I have pretty severe social anxiety, I’ve actually had to quit a few jobs because being around my coworkers was so overwhelming.

Every day after work I journal. I write down when I felt anxious and try to identify if anything triggered me during the day. Reflecting on why I’m feeling so anxious usually helps me address it better.

I also use cbd. If I’m feeling really anxious I’ll take some during my 10 to help calm down.

I think trying to find a way to frame your social interactions would help. For me, reminding myself it’s a job helps me. I’m not at Starbucks to meet friends, I’m there to work and simply have a healthy working relationship with my coworkers. It sounds like that doesn’t help you, so maybe try to find a frame of reference that does?

Another idea that helps me is the fact that nothing bad will happen if they don’t like me. It feels like people not liking me is the end of the world but it’s not. With my therapist, I talked about specifically why being disliked scares me so much and we explored what would happen if I was disliked and it helped me realize realistically, nothing would happen.

And my finally suggestion is that you should prioritize your health. If Starbucks isn’t a good environment for you to work in, or your store is too clichy, it’s okay to
Try to transfer or find a new job all together.

Fuck yea. When I was at my old store I didn’t fit in at all and actually started just not giving a shit about how I spoke to people. I was in a place where I knew people didn’t care so why should I? I was treated badly for so long that I started becoming defensive because everyone in some way or some how knew what happened.

Fast forward to 4 years later. I transferred to a new store and while I felt like I clicked better with people here than with my old store i was still the newbie.

Recently I’ve been feeling like I’ve been falling back into my old ways. That nobody cares or gives a shit about me. Nobody wants to help me. People don’t like me. I got close to one of my partners and told her about this and she told me it’s not true. Didn’t believe her. I know the reality is not everyone will like you. But I also knew that it’s not true. Talking to someone helped.

Things got so bad I had a sit down with my ASM who also is a former shift of mine who knows everything that happened.

I talked to my SM maybe 3 weeks ago about this because my anxiety gets the best of me too. It wasn’t fun for me being in that state of mind and snapping at people isn’t ok. I’m on medication for it and my depression and since I’ve been taking it consistently things have been much better. Who cares what people think? As long as you know you’re doing your job to the best of your ability that’s all that matters. Maybe you’ll find someone you can confide in like I did in my 2 best friends. My manager gave me a technique to help with anxiety if you’re interested.

I also keep a lavender essential oils balm in my locker and a worry pet in my apron.

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