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How to tell a manager at Starbucks to stop messaging me ? (self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by flatwhitewpg
It's a long story but a manager from my district is messaging me and recently he is saying weird stuff and I want to cut him down in a very straightforward but nice way without ghosting . What would be a very acceptable thing to say to him?
Please understand that when he started to talk to me I genuinely thought he cares about me to grow at Starbucks and not to ask me out
Please understand that when he started to talk to me I genuinely thought he cares about me to grow at Starbucks and not to ask me out
crimesandcutcreases 16 points 3y ago
Oh my goodness this is so incredibly inappropriate. Tell him you don’t feel comfortable talking to him outside of work. Then I would recommend calling PRSC to get a case started just in case he tries to retaliate in any way. I’m sorry your going through this, absolutely not okay.
flatwhitewpg [OP] 3 points 3y ago
He's not my store manager. He is a manger that I see once in a while in our store to get some products.
Chikari_on_Mixer 5 points 3y ago
You should probably still report him. It's an ethics concern and it's likely he's being creepy toward other people too.
hushdrinkcoffee 10 points 3y ago
Ahhh, is it work related? Or personal stuff?
If it is work, remind them that policy is against texting.
If it is personal, say you have a someone.
The Siren weeps for you. So do I.
If it is work, remind them that policy is against texting.
If it is personal, say you have a someone.
The Siren weeps for you. So do I.
awordaphrase 6 points 3y ago
Document, screenshot, ask them to stop by using words like inappropriate, uncomfortable, and unprofessional. If the manager gaslights you or refuses to stop, take it to your district manager and the partner contact center. This is not okay.
flatwhitewpg [OP] 3 points 3y ago
Thanks a lot to everyone that replied and gave me advices. I told my store manager about him (it felt so uncomfortable ) and I'll be sharing all the messages with her tomorrow. I begged her not to take action because I really don't want to cause problems. And I messaged him saying to stop talking to me. Hopefully everything ends here
cfuqua 10 points 3y ago
> I really don't want to cause problems
Why are you thinking like this? You're obviously not the one causing problems.
Why are you thinking like this? You're obviously not the one causing problems.
_Pulltab_ 2 points 3y ago
Your manager has an obligation to does something with the info you gave her. It’s not your responsibility to shield him from anything and she shouldn’t be promising you not to do anything about it.
The best thing you can do is make it clear that it’s not welcomed and then, if it continues, escalate it for help.
The best thing you can do is make it clear that it’s not welcomed and then, if it continues, escalate it for help.
flatwhitewpg [OP] 3 points 3y ago
Thank you for all the insights. I shared everything with my manager and I will be talking to her tomorrow more about it. I made it clear yesterday to stop messaging me. I'm very bad with confrontation and if it comes to me , I would like a record with this and that's all. I don't know how the policy works and actions.
I know he is married and I'm a guy. This is all doesn't make sense especially because I'm not on any dating apps, rarely ever I talk to him and I'm very reserved. Additionally, he asked me for a drink and said weird compliments. He never said something sexually but I felt so uncomfortable and I don't know how to go with it. Thanks again
I know he is married and I'm a guy. This is all doesn't make sense especially because I'm not on any dating apps, rarely ever I talk to him and I'm very reserved. Additionally, he asked me for a drink and said weird compliments. He never said something sexually but I felt so uncomfortable and I don't know how to go with it. Thanks again
StarbuckianDee 2 points 3y ago
You said he’s married... to a girl or a guy? Woah if this guy is married to a girl then that sucks for her.
flatwhitewpg [OP] 3 points 3y ago
He's married to a girl. I don't really have any extra info on his life and that's creeped me out more
colonade17 2 points 3y ago
Completely unethical for a manager to try to date a subordinate. Even if he's not from your store it's not appropriate. He should know that because managers have to do a training about it. The relationship could be used for unfair praise, promotion, or punishment, or even just the confusion of whether or not something is personal or professional. Report it and end it.
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