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Full History - 2020 - 03 - 23 - ID#fnkv5c
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How do you feel about a customer giving you their number? (self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by juul_pod
Hola,

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Theres this really pretty barista who works at the coffee shop I frequent, I'd really like to ask her on a date, but I've heard you shouldn't ask a girl while she's working. The only thing is; I ONLY see her at work, and I just absolutely need to ask this girl on a date. I've held back for weeks now trying to figure out what to say... but my thinking is this, the worst that can happen is she says no right? Then I go to another shop for a little bit before coming back so its not awkward.

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As baristas, how would you feel about the situation? Please keep our ages in mind, Im 20, and she's in college (we've chatted very briefly.) Also, I don't plan on asking her because 'she's nice to me,' if she went to my school or something I would 100% ask her.

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So, how would you feel/respond if a guy offered you their number?
PTOKEN 8 points 3y ago
I personally don’t see a problem with it as long as you’re respectful. If she turns you down, leave it there and don’t make it awkward. Maybe you could slip her a note with your number and a cute message on it while giving her the money or a tip? My wife had multiple men give their number and ask for hers and she was never too weirded out by it. As long as you respect her answer and don’t pester her for a date, asking her out wouldn’t be too bad in my eyes.
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juul_pod [OP] 1 points 3y ago
Thank you so so much!! You know, I was contemplating a note but I think that would be cheesy, and it would make me appear as coy.


I really appreciate this comment, seriously :). Of course id respect her answer, what am i going to do throw a fit? lol.

Im worried about making her feel awkward, so actually maybe a note is perfect!
PTOKEN 2 points 3y ago
You’d be surprised how many people lack social awareness when it comes to throwing fits in public. But my wife received three notes that were all well drawn pictures with the guys number sprinkled in there. The last one was a nice drawing of her. He eventually stopped but they were nice notes. I don’t know if I’d go that far but maybe a cute note with your name and number would send the right message.
juul_pod [OP] 2 points 3y ago
LMAOOO well im definently not drawing a pic of her xD. I'm thinking I'll just write my name, my number, and "Hi *her name*, Lets get coffee? <3"
PTOKEN 3 points 3y ago
Boom. That’s perfect. Wait a week or so and if you don’t hear anything back, you could ask her about the note, and be on your way from there. Just don’t be pushy about an answer, ya know?
mamastrawb 6 points 3y ago
You've chatted "very briefly" but you "just _need_ " to ask her out? Leave her alone man. I'm sure she's very pretty, but you do not know her. Let her do her job in peace.
CuriousPersonGuy 2 points 3y ago
His name is juul_pod... first red flag. He posted that he’s going to lead America and drop an atom bomb on China because they deserve it. And also how he’s too shy to talk to girls lol. That poor barista... really hope he doesn’t harass her.
juul_pod [OP] 1 points 3y ago
Yes. I NEED to ask her out. IDC if its weird, but I just have to. It's been on my mind for weeks, and at this point I'd rather have a no then to go in everyday not sure if I should ask her or not.
lindsayafton 4 points 3y ago
i went back and did some reading on the posts on your profile, actually, and you sound like a desperate incel. the women in your life don’t owe you anything, and this barista doesn’t either (besides maybe your coffee when you pay) you seem to have egotistical issues and she does not need to have them projected onto her life. give her your phone number on a piece of paper, if she doesn’t text you, then don’t bother her again.
juul_pod [OP] 0 points 3y ago
The first half of your comment is untrue and rude. The second half, well that’s the plan
ajades1013 4 points 3y ago
Yikes, nevermind... looking at your post history I don’t want you anywhere near this poor girl. I’m waiting for the post in r/relationshipadvice for when she shoots you down
embiors 1 points 3y ago
He makes posts there but they always get removed within 1-2 hours.
juul_pod [OP] -2 points 3y ago
Jesus, just how many fan boys do I have? Hop off my nuts for TWO seconds. This is something I'm actually struggling with
embiors 2 points 3y ago
You asked for my fucking advice in another post on your personal subreddit AND SENt ME HERE TO READ THIS! I've given you advice in the other sub after you sent me here so stop your crying would you?
PTOKEN 0 points 3y ago
Everyone deserves a chance to shoot their shot. Better knowing than not and being able to move on.
juul_pod [OP] -1 points 3y ago
Wow man, what the fuck? This comment is totally rude and unnecessary. Im actually a very good, caring man; just misunderstood. I'm sorry you feel that way, but I very deeply offended by this comment.
Getpa 3 points 3y ago
Me personally, I wouldn’t mind because I’m secure in my relationship and would just brush it off. If I were single it would just be a little weird to me to be approached by a customer. That being said, having worked alongside women and overhearing their reactions to customers that hit on them.... I would strongly urge you to reconsider.

More often than not, whether she is single or not, a woman is creeped out by customers asking for their number. There’s a line that is being crossed that I’ve seen most woman not react positively towards and it makes things awkward which will stick with her anytime she sees you.
juul_pod [OP] 1 points 3y ago
Hey man, I also appreciate this comment! Was it HOW they approached your co-workers, or was it the fact they asked in general?


Im not too worried about her rejecting me, if she does than it is what it is, there are plenty of other shops I can and will go to!
Getpa 1 points 3y ago
As far as I could tell it’s just that they asked in general. I’ve seen a few cringe-worthy interactions but there have been some that seemed absolutely normal on the surface but as soon as the guy has left the girls start talking about how it made them feel awkward.

The clincher is when the guys come back and there’s always talk of “that one time this guy asked me out”. Like that’s the only part that is associated with them afterwards.
juul_pod [OP] 1 points 3y ago
I wouldn’t go back for at least a month if she doesn’t answer, and I’m thinking on dropping a note so it’s not awkward at all for her! What do you think?
Getpa 1 points 3y ago
To you it may not be awkward, like I said I’ve seen some interactions that didn’t seem awkward at all to me (even if I put myself in the guys’ shoes), but to her it may be. I only say “may” because after those interactions that I’ve seen the girls almost always mention of how it’s awkward. This is usually followed by stories about other guys that have asked the girls out while at work; this is a common thing that women deal with so most of them have stories to share when it happens.

I think it’s just the fact that most people are at work to do a job and not really looking for connections most of the time. But of course that’s just a generalization so it may not apply to everyone. This is just my personal experience working in industries that have been mostly women.

All this being said I understand just wanting to get out there and try something, especially when it comes to women, because I spent too much of my adult life not doing so. But just understand that just because it seemed okay (as in not awkward) in your mind doesn’t necessarily mean that’s how someone else will take it.
CoryIsBestGirl 2 points 3y ago
Yes this is definitely the charisma I'd expect from America's future emperor:

https://www.reddit.com/r/DiaryofPod/comments/fn789r/i_will_be_americas_first_emporer

Shine on you crazy incel ^
embiors 2 points 3y ago
> Shine on you crazy incel

u/juul_pod if we make that\^ into a banner will you put it on your sub? I feel like it would fit perfectly
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bleepblopfee 1 points 3y ago
It's awkward when it's unsolicited. But i guess if you have a thing thatd be better.
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