanish so not only does she talk about me behind my back she does it to my face in Spanish when she knows i dont understand it.
last night after close i had a partner reach out to me after work to tell me that she has noticed all the things this particular partner has been doing to me and says i need to tell my SM because this is straight up harassment. i told her that at this point its to late she has already turned the store into thinking im this monster who yells at partners(not true) and is unprofessional. i have my sit down with my SM and her today and im not sure what to say. i know so much stuff about this particular partner about her drinking in the store, coming to work high, smoking in our parking lot and i still chose to not tell my SM because i feel like its stooping to her level.
do i tell my SM about all the things she has been doing? or is it too late ? my partner who reached out to me said i should transfer because my mental health is more important than the stupid drama that is happening, while she is right i told her its way to hard for me to leave, i feel like if i do then im letting my other partners down and im letting this girl who is bullying me win. i dont know what to do at this point and im afraid my SM is just going to agree with this horrible partner and im going to look crazy as well as make the situation at work worse for myself.
if anyone has thought please help me.
Edit: I know some of you wanted to know the updated on what happened between my partner and I. I did approach my SM about the drinking that was going on inside the store with other partners...I have to write a statement regarding what I seen. I know I did the right thing but I’m scared I’m going to get fired or end up bullied even more.
i have a partner who makes it very known that she does not respect me, my decisions as a shift, tells lies about me to other partners, and is constantly challenging me in front of others. This lovely interaction has been going on way before i got promoted but once i got my promotion she has got more disrespectful. i am the main closer for my store as well as her and for the most part ive been taking the high road by letting her talk crap about me to other partners ( i have partners tell me how she is talking about me) she also speaks Spanish so not only does she talk about me behind my back she does it to my face in Spanish when she knows i dont understand it.
last night after close i had a partner reach out to me after work to tell me that she has noticed all the things this particular partner has been doing to me and says i need to tell my SM because this is straight up harassment. i told her that at this point its to late she has already turned the store into thinking im this monster who yells at partners(not true) and is unprofessional. i have my sit down with my SM and her today and im not sure what to say. i know so much stuff about this particular partner about her drinking in the store, coming to work high, smoking in our parking lot and i still chose to not tell my SM because i feel like its stooping to her level.
do i tell my SM about all the things she has been doing? or is it too late ? my partner who reached out to me said i should transfer because my mental health is more important than the stupid drama that is happening, while she is right i told her its way to hard for me to leave, i feel like if i do then im letting my other partners down and im letting this girl who is bullying me win. i dont know what to do at this point and im afraid my SM is just going to agree with this horrible partner and im going to look crazy as well as make the situation at work worse for myself.
if anyone has thought please help me.
Edit: I know some of you wanted to know the updated on what happened between my partner and I. I did approach my SM about the drinking that was going on inside the store with other partners...I have to write a statement regarding what I seen. I know I did the right thing but I’m scared I’m going to get fired or end up bullied even more.
kranonie 31 points 4y ago
Be honest but don’t make it look like you’re trying to bad mouth her. Stick to the facts, don’t mention your assumptions (even if you’re positive she comes to work high).
The goal should be to identify and address the issues/your concerns and come up with a possible solution to avoid further conflict.
Edit to add: this absolutely needs to be addressed with your boss and it should also be a documented incident if it’s as bad as it seems from your post. I’m sorry this is happening to you! Good luck.
The goal should be to identify and address the issues/your concerns and come up with a possible solution to avoid further conflict.
Edit to add: this absolutely needs to be addressed with your boss and it should also be a documented incident if it’s as bad as it seems from your post. I’m sorry this is happening to you! Good luck.
iindiieecindiee [OP] 7 points 4y ago
youre right sticking to facts will be my best option. she def has anger problems so the calm i seem the more anger she will get(which is not what i want but i just want my manger to see how she is towards me). i just want this to be over with im tired of being bullied and harassed for just doing my job. shes making me feel like im going crazy.
thank you for your advice.
thank you for your advice.
tsumatrae 13 points 4y ago
When you talk to your SM, please make sure that you remember specific times and dates regarding what she’s been doing to you.
I recently had a similar situation between myself and another shift supervisor, and I did the same thing - I tried to take the high road, let them talk about me to partners, etc - for a YEAR. It all bubbled over to the point where I walked out on a shift we had together and told my SM that it needs to stop or I’m gone. My SM seemed dumbfounded because I had talked to them about this other shifts behavior previously but because I didn’t speak up more and because I never gave documented incidents, SM thought everything was ok.
Shift and I get along fine at work now after a mediation - work is exclusively what we talk about and things seem more respectful even though we don’t get along as people.
