Starbucks Baristas: The daily grind
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Keeping a work and personal relationship separate (self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by rio8envy7
Someone I work with is starting to prep becoming a shift supervisor and I love them to pieces but I’m not sure how it’ll effect our working relationship. They’re someone I use to talk about personal things with but there was an incident that sparked drama leading me to not trust or want to confide in them. How am I supposed to balance keeping friend and shift separate? I talked about it with them today and they understood but I’m a little unsure still. I don’t think they’ll be bad or cause problems but I’m not sure how I feel about it.
[deleted] 11 points 2y ago
This is why Starbucks frowns upon any relationship outside the workplace, friend or romantic. Not that I’m saying you can’t or shouldn’t but I digress.
Y’all need to be able to separate home life and work life. What happens outside of work needs to stay outside of work and they need to understand that too, especially if they’re becoming a shift.
Y’all need to be able to separate home life and work life. What happens outside of work needs to stay outside of work and they need to understand that too, especially if they’re becoming a shift.
Thehorssishigh 6 points 2y ago
I have a shift that has been sexually harassing me since I started and when I reported it to my manager nothing happened, and now that same shift puts me on window every time we work together because he found out I told on him. It’s so shitty I want to transfer stores but can’t.
Swordxxxx 5 points 2y ago
I’m definitely not the first to say this but sexual harassment is not ok. Luckily there are a bunch of options for if you do experience it. I don’t know the exact number but in the front of the DCR there is a list of phone numbers. There’s one specially for HR. Please contact them. If your store manager does not support you in what I will say is a horrible time, speak to the district manager and explain the situation. Although please call the number first.
rio8envy7 [OP] 3 points 2y ago
Did you call PRC?
cosmicsnowpea 2 points 2y ago
I’m a shift now and have a lot of barista friends.
Before I was shift, I was friends with baristas who promoted to shifts. I think one of the biggest things is, to respect their authority.
I would be honest with them, like “hey I don’t want to do that, but I’m going to respect you as my shift on duty”
I’m really close friends with some of my baristas, and they know I’m really goofy. But when we are working sometimes I have to tell them “hey you know I love you, but I have to be a responsible shift” or something along those lines.
Before I was shift, I was friends with baristas who promoted to shifts. I think one of the biggest things is, to respect their authority.
I would be honest with them, like “hey I don’t want to do that, but I’m going to respect you as my shift on duty”
I’m really close friends with some of my baristas, and they know I’m really goofy. But when we are working sometimes I have to tell them “hey you know I love you, but I have to be a responsible shift” or something along those lines.
rio8envy7 [OP] 1 points 2y ago
We talked and set boundaries yesterday it’s just they dragged me into drama and got me involved when I wasn’t and shouldn’t have been involved in.
They’re partly responsible for giving me mental breakdowns. I was dealing with something with a guy who I have an interest in dating and I was doing my best to separate personal me and work me but when personal me is upset (this person knew what happened) and work me is pissed off and upset it became a lot and affected my ability to do my job.
They said things that I now question because I feel like I was being emotionally manipulated. Things with us are fine now and we’re back to goofing off and chatting but I don’t disclose a lot of personal things to them anymore. If I can’t trust them with personal stuff how am I supposed to trust them with work stuff?
They’re partly responsible for giving me mental breakdowns. I was dealing with something with a guy who I have an interest in dating and I was doing my best to separate personal me and work me but when personal me is upset (this person knew what happened) and work me is pissed off and upset it became a lot and affected my ability to do my job.
They said things that I now question because I feel like I was being emotionally manipulated. Things with us are fine now and we’re back to goofing off and chatting but I don’t disclose a lot of personal things to them anymore. If I can’t trust them with personal stuff how am I supposed to trust them with work stuff?
fruity_boba 2 points 2y ago
Try your best to stay relaxed if you ever have shifts with them, if you notice they're doing things out of your comfort zone or overhear things that may be negative, take note and let your SM know.
When I was a barista, I worked with two personal friends (who got hired because of me) and when I became a shift they changed their work ethic drastically and basically did nothing all shift because they thought I "didn't care" because I'm friends with them. I told my SM and I only ever worked with one of them every shift after that.
When I was a barista, I worked with two personal friends (who got hired because of me) and when I became a shift they changed their work ethic drastically and basically did nothing all shift because they thought I "didn't care" because I'm friends with them. I told my SM and I only ever worked with one of them every shift after that.
rio8envy7 [OP] 1 points 2y ago
I work hard and that won’t change if they become a shift. I’m not saying separating friend and shift isn’t possible because it’s like that with one of my other shifts and I and we’re fine. It’s just when work me affects both that me and personal me it became a lot especially when personal me was already dealing with something and is upset at myself.
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