I was aware of the connotation of my message when I wrote it, but I feel like my err was not as great as the one of my shift supervisor. Taking your argument at face value, it seems like I'm held to a higher standard of professionalism than my shift supervisor is.

I don't agree. I don't think being an intentionally unhelpful and mean partner is something I should congratulate. I do agree that I didn't have to say my message in public. It was an indirect way for me to try to alert the rest of the team to this issue, but the thing is it's become clear to me that it's a problem that's just not going to be solved.

Same as I was thinking. There’s one partner at our store that everyone has had a personal problem with. Because I’ve handled it well, I get legitimate conversations on how to fix the problem and take statements because I can diffuse situations with said partner. They’ve come up to me and straight tried to instigate problems and I just diffuse it. I know they would never be voted partner of the quarter. So one why wouldn’t you be taken seriously with complaints if nobody likes them, and two how did they get voted parter of the quarter if they aren’t liked by anyone and they’re a problem partner? Sounds a little sus just sayin

It doesn't make things better and most assuredly makes them worse, especially since this SS responded to it, but it was clearly a cry for help. I've already talked to my manager about transferring for this reason (I do have other reasons but this one was the one I implied was my main issue), and she was really receptive to the idea.

I know this whole situation is strange, and my mind has been reeling all day trying to figure it out. I think the partner only picks on me. She's very friendly to other baristas, but I think that's partly a feedback loop due to the fact that they've never had an issue with her and are friendly to her in the first place. I have seen other partners do the same things I've done that have caused her to fuss at me (the example that comes to mind is bringing dirty dishes to the sink while she's on customer support and therefore washing dishes), and she does not fuss at them. She fussed at me for bringing dishes so many times I don't do it anymore if she's in the store because I once did it when she was in the store and I wasn't even aware she was clocked on let alone on customer support. Sometimes it's a mild comment not to bring dishes, sometimes it's aggressive.

As for my hours being shorter than before, this situation is not the only possible cause. The end of holiday season, block scheduling, other partners' availabilities are all factors. I was actually fine with having shorter hours because I prefer working less and also because it meant less working time with the partner so less anxiety.

Thank you for your response. It's helped me to better understand my thought process.

Definitely good advice, but we *are* on Reddit, after all. I think the determining factor there is that if you're getting bullied, you definitely shouldn't have to not be able to talk about it. I'm the kind of person who is open in that I'm willing to admit being a victim of abuse and I believe abusers' privacy shouldn't be protected. On the same token, I have to work with this person. I would love it if they would simply stop bullying me, but lord knows that's not going to happen.

I can see why it would appear that way, but I'm not the one in the wrong. And I'm starting to realize that my message was a cry for help which management responded to with: 'Don't cry for help. Suck it up.' I once literally told that shift supervisor that the partner was verbally abusing me and that I wanted to go home.

The original purpose of the group chat (which I believe was created by that shift supervisor) was for shift swapping. I'm not really interested in shift swapping, so I ended up uninstalling the app. I didn't feel safe communicating in it anymore; I'm sure I was safe to ask for a shift swap, but like I said I almost never feel the need to ask for one. I just feel like I can't personally handle this type of situation, and I've asked my manager for a transfer.