Do you feel like she’s doing it on purpose or is it an honest mistake?

If it’s on purpose, I would firmly say, “I’ve expressed my preferred pronouns and at this point if you continue to disregard my request, I will report it to PRC because your behavior is contributing to a hostile work environment.”

If you think it’s just carelessness or accidental, I would pull her aside and explain how awful it feels to be misgendered and see if you two can work out a way for her to remember and maybe a cue you can give her when she forgets. Like my child, who prefers they/them, will sometimes say, “I’m sorry, what? Try again.” when I slip. I’ve gotten pretty good but sometimes will still say “daughter” on accident, mostly when talking to people outside our family.

if you're transferring (instead of quitting), get these pronoun pins! these are dress code approved so no one can tell you to remove it. https://twitter.com/StarbucksPride/status/1055135350790615041?s=19

also honestly, if it's on purpose, i would be snotty about it. you deserve to have your gender respected.

I had a coworker who expressed what they’re preferred pronouns were, and it was hard to mentally make that transition just for the simple fact I met them as she/her and not he/him. But now I don’t skip a beat when talking to him or referring to him in conversation with different coworkers. It might just kind of take a bit to get it down and in habit of using the pronouns you prefer.

I'm sorry to hear that. I would try talking to a shift lead that you trust about it. Maybe they can talk to your manager about it for you. Express how you feel to that shift lead to get your voice heard to your manager.

I have a big pin on my apron with my pronouns on it. If you want, the Coffeegear store even has pronoun pins for he/him, she/her, and they/them. It’s a nonconfrontational way I use to inform people of my pronouns and if they’re looking at me, they have to look at this big reminder of my pronouns too.

I am an invested long term partner completely out (not where I wanna be, but not hiding who I am) as trans masculine nonbinary. I use they them pronouns, I prefer he him pronouns. It sounds to me like your boss isn’t doing this unknowingly and I have been there before been through that fight and it hurts. But at my own insistence I am doing it. Just being queer and getting those benefits is such a miracle. At least your SM is violating your rights. I don’t know about the law but are you familiar with the hub? They are making somewhere between a half assed and a solid effort for us and there is training for store managers to do there is pronoun training videos on Starbucks not super in depth but it’s there you know it’s a value in writing with videos and advocates and when you work in a shitty store it’s so easy to forget the opportunities Starbucks affords you. As someone who struggles every day with the “ma’am” or even “little miss” gut punches. I have developed a huuuuuge arsenal that I would get nowhere else in my life. “I am not a woman or a female at all.” If I’m too stunned to speak, I look at the really insistent or painful misgenderers with scorn or disgust I pause for a moment take a moment of silence for how they hurt me and then i treat them like they are 5 until they go away. Your manager is not the source of that pain you feel. That pain follows, people are like that everywhere. There is not person you have to fold under. Don’t smile at people who misgender you. Don’t afford them your empathy. When a cisgendered person is misgendered they do not hesitate. I’m not a girl I’m a boy. Well I am not a boy is enough if that’s your deal, or I am not a girl. Because if a cisgendered person can scorn someone for getting it wrong so can we. That person is consistently misgendering you because they are full of despicable traits so don’t go wanting their approval and don’t let them chase you away. I’m here for you. Use this opportunity to find your power.