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Am I being sensitive part 2 (self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by bestowcurse
Sorry I guess I have a lot of feelings right now. But a bit ago, I was put on mornings and on cold bar. For some reason someone ordered 4 layered Fraps and I has 2 mobiles I had to take care of which were also Fraps.
I've been working for almost 4 months now and when my coworker said "hey [shift] bestowcurse is drowning on cold bar" and the shift responded with "I this the first time they're on cold bar?" And nobody bothered to even look at me or acknowledge my existence. Like suddenly I'm being told I need to sink or swim without any help or even asking.
Honestly if they asked I would have said no and did it on my own anyway. But at the same time maybe I'm just sensitive when I felt that what the shift said sounded hostile. Like I don't known maybe I'm a baby but I know she hates me for her own reasons anyway. I guess my question is, "am I being too sensitive?"
I've been working for almost 4 months now and when my coworker said "hey [shift] bestowcurse is drowning on cold bar" and the shift responded with "I this the first time they're on cold bar?" And nobody bothered to even look at me or acknowledge my existence. Like suddenly I'm being told I need to sink or swim without any help or even asking.
Honestly if they asked I would have said no and did it on my own anyway. But at the same time maybe I'm just sensitive when I felt that what the shift said sounded hostile. Like I don't known maybe I'm a baby but I know she hates me for her own reasons anyway. I guess my question is, "am I being too sensitive?"
brownie1267 5 points 1y ago
i’m pretty new and also just a sensitive person so i don’t know if i can really answer the question of if ur being sensitive, but what i can say is that i’ve felt the EXACT SAME WAY AT TIMES UGH. certain people just don’t take me seriously i guess because i’m only 16, but i’m on drive thru bar almost everyday now and i’m proud of myself for picking it all up in less than 2 months …. but there is a few people who seem like they’re WAITING for me to make a mistake or get overwhelmed so they can act like i can’t handle it. it’s so frustrating. and anytime someone makes some kind of negative-ish comment, i just can’t shake the feeling and it stays in my mind. i think i need to work on taking things less personally, but it’s just hard. so i know how u feel :(
bestowcurse [OP] 2 points 1y ago
Damn I feel really old haha. But yeah 💀
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trbpanda 3 points 1y ago
did your shift say that with some sass?? i feel like i'm struggling to tell if what the shift said was nasty or not. like were they being sarcastic or was it a genuine question. as a shift i feel like it could be hard to lose track of how much bar time new people get, so it's possible they were just asking.
BUT!!!
i say this as a sensitive person myself, whether it was intended to be mean or not, fuck 'em. whether this person likes you or not, the only person you should let it effect is them and not yourself. (unless it's like bad then i'd take it to a store manager or district manager.)
obviously it's way easier said than done to just simply not let these people bother you. but i try to tell myself if someone is being hostile like that, especially if its someone above you, they clearly have some sort of reason. obviously it's not a good one i'm not trying to validate them, but their "reasons" are usually because they're so miserable themselves that they're projecting on you. and that gives you one thing to be happy about!!!! the fact that at least you're not as miserable as them.
therefore, fuck them. they are beneath you. period.
BUT!!!
i say this as a sensitive person myself, whether it was intended to be mean or not, fuck 'em. whether this person likes you or not, the only person you should let it effect is them and not yourself. (unless it's like bad then i'd take it to a store manager or district manager.)
obviously it's way easier said than done to just simply not let these people bother you. but i try to tell myself if someone is being hostile like that, especially if its someone above you, they clearly have some sort of reason. obviously it's not a good one i'm not trying to validate them, but their "reasons" are usually because they're so miserable themselves that they're projecting on you. and that gives you one thing to be happy about!!!! the fact that at least you're not as miserable as them.
therefore, fuck them. they are beneath you. period.
bestowcurse [OP] 2 points 1y ago
Yeah but she tends to always have an attitude. Like she always just digs into me with how bad I'm doing at something. Or how she knows better. I just feel like me learning at my own pace is a lot more helpful then her making snide remarks.
trbpanda 1 points 1y ago
i mean what can she expect??? you're new!!!! if she knows so much, then she should do her job. part of a shifts job is to make sure that the baristas are doing things right and stuff
if your pace is different than hers its just gonna have to be something that she gets used to. don't let her influence the pace that you work and learn at because the quality of the drinks you make, as well as your mental health, will suffer.
if she's really that bad you can always talk to your sm or dm. maybe ask if you can be placed in shifts without her as the shift more often than not? or just straight up complain and maybe she'd get written up. if you have other coworkers that don't like her i would make a note of that. or you can also transfer to another store as well.
you're probably always gonna find at least one nasty person in each workplace so it gets easier if you can just let it go in one ear and out the other. again, they're clearly miserable!!! don't stoop to their level!!
if your pace is different than hers its just gonna have to be something that she gets used to. don't let her influence the pace that you work and learn at because the quality of the drinks you make, as well as your mental health, will suffer.
if she's really that bad you can always talk to your sm or dm. maybe ask if you can be placed in shifts without her as the shift more often than not? or just straight up complain and maybe she'd get written up. if you have other coworkers that don't like her i would make a note of that. or you can also transfer to another store as well.
you're probably always gonna find at least one nasty person in each workplace so it gets easier if you can just let it go in one ear and out the other. again, they're clearly miserable!!! don't stoop to their level!!
bestowcurse [OP] 1 points 1y ago
You know the worst part isn't even the face that I don't know how to do it, just it was a lot to do and anyone would have struggled.
Unfortunately due to me having two jobs I'm kind of stuck in the same shifts as her but if my other job slows down soon (it's booking based) then I'll just switch to nights to be honest.
I try to let go or mesh with her best I can but alas nothing has worked.
Unfortunately due to me having two jobs I'm kind of stuck in the same shifts as her but if my other job slows down soon (it's booking based) then I'll just switch to nights to be honest.
I try to let go or mesh with her best I can but alas nothing has worked.
uwumoment 2 points 1y ago
i’m sorry. i know it’s against the rules but i always batch frappuccinos. they’re annoying and i constantly drown on cold bar if i don’t batch them. i understand what it feels like to not receive help and overhear people berate you. you got this and remember to never take shit from anyone, you’re still learning.
crenchie 2 points 1y ago
shift here. what your SSV said was completely and utterly unprofessional. it doesn’t matter if it was your first or 500th time on cold bar. if you’re drowning, you’re drowning. i’m sorry this was said to you, especially in front of others on the floor. the play should’ve been adjusted so that you were receiving help during a busy time.
Kindly-Trust7211 2 points 1y ago
if i knew somebody already hated me and said this,,,, yeah i'd definitely feel awful. my old job had a shift manager like this but worse and she used to make me cry all the time. then again i'm also sensitive af :) i'm also super new to starbucks and am terrified of fucking up so i won't have another experience like that so
bestowcurse [OP] 2 points 1y ago
Yeah she kind of made me feel worthless quite a few times unfortunately so I totally get that. I'm sorry 😞
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