What's the policy on relationships at work?(self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by blue-haired-barista
Title... um, asking for a friend..? 😅
bitchmcconnelll40 points1y ago
I love other people’s drama. Tell us more.
blue-haired-barista [OP]23 points1y ago
We're both baristas.. i just transferred to this store, and the other barista is a 2 month old green bean. I'm 20 (almost 21) and she's 19. When I met her, she was always telling me jokes and making me laugh she's taken me home on multiple occasions and has been so very nice to me. One day when she took me home, we hung out a bit and uh.. talked about things that were not so sfw.. ^^; and needless to say, our day off the next day was definitely the most fun i'd had in such a long time... we made it official a week ago- and now we work shifts together and i give her looks and wink at her and she does the same- she came in with bandages on her neck to hide hickeys that i had given her the night before- she claimed it was "road rash"- one of our shifts was like "hm, thats some pretty well placed road rash" 👀
Its just messy and im tryna keep it a secret
OfficerEdgarMallory15 points1y ago
1) you don’t shit where you eat
2) put hickeys where clothes cover them up. It’s more fun and less tacky
blue-haired-barista [OP]4 points1y ago
For the record, she asked me to do it, so xD
OfficerEdgarMallory6 points1y ago
Sounds like fun. Next time agree but do it literally anywhere else lol. Chest, stomach, thighs, butt...pretty much anywhere but the neck and have __more__ fun doing it.
Also don’t date coworkers because it never ends well. Literally not once in the history of coworkers dating.
kombuchah13 points1y ago
ohhhhhhhhh young love < 3
sheep_heavenly29 points1y ago
Can't be across job titles (no shifts and baristas, no managers with anyone in store), p sure that's it.
Informally, it's a horrific idea. Working with a brand new relationship is a guaranteed dramabomb. 100% better to transfer first.
I did work with my now husband for awhile when we were both baristas, 4 years into the relationship, when the manager was familiar with how professional we both were. It still was very, very weird to have a coworker relationship on the floor and I wouldn't recommend it unless it's like the only employment in the area... And I love him to pieces!
uwumoment1 points1y ago
i have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and we are both baristas at the same store! personally i think we work super well together and can communicate very easily. my manager learned that we were dating kind of on her own because i wasn’t sure about the policy on dating, and she was perfectly fine with it because of how well we work together but i can imagine newer relationships are hard to deal with, especially when you’re in that first little awkward stage of always wanting to talk to each other and flirting constantly. that can be distracting and does not help people on the floor at all i agree that with a newer relationship
saddestgirl199521 points1y ago
Don't shit where you eat!
OneRoseDark12 points1y ago
Don't date anyone who has a different job title (baristas w/ SSVs, basically), and don't let it interfere with work.
That includes if/when you break up. You can't refuse to work shifts with someone, refuse to talk to them, or avoid interacting. So if that's gonna be a problem...
Also, maybe leave hickeys in a less obvious place.
juiceyluicy2 points1y ago
Related to this I want to share a short little story with my experience. I used to be friends with a group of my coworkers (I was friends with one who got me my job at Starbucks and then was brought into their friend group and all of them worked at this same store). I also work with my significant other. No one even knows we’re a couple until I say something and no one cares because we don’t act like we’re a couple or talk to each other that way. We act like we’re at work because we are. Now this group of “friends” didnt actually like me (big surprise) and when they found an opportunity they all turned on me and decided I was a bad person (unrelated to dating a different coworker). By this point, only 1 person in this friend group was still working at the store. They refused to talk to me or communicate anything with me, even though they were an SSV. If I said anything to them or made any comment about anything they were talking about they would snap at me and tell me I was wrong or rude, really whatever they could to try and make me feel bad. Even friend breakups can be so dramatic in the workplace.
SewOnAndSewForth12 points1y ago
There are specifics with the hierarchy, as mentioned, but as we have someone who got her bf at my store hired, please don’t do lots of PDA. They snuggle on the floor sometimes and stuff and I hate it. I would say if you have a relationship, please have some sfw boundaries out of respect for your team around you. I come to work to make coffee and do my job, not feel like a third leg on someone else’s intimate relationship.
New_Consequence_51843 points1y ago
This is honestly something the could both be fired for, and you should let them know. Two baristas at my store were recently fired for expressing "inappropriate affection" while at work.
SewOnAndSewForth2 points1y ago
My store manager knows. She doesn’t care.
blue-haired-barista [OP]2 points1y ago
Nah I'd never... im too shy anyway >< i also have common decency unlike some people 🙄
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lillyloveswriting3 points1y ago
It wasn’t at Starbucks but I’ve worked with my boyfriend at two places before and we were great coworkers. Sure we would glance at each other from time to time but when we were working we kept things professional. Never ever ever ever let your personal life and work life clash.
And definitely leave those marks somewhere where they can cover up lmao
uwumoment3 points1y ago
i was scared they weren’t gonna accept me bc my boyfriend works as a barista at my store. we have been together for 4 years and pretty much everyone is aware we are dating and we are pretty professional about it and work extremely well together on bar. everyone (including my ssvs) even brings up our relationship and talks about it with me. as long as you don’t make anything uncomfortable for your coworkers or bring drama on the floor you should be fine. oh, i wouldn’t do it with new relationships… that might be too much drama but if you’re really confident in it go ahead just make sure if you DO break up be professional about it :)
TheFriendlyFeminist1 points1y ago
Not against policy if you are both the same job title, but not a great idea lol
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