Starbucks Baristas: The daily grind
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Misgendering at work? (self.starbucksbaristas)
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Tisroero 6 points 1y ago
Do you think she's doing it on purpose? Or are they just really slow on the uptake?
Patient reminders will get you further(no escalations, etc) if it's the latter, but your plan to be straight-up should be followed up with talking to your manager if they keep doing it willfully.
Patient reminders will get you further(no escalations, etc) if it's the latter, but your plan to be straight-up should be followed up with talking to your manager if they keep doing it willfully.
thefoolwitch 1 points 1y ago
Honestly I can’t tell. She has a military and religious background and is middle-aged (40s) which for me in the past has not been a good sign for acceptance, but ofc you can’t tell based off of that either. The fact that she didn’t correct herself afterwards is the thing that makes me feel like even if it IS on accident when she says it, she doesn’t actually respect my identity enough to correct herself.
I do plan on being lighthearted about it, just direct, but first I have to manage to say anything after she does it—so far I’ve turned mute each time. :/
I do plan on being lighthearted about it, just direct, but first I have to manage to say anything after she does it—so far I’ve turned mute each time. :/
blue-haired-barista 1 points 1y ago
Report it to HR. My girlfriend (whos also my coworker) is trans and people misgender her all the time, including our own coworkers, and whether it's in front of her face or behind her back it's still wrong and should be reported if gotten to a point like this. Respect is a right.
Internal_Vacation_72 1 points 1y ago
So sorry this happened to you! I know that at my old store I had a few racist and homophobic coworkers which shocked me considering Starbucks is supposed to be such a welcoming environment!
I’m not sure if it matters but I’m a straight white female and sometimes I accidentally call a coworker by the wrong pronouns just because it’s not something I’m used to! I also find myself calling literally everyone “girl” including my male boss so 😂😂 If she does it again correct her just one more time and say like “hey can you please call me he/him” or something like that. If she does it again it’s probably malicious
I’m not sure if it matters but I’m a straight white female and sometimes I accidentally call a coworker by the wrong pronouns just because it’s not something I’m used to! I also find myself calling literally everyone “girl” including my male boss so 😂😂 If she does it again correct her just one more time and say like “hey can you please call me he/him” or something like that. If she does it again it’s probably malicious
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