Starbucks Baristas: The daily grind
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Help. I need advice. (self.starbucksbaristas)
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Normal_Human_4567 6 points 1y ago
You could get them a pin with their pronouns on it, and see if that fixes the problem at all? Though that way you risk LGBT-phobic customers going off on you. I'm not sure how this is happening though, customers never talk about me because they're always talking TO me?
awkardNeph 2 points 1y ago
Ok. Thanks I'll look for it. It usually not a thing but she has been very aggressive on the way she goes about it.
Normal_Human_4567 2 points 1y ago
For some people it is extremely painful to be referred to by incorrect pronouns, but unfortunately at work she shouldn't be attacking customers over it.
awkardNeph 2 points 1y ago
Heard that. Im just nervous as a shift, since Ive had multiple issues to the point I've requested to my asm not to work alot of shifts with her because she makes me feel very uncomfortable
Normal_Human_4567 1 points 1y ago
It really depends on a lot of things that we, on the internet, can't tell or know. Being trans doesn't cancel out being a dick, and from what you've said it could either be her being a dick OR her being insecure. If she came out recently or had a transphobic family, it could be that misgendering her is really painful. On the other hand, she may not be identified by others as female, and takes that as offensive regardless of intention.
Either way, a pronouns pin could really help her! And if she goes off on a customer for talking about the sNoWfLaKe GeNeRaTiOn, they probably deserved it
Either way, a pronouns pin could really help her! And if she goes off on a customer for talking about the sNoWfLaKe GeNeRaTiOn, they probably deserved it
ellsb3lls 3 points 1y ago
some of my co workers wear pronoun pins and they haven’t gotten any flack for it (or at least, none that i’m aware of). maybe look on etsy? hope everything goes well
Knowelz 2 points 1y ago
If it’s just the way she’s aggressive about it and if it’s her tone you could tell her to correct the tone and her attitude - don’t even mention her pronouns
cherrythot 1 points 1y ago
Are you a shift? If you are, or if you’re just a barista but still comfortable confronting her, have a talk with her privately. Tell her that you can’t imagine how frustrating and awful it must feel, and that you and your partners fully support and respect her. Tell her that she can wear pins/ name tag specifying her pronouns, and that if anyone chooses to misuse them, to try her best to let it go. Because these people are not important enough for that.
awkardNeph 2 points 1y ago
I'm a shift but im so socially awkward private conversations terrify me. I'll find her a pin and try to build some confidence to talk to her. Thank you.
cherrythot 2 points 1y ago
Just make sure you make it clear that you support her and you are on her side! This is a reallyyy sensitive subject for some people and what she probably needs most right now is that assurance!
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