Warning: Grande, slightly unrelated rant

I had a coworker like that in a licensed store. She would literally treat people like garbage and would be like "I'm autistic" every time you confronted her, while like your situation, not having shown the job any proof of this and also claiming that it'd be against the law to fire her. I understand people have disabilities and maybe she really did have autism, but ordering people around or blaming your faults on others is something within your control.

She'd leave sanitizer in the pumps for example and then say, "Oh, well x told me to do that." Like, x doesn't do that, so why would they tell you to do that? One time she broke a cold brew toddy without telling anyone and told everyone it was someone else, even though she was the only one on the floor at the time...

She was on mornings but she couldn't keep up with the morning flow so she asked to be moved to closes, and she pretty much never did anything. I'd come in to open and none of the closing tasks were done at all but I'd find like 4 origami boats in the drawer. It drove me insane.

On top of that, the way she talked to people was awful. She'd be demanding and demeaning and just rude. Like the person you described, she was very passive aggressive.

I ended up quitting; there were a few reasons for this, but she was certainly a factor. We were understaffed so there was pretty much no way she was going to get fired. Every shift we had together, I dreaded. It was like basically doing the work of 2 people *and* you got talked down to the whole time. She still works there to my knowledge. This was like a year ago.

Tbh you have to just assess the situation and see what kind of solutions would end up working for you. Could she theoretically get moved to a different Target department? Could she theoretically get fired? If you like working there, I would say to pursue those options before straight up quitting. Again, I relate pretty hard which sucks because I was having a really bad time lol.

TL;DR: I relate, but I have no useful advice because I ended up quitting that job. She still works there I believe.

i do want to say that self diagnosis is perfectly okay because medical diagnosis is often really hard and expensive for some people to get, so just bc someone doesn’t have proof of a diagnosis doesn’t mean they’re necessarily lying. (i’m self diagnosed autistic) HOWEVER it definitely sounds like she’s also just generally rude and using autism as an excuse to treat people poorly which is so wrong and i hate when ppl do that because it perpetuates the idea that people with autism are rude and don’t know how to behave appropriately. autistic people are self aware, and aware of the effects of their actions. and most of the autistic people i know are actually really careful not to say or do anything that could upset or harm someone