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I have a crush on a barista (self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by R6coldbrew
Hi, I don’t normally post on Reddit so apologies ahead of time if the formatting of my post isn’t correct.
I have been going to a new Starbucks for about three weeks now and have developed an attraction to a female barista who works at the location. I don’t normally consider flirting with an employee of a business because I know they’re at work, obliged to be nice and are generally trapped by being at work and thus don’t want any advances being made.
However, I feel like I’m passing up a really good opportunity to find a good partner and I’ll kick myself if I never try. As baristas yourselves, what is your opinion on customers asking you out, and if they did, how would you want it to be done? I don’t want to be disrespectful or creepy. I just want to shoot my best shot and know for sure if there’s a chance of me dating this person.
If this person was to say no, I will definitely be going to a new Starbucks in the future, I don’t want to make it awkward for the employee having to serve me in the future.
Thank you in advance for any advice given.
I have been going to a new Starbucks for about three weeks now and have developed an attraction to a female barista who works at the location. I don’t normally consider flirting with an employee of a business because I know they’re at work, obliged to be nice and are generally trapped by being at work and thus don’t want any advances being made.
However, I feel like I’m passing up a really good opportunity to find a good partner and I’ll kick myself if I never try. As baristas yourselves, what is your opinion on customers asking you out, and if they did, how would you want it to be done? I don’t want to be disrespectful or creepy. I just want to shoot my best shot and know for sure if there’s a chance of me dating this person.
If this person was to say no, I will definitely be going to a new Starbucks in the future, I don’t want to make it awkward for the employee having to serve me in the future.
Thank you in advance for any advice given.
cinnamonmarigold 15 points 2y ago
I would definitely establish at least like being able to be recognized. As a barista, I’m so excited to see my regulars who are so kind and genuine! From those little interactions, a lot of authentic conversation and connection could spark :) if not, be straight-forward, like, “hey, I think you’re really cool, and I’d love to talk to you more sometime. If not, I understand and respect that. Thanks for always being so kind to me either way!”
SnooFoxes6516 8 points 2y ago
This is a good one ^^^ Regular, then friend, then you can shoot ur shot.
R6coldbrew [OP] 4 points 2y ago
Thank you so much for the advice 😄
TallAlmondLatte 13 points 2y ago
Just no. She is at work. At work.
R6coldbrew [OP] 2 points 2y ago
I understand
allamericanogirl 2 points 2y ago
I disagree! Shoot your shot!!
torpac00 8 points 2y ago
as someone who found my partner through the drive thru at my last job (she was a customer) (i was a barista) i say shoot your shot in a subtle way. i was gonna give her my number first, and then she ended up adding me on facebook.
R6coldbrew [OP] 4 points 2y ago
Thank you for the reply! I definitely don’t want to embarrass the barista. If I am going to do it I want us to be kind of off to the side and out of earshot. Do you think offering my number first is better? Or should I be direct and ask for her’s?
fuzzypeaches-0 5 points 2y ago
I would offer yours! It could make her feel less pressured and/or awkward:) and then this may prompt her to also give you her number or social media if she's comfortable! good luck:)
R6coldbrew [OP] 1 points 2y ago
Thank you for the advice!
oatmealstan 5 points 2y ago
i think a good rule of thumb for any sort of customer-employee connection like this is to offer YOUR info to them – i had a regular give me her social media handle because she and i had kind of become friends and she said she’d love to keep in touch on social media but no pressure if i felt weird. offering up your number or instagram handle or something like that, without asking for hers, would let her know that you’re interested in connecting more with her, but doesn’t put her in an awkward situation – she can decide on her own if she wants to take the next step and reach out to you :)
R6coldbrew [OP] 3 points 2y ago
I really like this idea and I’ve seen quite a few other people suggest this. The last thing I want to do is make her feel pressured or cornered. Ideally I would run into her outside of work and pop the question but ik that the odds of that happening are slim to none. So I think that your idea is the next best thing. Thanks for the reply!
rio8envy7 4 points 2y ago
I would say maybe try and see if there’s anything you have in common first. Become friends. I don’t know how to do this whole dating thing (I have a huge crush of my own I’m trying to figure out) but just test the waters subtly. I wouldn’t make any huge moves yet.
R6coldbrew [OP] 2 points 2y ago
Thank you for the advice. I think you’re absolutely right. I’m going to build a rapport with her and make some small talk and see if I can read any vibes.
rio8envy7 1 points 2y ago
Exactly. That’s how I fell for the guy I like. Met him at a concert and almost non stop talked to him for the better part of a year. Admitted to him I liked him last July and started being a little bolder with how I’m expressing my feelings for him. But I didn’t know how he would take it I just started finding that we had things in common and he helped me through a rough time. We kind of function in similar ways so I understand how he feels.
Eboy77888797788 3 points 2y ago
You got this dude! We believe in you! Dreams do come true
R6coldbrew [OP] 1 points 2y ago
Thanks!
KyleM1996 1 points 1y ago
I’m in the exact same situation. I hope it went well for you, OP.
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