I wouldn’t have told her the truth lol. tell her you weren’t feeling well next time and say you need the day off. it’s really not any managers business why I am unwell unless it’s for the health or safety of other partners lol

Do not fall for the guilt trip managers like to do this so you feel sorry. As a former shift if one does not feel well and aren’t capable of working I want you to take care of yourself as your health matters. We can always find coverage or ask someone to stay if they can.

Nah you’re not in the wrong, but next time just say you’re (tw slightly graphic) vomiting or having diarrhea. Food handling laws in most places dictate you can’t return to work until 24 after last episode

Yeah if you need a mental health day that's one thing but to me this sounds like you just didn't manage your time. If you know when you work you should know when to go to sleep so you're rested and can do your job.

No. Guilt tripping you isn’t okay. I’ve went to work feeling the same and it was a super short 4-8 shift so I just stuck it out but I was literally almost useless, falling asleep taking an order and spacing out on warming.. wished I went home. Lol. You do what’s best for you, your manager would do the same so don’t even listen to that “I’d work on no sleep,” and even if for whatever reason they would do that to themselves they’re the manager, not a barista.

When I was a supervisor, I told all my baristas that if they were overwhelmed and needed a mental health day, they could tell me and I'd support them 100%. But I also told them that if they called out and someone else answered, to say that they had a fever and were puking.

I supported my baristas when they were mentally worn and exhausted. As a result, I had fewer call offs on my shifts than any other supervisor. Your manager is being an ass, and that method of management only "works" short term.

Youre not in the wrong sometimes u just gotta lie to call off for personal things u know

you’re definitely not in the wrong, and i 100% appreciate your honesty and communication with your manager, but from my personal experience after many years of working in customer service jobs (and 2 years working at starbucks), your best bet is to just tell them you’re sick. like actually sick—i’ve tried the “i’m not feeling well” thing (when I actually wasn’t feeling well) and it doesn’t work. the most they did was let me sit down for twenty minutes and told me to drink water and basically tough it out.

that being said, i’ve learned that if you provide just enough gruesome detail (but not too much to make it obvious you’re faking it), most managers won’t question it farther. my go to is food poisoning, because it’s usually over and done with after the 24 hour mark, so it gives you a whole day, but it’s not serious enough to need to provide a doctor’s note. even if you have to make a point to go to the bathroom every ten minutes or stay in there for a long period of time—if they think you’re too sick to be there, they won’t question you any further, unless you just have an asshole manager (which it sounds like you kinda do, sorry about that friend). i do wanna stress that that small amount of detail is important—like i said a simple “i’m not feeling well” isn’t reason enough for them to send you home, so the trick is giving them enough detail to make them not *want* any more details.

like i said i truly admire your honesty, but your best bet is to just tell them you’re sick and provide enough detail to where they *won’t* want to ask questions, but not too much to where they suspect you’re not telling the full truth. managers don’t need to know the actual reason—if you seem even just the slightest bit fine to work, they’re going to guilt trip you no matter how honest you are because a) they don’t wanna find someone to cover your shift b) they don’t wanna be the *someone* that covers your shift, and c) they deal with so many call-ins that i’m convinced managers are immune to them and don’t take them seriously anymore.

but anyways, to sum all that up, food poisoning has worked like 98% of the time for me, because like i said it’s over quick and you don’t need a doctor’s note. just a simple “i’ve been in and out of the bathroom all day/i can’t keep anything down” is enough to scare the shit out of any manager. because as much as they don’t wanna cover your shift, they certainly don’t wanna end up cleaning up a mess if they force you to come to work.

so sorry to hear this happened!! hopefully the advice on your post helps a bit. you most certainly were not in the wrong but when it comes to mental health days, it’s (unfortunately) a better method to just fake sick. it’s sad that we live in a society where employers don’t understand that everyone needs a mental health day sometimes and we have to result in faking physical illness just to be excused from work. i hate this country, so, so much.

Yes, you should be getting adequate sleep the night before you work. Thats your responsibility.

This is literally AITA Starbucks Edition ✨🧜‍♀️

my manager did this to me today cuz i missed work wednesday due to a migraine that i still have today but i worked today and yesterday. she said when she gets them she still comes to work and then deals with it when she gets home. like ok cool good for you to be able to work through pain