It might be a habit. It took me a long time to stop saying yes sir/ma’am because I got bitched at for not saying it as a child in the south. It was just second nature. I think it’s just a habit and maybe they’re not informed that it’s harmful. That’s what I’d like to think, anyways.

Feel you, I'm ftm and get m'amed all day every day. It's why I avoid dt as much as possible. Guaranteed to ruin my day

I’ve only recently realized how often I needlessly gender people. I grew up in a military family and it’s a much harder habit to kick than I expected. It’s led me to misgender people quite often, I’m sure.

Hugs to you. You’re valid and worthy. I’m sorry I’ve been part of the problem. Trying to be part of the solution now. ❤️

Just a heads up for fellow trans people here, but if DT voice time is causing dysphoria or discomfort, you can absolutely get a workplace accommodation to not do I as it's detrimental to your mental health.

NGL getting misgendered on DTO was what motivated me to actually put effort into voice training. I was living in the south at the time. It sucked so much. I feel your pain.

i never say sir or ma’m unless i’m being extremely passive aggressive to a middle aged/elderly customer lol. “excuse me SIR do you have a mask you could put on?” lmao

Is there anything fellow baristas could do in that situation to help you on a day to day or to make you feel more supported??

I'm from northern Michigan originally but moved to the south when I was young. A lot of southerners do this, it is a Big Deal.

I'm sorry that happens to you! Not transgender, but have had multiple transgender/nonbinary coworkers express the same thing, as much as i wish we could implement a dont assume or dont use pronouns at the ordering station policy or protocall I dont think its everyones intent to harm

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