I know coming to reddit for advice is considered a last resort to most people, but I am not sure what to do at this point. So I (19f) started working at starbucks last month. The interview process with my now starbucks manager went very well at the time and I was extremely confident I would be hired. For like the first few weeks, I was extremely excited and giddy even, I was always happy to be there, it was something I had never done before and I genuinely had fun making drinks and doing all sorts of different things throughout my shift. My coworkers are mostly around my age, which I thought was really great until I recently observed the true dynamics of my team. But they're nice??? i guess to me, and they tolerate me enough.

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Everything started falling apart when 2 girls who have worked there for about a few years transferred a few weeks ago. It was so quiet and awkward. They were amiable enough with me though, for the short time I met them. I started noticing that the rest of them didn't really seem to engage in casual conversation with me. I thought it was because I was still new at the time, so I just ignored it. But then when the manager hired new people, my other coworkers got along with them way more than they have with me so far. Everyone at work has their little inside jokes and conversations and I'm pretty sure left out. 1v1 conversations with some of them give the same energy as asking someone what time it is at school in a boring class 20 times over. But everyone is constantly joking around, having fun, and I am never a part of that no matter how many times I try to be. It makes me feel... \~different\~. As if there's a secret reason behind all this, obviously there isn't.

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There's also this really weird theme of like.... being talked to like a child while we all work. It comes from the higher ups, and the people my age. I can only think of like 2 people who actually talk to me like an adult. I want to give the this job a chance, I really do. I need the money and it pays well enough and the hours are decent, but I am starting to feel more of a burden instead of someone who actually makes contributions to the team. I DO MOST OF THE EMOTIONAL LABOR. My boss has made me do register since I got hired and it drains the hell out of me. I have so much more fun just making drinks although i am a bit slow with it. I am almost never allowed to make them unless its for myself and i get scolded really often for wanting to do so. Its emotionally taxing since its mostly my coworkers who piggyback off what my manager says to me. I'm bored for several hours a day, I do the same thing every day and theres no chance for growth.

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There's a lot of tension between me and everyone and I'm starting to think i should transfer to a different starbucks. I dont care if they'll be short on staff, I'm not gonna give a corporation any of my pity. I don't want to give the complaints to the manager, I know I should trust him the most but he's been dismissive with me in the past. earlier today i overheard him talking about working for 70 hours this week, so i guess the stress with managing the starbies is starting to take a toll on him which could explain his attitude towards me. Also, I'm not trying to seem immature, but we're all literally making drinks and serving sandwiches, I am actually pretty laidback even on super stressful days and it makes everyone frustrated with me, but I dont understand the frenzy. I do get the job done, believe me. When other people get on the register they get drained pretty quickly and call for me to get back on it. When I was younger i was really insecure about my social skills, and I was socially anxious for a big part of my teenage years, It got manageable into adulthood but now it is starting to make a comeback. I'm also really sensitive so I'm starting to take everyone's dismissive and uninterested attitude towards me super personally where i rather just not show up. I really hope I'm not the problem. I've tried so hard to fit in. I Understand that not everyone has to like me, but when there's only like......5 people that you work with and none of them really *like* you, not even as a casual coworker to talk with, you would start to feel off as well. Should i just transfer? I rather just work at a different starbucks where i feel like i'm actually doing something and will be appreciated. Or am I being dramatic? I am aware that situations like these nationwide are contributing to the labor shortage, if you have any similar experiences please feel free to tell me, I'd be interested to know.