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Starbucks Baristas: The daily grind

Full History - 2019 - 12 - 23 - ID#eeutyf
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Dealing with Aggressive Customer? (self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by Ani-Ate
Hi this is my first post here. I’m on my fourth week of being a barista and I really enjoy it for the most part but one customer in particular is making me dread going into work. I’m used to rude customers both at Starbucks and at my old job but it’s something else when someone just hurls insults at you and calls you stupid and laughs at how stupid you are every time they come in. My coworkers tell me I’m doing well at my job so far and I feel like I am too but I know I need to work on being less slow and it’s my slowness that upsets this lady. She orders very complicated drinks each time and I’m able to put her order in correctly but it’s not fast enough for her and I don’t always put everything in the order she says but it’s still what she wants. For example, last time she came in she ordered a tall latte with nonfat milk and several pumps of cinnamon dolce and peppermint and sugar free vanilla so I put it in but it wasn’t quite fast enough for her liking or in the exact order she said so she went off “OMG YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT YOU’RE DOING! HOW DO YOU NOT KNOW HOW TO DO YOUR JOB?! THIS IS SO STUPID I WANT SOMEONE ELSE” then she just continued hurling insults at me which i mostly tuned out as I put her order through. It sounds stupid but I usually come close to crying every time after she comes in. I’m not very good at standing up for myself. I know I’m really incompetent and I know it’s my fault she’s mad. Last time she came in my supervisor caught wind of what she was saying to me and said something about talking to her (apparently she’s aggressive towards everyone but I’m the first one she’s called stupid) but I feel like that will just make her more angry. I don’t know if I’m cut out for this job if I keep getting upset over one person but I still want to keep my job. I don’t know what to do.
KeatsBrightStar1821 12 points 3y ago
I am so sorry you are dealing with this person. When this woman comes in next time, try asking one of your more experienced partners to take her order. If she does this to everyone then it would appear that because you're the newest you're her punching bag. Also, if I'm not mistaken, you also have the right to refuse to serve her all together, and simply switch with another partner. It is unacceptable that you, especially as a green bean, should have to take her constant abuse. She is obviously a miserable person whose life seems to revolve around torturing others. You are doing every right and you are NOT stupid or slow or whatever she tells you. She is simply a miserable and toxic goblin who preys on the innocent. Don't let her get you down. Keep learning and thriving. Also, try laughing. When she comes in, just laugh. If goblin woman is angry no matter what you do, the best revenge is to show her that she isn't affecting you. Merry Christmas!
Ani-Ate [OP] 3 points 3y ago
Thank you for the advice. I definitely just want to avoid taking her order if I can until I get a bit quicker at register. Hopefully now that my coworkers know about the situation they’ll understand why I don’t want to deal with her. Besides at this point I think just seeing me infuriates her. Merry Christmas to you too!
starfishgobam 3 points 3y ago
Ooooooo man, my store has a similar regular customer. She gets the same drink everyday but it’s made in a very specific way and she only lets some people make her drink because they “know how”. My very first day of not having my trainer she came in and I took her order, just because I asked her to repeat herself she insisted another one of my coworkers take her order. Now I’ve been a partner for almost 6 months and her attitude to me has only recently gotten better and now she lets me be one of the “chosen few” that takes her order. Funny thing is she was banned at another Starbucks nearby because of a racially offensive comment she made. For your situation I would say push all your aggression into the kindness of your words. Tell this stupid a hole how much you love her sweater, ask her how her day is going. If she says something like “less talk and more work” tell this nasty creature “oh but I love talking to you”, I need you to weird this unholy creature out, give her extra wide smiles, tell her to have a god blessed day. If she has a usual drink make it the minute she steps into the door. Hell, casually call out to her while she’s on line, “Hey (insert name) what’ll it be today honey”. If all else fails and she truly is a heartless spawn of satan, pass her drink on to another coworker to make. I also strongly suggest talking to your manager, if anything it would simply alert them of the situation if anything were to escalate in the future.
Ani-Ate [OP] 2 points 3y ago
Oh wow that racist lady sounds awful but she definitely sounds a bit like the woman I’m dealing with haha. Thank you for the advice I’ll try being kinder to her if I can I mean I always show her the same general kindness I give every customer but she doesn’t receive it or return it even a little bit ever. Never even responds to hello and just goes straight to putting in her order super fast. Once she starts insulting me my brain kind of shuts down and I can’t think of anything to say back. Hopefully my manager will or has already caught wind of what’s going on but I definitely would just rather not deal with her.
Zskkkkrapt 3 points 3y ago
Have you told your store manager about it? If so, and they’ve not done anything, get the other partners to tell your SM as well. If you’re all telling your SM how awful this customer is, your SM can’t sit by and let it happen.
Ani-Ate [OP] 3 points 3y ago
I have not told my SM yet but my shift supervisor at the time seems to be taking the situation pretty seriously so he might run it by her instead. If nothing happens then I might inform her. My manager is very easygoing so approaching her isn’t difficult at all but I don’t want to bother her too much with this being such a busy season
qctheqc 2 points 3y ago
Hopefully she'll go away. I had a lady when I was new that just gave me that sinking feeling in my gut when I saw her but I countered her ugliness with kindness (albeit fake, it was all I could muster) anyways, she stopped coming in and I hadn't thought about her until I read your post.
Also, give her decaf she deserves decaf!
Ani-Ate [OP] 2 points 3y ago
Haha I’m glad I’m not the only one who deals with customers like that. thank you I hope she goes away too she seems to come by every other week. No specific days she just waits awhile before coming in each time. A part of me hopes that since she’s so easily frustrated she’ll give up on having other people make her coffee since obviously nobody can meet her high standards besides her.
crowbarboobie 1 points 3y ago
tbc, this is not your fault!! youre learning. everyone needs time to learn. its her fault for getting so upset and taking it out on you
Ani-Ate [OP] 2 points 3y ago
Thank you. I’ve still got a long way to go but I’m trying my best.
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