I sometimes feel left out, too. Really depends on who I’m working with. I am also generally quiet and am not good at making conversation. Sometimes some partners will talk with me for hours on end and other times they won’t. Some won’t really talk to me at all. Others always talk to me. Some nights (I close) are really fun and go by fast, others are really slow and not as fun because of who I’m working with. I am an introvert and can sometimes be outgoing, but it’s hard and I have to force myself to be outgoing. As for passive aggressive partners, I don’t have too many of those at my store so I can’t help much there. But know you’re not alone!!!

I'm the same, sucks even more because there's another green bean who got hired a week after I did who's already best friends with everyone, but I keep positive because who cares? I'm getting paid the same whether I'm social or not and at the end of the day it's just a job.

Yeah, I don’t really like to talk to people at work, and I’ve been called “hostile” because of it. I just don’t really agree with my stores “oh let’s all be a fake family through peak so we can get good times and customer connections” mentality; so I keep to myself and do what I’m assigned to do.... Unless I’m on the floor with people that don’t seem like they are forcing interactions, I usually just keep to myself. Just remember it’s really just a paycheck.

When I worked at Starbucks, several years ago, I was ostracized and bullied because I was very quiet and introverted. I would vent in my journal during my breaks to deal with it.

I forced myself to go to store dinners even though it stressed me out. Over time, one coworker noticed how I was trying to participate and she started being nice to me. We became very good friends and a sea change occurred at my store, with old partners quitting and new hires coming on.

It was rough in the beginning but I feel like I grew a lot from the experience. I’m a lot less quiet now and like to make sure quiet coworkers feel safe and included.

You’re not alone. I’ve been at my store for 5 years now and still dread going to work most days.

I would do my best to include those like you because I was treated that way growing up in my church.
A lot of the time no one would want to join in and eventually I started to feel left out too.

The passive/aggressive partners might be working through their own shit and not judging you (things I tell myself to get through the day). Or maybe they are in their head thinking everyone hates them too.

I feel left out all the time. Which is strange because I usually can be social with anyone, I'm one of the best at customer connections. And all the gossip really bothers me. Because I don't participate in talking about other partners (to the best of my ability!) , I miss out on a lot of 'camaraderie.' And I assume they all talk about me just as much. I hide behide my mask and blame allergies/ dry eyes from the mask when I tear up.

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You are not the only one and thanks for posting because now I know that neither am I.