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Advice? (Inappropriate SM) (self.starbucksbaristas)
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qwasyas 6 points 3y ago
While some managers frown on relationships or being friends while being a shift. There aren’t any rules on it as long as you can be a shift and treat everyone the same without showing favoritism.
I would try to shut down your sm as respectively as possible when she starts having conversations that make you uncomfortable. If it really is an issue I would speak to your dm about her unprofessionalism.
I would try to shut down your sm as respectively as possible when she starts having conversations that make you uncomfortable. If it really is an issue I would speak to your dm about her unprofessionalism.
BFoley727 3 points 3y ago
It’s in the handbook about having any kind of relationship with someone not on your level (Barista, SSV, SM). I’m pretty sure it’s definitely not okay to be working in the same store with a person you’re either friends with outside of work let alone in a relationship with. I was literally sat down and talked to about it and had to read the paragraph out loud. 😫
draahstopter 3 points 3y ago
That’s why it’s so frustrating. I asked her about it and she said yes it’s fine. And then like a month later she just started telling stories of baristas who have been fired for dating. And when I brought it up and reminded her that she was the one who said it was okay, she goes “well it’s not up to me”. All her convenient stories now of other baristas sounds very threatening to be honest
sweetbabidoll295 3 points 3y ago
I met my husband at stsrbucks and I promoted when we were dating. We kept it a massive secret because our manager was psycho. But our solution was one of us would transfer because if you aren’t at the same store it’s fine.
But I’ve also heard stories of married couples working together on different levels. So idk? But she is crossing lines, I would get your bases covered (moving to a different store for example) and so forth and then either confront or bring up your complaints to your DM/corporate. Often if you call and admit that you did have get togethers but was not aware of the rules and even asked if it was ok and got the go ahead- you’ll be more forgiven. And her asking about the pregnancy and doing the mean girl thjng is crossing some serious lines
But I’ve also heard stories of married couples working together on different levels. So idk? But she is crossing lines, I would get your bases covered (moving to a different store for example) and so forth and then either confront or bring up your complaints to your DM/corporate. Often if you call and admit that you did have get togethers but was not aware of the rules and even asked if it was ok and got the go ahead- you’ll be more forgiven. And her asking about the pregnancy and doing the mean girl thjng is crossing some serious lines
retsehassyla 2 points 3y ago
Okay, I have some experience with this. No, it’s not in the handbook that you can not date someone in the store, except for ASM and SMs. It’s typically on a store by store basis based on previous history.
You CAN most definitely hang out with your coworkers outside of work (again, except ASM and SMs) and NO, you don’t have to invite everyone, and I think it’s crossing personal boundaries for her to tell you to post it in the group. That is manipulative in so many ways, especially for her to say that makes you look like the bully, when she is clearly bullying you.
Can not believe she made pregnancy jokes to you, absolutely WRONG and crossing so many boundaries professionally and personally.
To me it seems she is bullying you and manipulating you.
***You need to call corporate. Call the partner support line. File a complaint that you feel she is harassing you and crossing personal boundaries. If you feel uncomfortable, do it.***
My similar story: had a shift at my store ask incredibly personal questions (on the clock) to whatever barista he decided was cute that week; treated his current crush differently than other baristas by showing favoritism; would call/text at inappropriate times about non work related things; and actually stalked a friend of mine. He was inappropriate in SO MANY ways and got fired.
People in mgmt positions like SM and ASMs can NOT show that level of inappropriateness. It’s fireable.
TLDR;
You can do whatever the hell you want romantically or platonically (within reason) and should under no circumstances feel pressured to act a certain way that is not true to yourself and your feelings. Seems she has crossed multiple personal and professional boundaries. You do not have to tolerate this behavior from mgmt and should report it.
You CAN most definitely hang out with your coworkers outside of work (again, except ASM and SMs) and NO, you don’t have to invite everyone, and I think it’s crossing personal boundaries for her to tell you to post it in the group. That is manipulative in so many ways, especially for her to say that makes you look like the bully, when she is clearly bullying you.
Can not believe she made pregnancy jokes to you, absolutely WRONG and crossing so many boundaries professionally and personally.
To me it seems she is bullying you and manipulating you.
***You need to call corporate. Call the partner support line. File a complaint that you feel she is harassing you and crossing personal boundaries. If you feel uncomfortable, do it.***
My similar story: had a shift at my store ask incredibly personal questions (on the clock) to whatever barista he decided was cute that week; treated his current crush differently than other baristas by showing favoritism; would call/text at inappropriate times about non work related things; and actually stalked a friend of mine. He was inappropriate in SO MANY ways and got fired.
People in mgmt positions like SM and ASMs can NOT show that level of inappropriateness. It’s fireable.
TLDR;
You can do whatever the hell you want romantically or platonically (within reason) and should under no circumstances feel pressured to act a certain way that is not true to yourself and your feelings. Seems she has crossed multiple personal and professional boundaries. You do not have to tolerate this behavior from mgmt and should report it.
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