First, that absolutely sucks (Trans man barista here). I haven’t worked at Starbucks for that long, but honestly I feel that should be brought to corporate that is far beyond inappropriate. Also I feel really bad if he’s treating you like that I can only imagine what his poor child is going through. I’m glad you have support from shifts/other baristas there. Starbucks overall lgbtq+ support is a big reason why I started working for the company, so I feel like the partner contact center should be able to help you out. If anything would transferring stores be an option? I hope this all gets better for you!

I'm sorry for your experience, no one at work should be made uncomfortable in such a way.

Document. Document. Document. Like today. Write out every incident and include as many details as you can remember WRT days, times, exact words said, etc. Coming in with notes and details goes a long way in getting action done, especially if you have to escalate it beyond an internal issue.

If your DM isn't effectively resolving this issue, escalate by calling Partner Relations at HQ. They will take this VERY SERIOUSLY if it's not on the local level.

If, at any point, you are being retaliated against, document that as well and report to Partner Relations.

Contact Ethics and Compliance. File a report. I had an issue with a shift constantly misgendering me at my first store. They did an investigation and I got a transfer.

also social media does wonders.