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Isolation at work (self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by TessaFink
One of my other shifts (I’m a shift) at my store has on occasion mentioned that they’ve had trouble with my attitude in the past and have just felt the need to bypass me and talk directly to our SM because they didn’t feel like I responded well.
I think emotions run heavy at our cafe store and before stay at home closing, I was very stressed most of the time, so was my manager. When I’ve talked to these partners I told them I’m working on improving, but I can only improve what I know about.
My point in bringing this up, is when the other shift talks about it he always says, “whenever WE talk to you....” “WE have tried...” he always uses we rather than I.
It makes me feel really isolated and unwelcome at my store. I’ve told him that it bothers me last time, but he did it again today. I don’t know what to do. It makes me feel uncomfortable and that I’m the root of every problem, when I’m not the only one who has an attitude/is sassy/is sarcastic at our store. Even so this person has just as much of an attitude as I do sometimes. And honestly I’m just trying to not be stressed out and just protect myself if they are being rude. I’m not trying to cause drama and I don’t have anything against my coworkers.
Idk if I should talk to my SM or Lyra? Idk but I don’t like it.
I think emotions run heavy at our cafe store and before stay at home closing, I was very stressed most of the time, so was my manager. When I’ve talked to these partners I told them I’m working on improving, but I can only improve what I know about.
My point in bringing this up, is when the other shift talks about it he always says, “whenever WE talk to you....” “WE have tried...” he always uses we rather than I.
It makes me feel really isolated and unwelcome at my store. I’ve told him that it bothers me last time, but he did it again today. I don’t know what to do. It makes me feel uncomfortable and that I’m the root of every problem, when I’m not the only one who has an attitude/is sassy/is sarcastic at our store. Even so this person has just as much of an attitude as I do sometimes. And honestly I’m just trying to not be stressed out and just protect myself if they are being rude. I’m not trying to cause drama and I don’t have anything against my coworkers.
Idk if I should talk to my SM or Lyra? Idk but I don’t like it.
BastofBelial 21 points 3y ago
Just do your job and go home. It's not worth it to get wrapped up in the bullshit. At the end of the day, you're not there to make friends. Remember: what other people think of you is none of your business.
justdoinmybesttt 3 points 3y ago
This is sound advice. A fellow barista told me that same exact statement seven years ago. I have lived it ever since.
BastofBelial 2 points 3y ago
It's hard to follow, don't get me wrong. You WANT people to like you, it's only natural. But at the end of the day, you're not going to work because people like you, and if their feelings towards you are keeping you from making money, you've got it all wrong.
melidew 5 points 3y ago
For sure do Lyra! But also if your SM isn’t doing anything, I would tell your partner that you and them need to maintain boundaries. Clearly trying to talk isn’t working. So if they need to ask you about work related stuff great but if it’s an opinion that doesn’t directly affect the store then to keep it to themselves.
When people use the “we” bullshit it’s always a sociopathic manipulator tactic. I’ve dealt with someone like that before and no thank u never again. I feel for you.
When people use the “we” bullshit it’s always a sociopathic manipulator tactic. I’ve dealt with someone like that before and no thank u never again. I feel for you.
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