My manager is known for being strict when calling out for literally any reason. A lot of baristas have quit on him and stopped showing up, never completing their two weeks, including newbies who’d stop showing up after like a day or a couple of weeks. Recently my brother had a heart attack and was hospitalized and we were told he needed open heart surgery. I knew whatever day he had the surgery, I was not going to be coming in. I told my manager, he was understanding and told me to try to find coverage. The hospital kept switching dates on us but there ended up being a complication which he needed emergency surgery. I called him when I could to tell him I was not coming in around 6 am with my shift at 7 am. I told him it was emergency surgery and he proceeded to say that it was not okay I’m calling an hour before. I explained it was all last minute, but he told me I wasn’t in any “imminent danger” and that ultimately it was up to me whether or not I’m coming in to work. On the phone, it felt as if he were pointing to writing me up (he’s done this before). I told him that my brother is in the hospital and I am absolutely not coming into work. He was very angry with me on the phone and was not understanding of the situation at all. He was very much informed about everything going on, probably more than he needed to know. He also told the other shift leads about it when I made a big effort to keeps things private by always pulling him to the side. Some of my friends say to go to HR but I’m not sure. For me this was the final straw, I put my two weeks. I don’t feel comfortable working with him at all. Is it worth going to HR ?