Not a transfer, but try asking them about their likes/hobbies/school.
People love to talk about themselves lol
I worked with this painfully quiet opener but by probing her learned that she plays like 4 instruments and is going to UA for music therapy lol
I just start with a "so how was your night/weekend, what ya do? tell me all about it" Also tattoos are great conversation starters, people love talking about their tats.

This happened to me as a transfer! I completely dreaded going to work and I cried almost everyday coming home 😭 so I feel your pain, eventually people will talk with you more and you’ll come out of your shell, it took me about a month to finally feel like I had some friends there

Yeah I used to cry a lot after work! I just transferred a few months ago and there’s STILL supervisors who are passive aggressive with me because they all have their group and still see me as new. But to be honest.. start by befriending one person. When you start with that person you’ll meet their pals and so on. Also, what worked for me was asking for help? I’ve been to three different stores and I feel like when I ask for help people like that. Not too much of course. I don’t know if it’s good advice since to be honest I feel like I change a lot to meet people’s need on as to what they like because I get desperate to have a good work experience

Honestly just try to give it some time. When i transferred to my new store i felt the same way, and it was super uncomfortable at first. Im not very good at making friends but after a month or two I definitely had several coworkers i would consider friends.

I feel you. When I transferred to my new store I hated it. I missed my old partners. My new store had mostly older parents 20-40s so it was kinda hard to connect but i gave it some time and it’s alright. You have to let them get to know you and you know them.

It usually takes me a month. I’m kinda the opposite personality though but people still gotta open up to you and get used to you.

Find out who runs the store's group chat and get on it, I didn't even know we had one until 4 months in

Ask them about their life, and maybe participate in some good natured grousing about annoying customers, in the back of house, if that's your store's bent.

As a partner of three years who's had to transfer.... three times (I've moved a lot), it takes about four to six months to really feel 'connected' to that store's partners.

honestly every store i’ve been to is like this and it really just takes time and getting to know everybody. start up some conversations about their life, their employment, whatever it is. i’m the opposite and am super introverted and everyone told me once i opened up that they wish i did so sooner. don’t be afraid to get to know everyone!!

Just give it some time, same thing happened to me. Conversations will naturally happen and when you participate in them you’re bound to make some new work homies.

My store closed and they dispersed us all to different stores. I made a couple friends but it was the first time I was in a very clicky store and I even blocked one of the girls on Facebook because she attacked me in our shift group chat for calling one of the girls on her BS. My manager did nothing about it either. So happy to be out of that place

I know exactly what you're going through! I actually transferred stores because after 3 years I felt like I didn't truly fit in with the other partners. Everyone was nice and we enjoyed working together I even got voted POQ twice while I was there but it wasn't the connection that i felt that they had together. They would hang out after work and talk about parties they went to etc and I would feel really awkward and just like I wasn't really a part of the store.

I transfer to another store and unfortunately for me the exact same thing happens. I get along well with everyone but nothing like a close friendship. At this point I know that the problem is me and I can accept that. As long as I can effectively work together with them as part of a team then I don't mind not being friends. It would be nice but at the end of the day I'm there to work. With time you'll feel more comfortable being around other partners but don't be so hard on yourself if no friendship comes out of it.

I’ve transferred 4 times in 10 years …. Honestly the first two weeks I lay low get the feel of the place and then I let my freak flag fly lol most people are like oh you’re not as quiet as I thought after a few weeks …. And a big one try not to reference my old store much especially if I have any suggestions ( I usually do have suggestions lol …I’m that barista, I’ve been a shift and have been in the food service industry for almost 20 years management and what not)…. It’s not a race it’s a marathon some of my best relationships came from the bux but it took time to build that in a store with partners that were all close like family but one day it just clicked, by making yourself valuable to everyone by working hard and just being yourself it’ll come… oh and I try to make myself apart of the store by saying we … ie … if your looking for something… oh that’s where we keep it …. It’s subtle psychology 🧐

It takes time, there will always be some adjustment time so try not to sweat it too much. I've been a partner for 4 years, and had to transfer twice in the last year. I was super nervous about working with new people but I ended up liking my last two stores way more than the first.

When I started a couple months ago I had a hard time so I just started asking everyone a like public knowledge personal question(birthplace, hobbies, etc) , or asking about hiking spots and whatnot in the area. Now I think I’m pretty good friends with everyone :)

I definitely agree with the person who said start with one person and it will open everything else up!❤️

Edit: Not sure why I called it that I meant like a not so personal question haha

I’ve transferred three different times (I like moving) and each time it’s taken 2ish months to really have it feel like I could fully be myself and that they actually wanted to have conversations with me. Try to ask everyone how their days are going and ask about pets/hobbies/school, literally anything that could have been an ice breaker in high school, people love talking about themselves! It takes time and it sucks, but it does get better.