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Full History - 2019 - 08 - 30 - ID#cxqkhk
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Need opinions on how to deal with a fellow partner’s rudeness. (self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by CalDoesMaths
Okay, so I’ve been working at Starbucks for a good while now, and there is another partner that works with me who got hired I want to say a month after me. So to give some contexts to my problem:

This partner and I got in one scuffle like 6 months ago because they felt I was being rude to them when essentially I told them “no” when they asked me to skip a bunch of other drinks to make theirs first. In that encounter, I had a talk with a shift and eventually my a about my attitude (even though I think I was justified) and that’s done. However, ever since the partner has been rude to me. Sometimes they ignore me entirely when I talk to them, sometimes they snap at me, or roll their eyes, or just make rude comments about me or my actions, or just are overly sarcastic in a rude tone, and overall they’re just kinda mean. I’ve been putting up with it for a while, and I’m just kinda sick of it at this point. I love my job so much, but this partner makes me dislike coming to work. I see their name on the schedule and I think “ugh”, when it should be like how I am with almost all my other partners like “yay I’m closing with [name]”

My concern is this tough: I’ve heard that they accepted another (part time) job, and I don’t know for sure. But if they have, and they’re is a chance they might leave, should I really bring it up.

I want to talk to someone (probably my Sm, since they are the only higher up I know and trust) but I don’t want to start unnecessary drama. I don’t like it, and neither does my Sm. I’m normally a quiet problem, and confrontation like this that involves me sorta scares me.

I know if it was someone else, I’d give objective advice, but I can’t really do it for myself. What do you all think?
mcr0414 6 points 3y ago
Okay maybe unpopular opinion but I have honestly dealt with this before and have heard this same scenario a million times. I’m a 6 almost 7 year partner. Whenever someone bugs you, I ignore it. Honestly the turn over rate and how things change it’s astonishing. I tell people not too over think it because it won’t be forever. ( unless it’s like something super serious like bullying or sexual harassment or anything bigger happens please contact sm right away and pcc) anyways I’m telling you, and you might not believe me but I can’t not explain to you how many times I say this that in 2-3 months everything will change. I have worked 3 stores and I do love all my partners I have had but you can’t get along perfectly with everyone! You are going to meet people in life who don’t like you and vice versa. I can not explain to you how in a month or two you will not be worried about this anymore. Keep us posted! I hope nothing escalates but remember it’s Starbucks! You got this! Don’t let it get to you, she seems like she is just making herself look bad if she doesn’t even respond to you. This isn’t high school. You got this! Feel free to pm if you need any more guidance or have any questions! :)
Dir7y_dan 4 points 3y ago
If they’ve accepted another job it doesn’t necessarily mean they’ll leave or work less often. I myself do 35 hours and then about 20 hours at another job. I feel like you can either try to clear the air with them or you just have to put up with it. You could also try being overtly nice. Hard to be shitty toward someone nice. Not that you aren’t nice of course! I feel if you bring this up to management there’s not really anything they’d do/could do about it other than perhaps mediate.
manjari825 3 points 3y ago
I think the most reliable and mature thing is to first talk it out. To be professional just talk to the partner.

"hey i wanted to address how we interact with each other in our work environment. i am sorry for being rude to you a while back. i used my best judgment and making customers drinks who were in line first was what i chose to do. i'm sorry that upset you; hopefully we can put that in the past and make peace so that we can be productive and happier at work. i feel like we arent really at our maximum potential bc of this whole incident so i hope we can forgive each other and make things vetter"

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something like that. if they continue then go to the SM
emmmmmmmmmmmmmmie 2 points 3y ago
I’d bring it up to your SM. They can talk to the partner or help you talk to them, maybe? If you’re uncomfortable at work, that’s an issue. I’m so sorry they’re being that way!
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