To a certain extent they're "correct" in that you can't just pick and choose who you work with because you don't get along... but this is a situation where the SM is being extremely insensitive. Honestly, I would say try discussing it with your manager that you do not feel safe working with that partner due to previous interpersonal issues, and you would like it if they could be mindful not to schedule the two of you together.

*Document* that conversation - you'll want to note down the date and time of the discussion, and follow up your conversation with a text and/or email as well. You'll want to say something like "Thank you for taking time with me [on date at time] to discuss my situation with [partner's full name] and why I do not feel safe working the same scheduled shift with them. I appreciate it." Depending on how your SM responds either in the moment or after your chat, you will likely want to report it to the DM and PCC.

However, please note that this can mean you will still experience shift swaps where you will still have to *see* this person. This may also mean the SM decides to transfer you out of their store. It's not great, but these are within Starbucks' realm of options for a situation like this, unfortunately.

I obviously don't know what you went through or how this person is involved. However, if there is no legal reason for them not to be around you, and nothing inappropriate is happening at work, then there is no reason why that person shouldn't be allowed to work at your store. You may just need to seek a transfer or, to rephrase what your manager said in a better way, seek out a way to help you cope with your anxiety. We have resources.... Lyra, etc.

SM is someone who obviously never has been in a situation like that and is refusing to empathize. Honestly, someone who believes abuse / mental health issues are fake is not going to come around w/o first hand experience, more than likely. You may have to transfer stores if the SM is going to refute.

I know *exactly* how you feel. When I was going through a divorce with my narcissistic and abusive ex husband his best friend got a job at the place I work everyday. The guy didn’t really talk very much to me but I still was somewhat triggered every time I saw him.

What helped me was holding my head up high, smiling and making sure that he knew I was living my best life without my ex. At first it didn’t feel like the truth because I was really hurting after what he had done to me during our marriage. But then I realized I actually WAS so much happier and healthier.

About a year after that I met my very handsome, very wonderful fiancé at work, and could parade around next to him. He could report *that* back to my ex.

This requires an ethics and compliance complaint. If you complain to partner resources they'll probably send it to your DM to handle, and many DMs just aren't interested in dealing with this kind of situation.