Disrupting the 3rd place *is* a fireable offense - including disrupting that third place for other partners. It seems that this shift is creating a hostile and unwelcoming environment for you and your team, and she can be written up for that. The most important things you need to do are document, document, document. There is a process to this, but your SM & DM can’t do anything about it unless there are statements, facts, and documentation about the harassment happening. When you speak to your SM, try to be as unemotional as possible and just state facts.
Here for you, friend! If you need anything, you can always DM me for more help. Good luck!
ETA: if you know she’s drunk or high at work, even if she is another shift supervisor - *send her HOME.* It sucks to be understaffed but that is *NOT* tolerated. Send her home, call your SM about it, *document*.
I recently had a similar situation between myself and another shift supervisor, and I did the same thing - I tried to take the high road, let them talk about me to partners, etc - for a YEAR. It all bubbled over to the point where I walked out on a shift we had together and told my SM that it needs to stop or I’m gone. My SM seemed dumbfounded because I had talked to them about this other shifts behavior previously but because I didn’t speak up more and because I never gave documented incidents, SM thought everything was ok.
Shift and I get along fine at work now after a mediation - work is exclusively what we talk about and things seem more respectful even though we don’t get along as people.
Disrupting the 3rd place *is* a fireable offense - including disrupting that third place for other partners. It seems that this shift is creating a hostile and unwelcoming environment for you and your team, and she can be written up for that. The most important things you need to do are document, document, document. There is a process to this, but your SM & DM can’t do anything about it unless there are statements, facts, and documentation about the harassment happening. When you speak to your SM, try to be as unemotional as possible and just state facts.
Here for you, friend! If you need anything, you can always DM me for more help. Good luck!
ETA: if you know she’s drunk or high at work, even if she is another shift supervisor - *send her HOME.* It sucks to be understaffed but that is *NOT* tolerated. Send her home, call your SM about it, *document*.
kanodls 12 points 4y ago
Send her home lol
ejbailey1995 9 points 4y ago
I’m sorry (and I know I’m gonna get downvoted for this but whatever) but you should have written her up the SECOND you found out she was drinking/coming to work high. That’s your responsibility as a shift. It’s not stooping to her level, it’s doing your job. Yes, you should be talking to your SM about this. Bring *everything* up.
spromari 2 points 4y ago
your partner who reached out to you is right, that sounds super disrespectful
cfuqua 1 points 4y ago
> and i still chose to not tell my SM
stopped reading here.
did you expect them to read your mind?
stopped reading here.
did you expect them to read your mind?
ohthatjoe 1 points 4y ago
As a shift, your SM should be your best friend. They'll have your back 100%. If not, go to your DM. Don't think of this as being a snitch or stooping to their level. You've got a coworker blatantly disrespecting you AND is doing other nefarious things. Starbucks is big on making each store the "3rd place" for customers but that doesn't exclude us employees. They'll crack down on this person. You'll be alright
LaurdAlmighty 1 points 4y ago
You are being harassed and she has no right to treat you that way, she sounds jealous of you and like she feels like she should have your job but knows she's not up to parr and shit talks you about it or something. Please talk to your SM about it and be specific, don't bad mouth but be specific on what she's doing. I've had coworkers act the same way, thankfully one of them left.
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If we're being real we work at starbucks, a fast food coffee store, not to talk down on any of us nor would it be acceptable at any other job, but she needs to chill the fuck out we're ALL Baristas. We all clean the fucking toilets at work and get yelled at by customers, literally all of us have had the same experiences there. She is no better than you or anyone else there. If the problem persist I would tell the DM. Shit I'd even show the security tapes.
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If we're being real we work at starbucks, a fast food coffee store, not to talk down on any of us nor would it be acceptable at any other job, but she needs to chill the fuck out we're ALL Baristas. We all clean the fucking toilets at work and get yelled at by customers, literally all of us have had the same experiences there. She is no better than you or anyone else there. If the problem persist I would tell the DM. Shit I'd even show the security tapes.
loveualatte 1 points 4y ago
I'd definitely like an update on how your conversation with your sm goes. Going through a similar situation of mean girl attitude.
NOTcreative- 1 points 4y ago
This sucks. You have a toxic barista and there’s no place for that in any store. Hopefully the other partners in the store aren’t influenced by what she says and only by their interactions with you. The sit down with both of you and the SM is time to address the direct interactions between you two. If you have other concerns about the partner I would have a one on one with the SM to bring it up. Hopefully your manager is good at handling this because that partner needs to go, but there are procedures in place. If you have to request a transfer do it. Good luck.
EliHyung 1 points 4y ago
She can get wrote up for deformation if she doesn’t stop
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