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Condensing shift, partners. What do I do? (self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by Adelaide101
Hey. So I'm a partner whose experiencing issues with my store team, specifically one shift and two partners. It's a street I just stated at a month ago. The shift has that nice nasty attitude. He'll flash a "Hi there" with a rehearsed smile yet is always patronizing to I. For instance, I'll be told to do something random, not know how to do it (my roles changed recently) then he'll say "how do you not know? You're supposed to. Every (insert shift slot) knows?" Yet I come to find these things to not be expected of my role later on.
Remarks like "you don't know that drink gets ____" "oh I just forgot for a second" in condescending tone," but you were just reading the card?" "Yeah a second ago hence why I said I just forgot" "then you should bring the card with you then". Tell me you gys have met brats like this?
Like duh I know...it's all small microagressions and it happens all the time! I mean because I'm small because I'm Chinese so maybe he takes me as an easy target?
I'll mishear what he says, and he'll go on to imply I'm avoiding clarifications. I'll explain I literally thought he said something else but he'll continue. It's weird because I love to learn and I take it well but rather than talking respectfully it's as if he's painting me as stupid half the time and it's getting on my nerves. Assuming I'm getting ahead of myself when I'm not (I sequence like a baby) or giving condescending explanations of basic statements ("was ____ done" "oh I'm not sure. I'm just doing this" " yeah that's what I meant when I said ____ " "oh. You didn't say (specifics) so I thought you meant otherwise" then in a patronizing voice "no. I meant that. That's what ___ is").
Another shift literally just gets annoyed when I make a mistake as if it's the end of the world. All sighs and "could you just do _____ please?"
It's microagressions like these that get on my nerves really. I try my best to speak respectfully to everyone on the daily when I'm there yet they don't give me the same respect. It seems they just don't like me for whatever reason. I haven't complained since the manager and this shift are super close. They're like bros and chat all day. If I complain I'm afraid all the partners and whatnot will literally hate me....
Ugh....what do I do. I literally just moved to Minnesota recently and love the people. I hate that this location sucks. Help please?
Remarks like "you don't know that drink gets ____" "oh I just forgot for a second" in condescending tone," but you were just reading the card?" "Yeah a second ago hence why I said I just forgot" "then you should bring the card with you then". Tell me you gys have met brats like this?
Like duh I know...it's all small microagressions and it happens all the time! I mean because I'm small because I'm Chinese so maybe he takes me as an easy target?
I'll mishear what he says, and he'll go on to imply I'm avoiding clarifications. I'll explain I literally thought he said something else but he'll continue. It's weird because I love to learn and I take it well but rather than talking respectfully it's as if he's painting me as stupid half the time and it's getting on my nerves. Assuming I'm getting ahead of myself when I'm not (I sequence like a baby) or giving condescending explanations of basic statements ("was ____ done" "oh I'm not sure. I'm just doing this" " yeah that's what I meant when I said ____ " "oh. You didn't say (specifics) so I thought you meant otherwise" then in a patronizing voice "no. I meant that. That's what ___ is").
Another shift literally just gets annoyed when I make a mistake as if it's the end of the world. All sighs and "could you just do _____ please?"
It's microagressions like these that get on my nerves really. I try my best to speak respectfully to everyone on the daily when I'm there yet they don't give me the same respect. It seems they just don't like me for whatever reason. I haven't complained since the manager and this shift are super close. They're like bros and chat all day. If I complain I'm afraid all the partners and whatnot will literally hate me....
Ugh....what do I do. I literally just moved to Minnesota recently and love the people. I hate that this location sucks. Help please?
lilBalzac 2 points 3y ago
Mean people suck.
sircandleahcim 1 points 3y ago
Ignore them (?) At the end of the day this is just a job. Sure we are "partners", but we are not friends and please don't let them affect you outside of work. When I started working at my store I made the mistake of thinking that my partners were going to be my friends. Reality turned out to be different, and yes getting along with each other does make the job easier, but we have to accept that we're just simply not going to like everyone or be liked by everyone. Don't let them get to you! Once you take off that apron and clock out you shouldn't be worrying about work. This job is already too emotionally taxing. Don't be afraid to ignore them. It's not your job to make connections with partners we are here to make connections with customers. I really hope things get better, but honestly some people are just shitty and will always be.
Adelaide101 [OP] 1 points 3y ago
Yup. I didn't expect friends from the beginning but human respect has always been a norm. Seems it isn't for them. Strange location really. Didn't think people could shame someone for learning and not knowing until now. Thanks for the reply! It's fun out here in Minnesota so I have other things to do😊
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