I’d say shoot your shot. Maybe casually ask if he’s single if you’re chatting and if he says yes, ask if he wants to hang out, or go do X activity together. If he says no to being single, I usually just drop the subject and move on.

There’s definitely that possibility! For myself I’ll do that for a regular customer, especially one who is very nice and considerate.
Him chatting it up with you may also be him connecting with customers, so I’m not too sure about that.

I’d say it’s more of him being nice because you’re a regular, and as such wouldn’t mind giving you the drink for free at that time, especially if you’re a pleasant regular , but you never know

no, he's just doing his job.

Please, I beg of you, don’t assume servers have crushes on you. There’s a guy barista here at my store who acts exactly like that... to literally every customer. I can only imagine how awkward that would be for him if every random woman assumed he was looking to date them. LMAO.

the double standards being shown in this comment section…

we are extremely encouraged and paid to be nice to you. the mobile order thing i would do for any regular i know is cool. He possibly thinks you are a cool person, but i wouldn’t say he is into you just from the nice gestures. Don’t listen to these people, don’t initiate. if he is interested, he can initiate.

Couldn't hurt to shoot your shot, today I had a guy give me his name and number on a napkin and it was actually really nice 🙂 I'm taken so I'm not interested, but it was sweet he gave me his number instead of asking for mine.

As long as you're willing to run the risk of feeling awkward if he says no, lol

I used to have a crush on this one barista, she was really cool and chill. But I realized she has a girlfriend so I stopped pining after someone unavailable and accepted the fact we are only friends. If she didn’t have a gf I would’ve totally asked her out sometime. My advice is shoot your shot but be subtle.

Def a possibility! Like others are saying, it could definitely be him being nice to a friendly regular, but you never know!

Why don’t you see if he wants to hang as friends first? Or like see if you guys have something in common first before potentially putting you both in an uncomfortable situation

My girlfriend asked me out as a customer and now we’re inseparable

I know I might be late to the party but he might be, what to actually do about it I have no idea.

I have a major hangup about asking out service workers even though in hindsight I can think of atleast one who was totally into me.


I'm stuck in limbo with one now and it's the worst feeling in the world, in the past I didn't notice her much aside from her seeming nice which everyone at the coffee shop is tbh. Then one day she started ramping up things, talking to me more, on one occasion when we were talking about our gym schedules she said "you look great" which put me in a grey spot of wanting to ask her out but not wanting to do so unless I got to chat to her outside of work.

She seems to have gone cold on me now which is a blessing and a curse, cold in the sense that she dosent go out of her way to talk to me but still waves and flashes glances from a distance, still putting me in a grey area.

Honestly I think I'm gonna go to another coffee shop because its driving me crazy.

He might be. I can’t stop thinking of a barista guy too he’s so cute and nice to me and always smiling when I’m around and flirts with me and we talk all the time. I have a big crush on him too and he keeps looking at me and blushes when I look back and he won’t ask me out I think he’s shy as he already said lots of things about himself of his life and he told me we live nearby. I have the feeling we both like each other but he’s shy because is his job. Once I was getting sugar packets and I overheard his co worked talking to him, he said why don’t you ask her out we can all see you like her and she likes you too. He said he wasn’t ready yet I couldn’t hear the rest. He’s 7 years younger and I feel would be uncomfortable but I think is a very big crush I haven’t had in a long time so when I see him next time I’m thinking of asking him if he maybe likes going other coffee place together. I’m 31 and I feel I’m acting like 13 because I tried asking so many times and the words don’t come out and I feel is the meaning I really like him as we been talking there for months actually.yesterday he was staring at me so long he tripped over hehe and his co worker laughed hehe. I don’t know why we make things so complicated should be just simple I think.

It can be, just ask if he wants to do something out of work. It’s not gonna hurt anyone. I wouldn’t say I’m the most attractive dude but I get asked out a lot and in my experience is better to just ask instead of keeping the what if :)

You should invite him to go do something mild with you. Or write him a suggestive note to make him aware romance exists

Ask him about his hobbies and if he says something that you both do like maybe gaming ask if y’all could play together. He might have a crush on you but you could also ask if he has anyone special.

I dont stare at my regulars. Worst case scenario he says he is either taken already or no for whatever reason. Slip him a note instead if you never see him besides at work and just be casual about it

I agree with u/RawTack. There’s definitely a chance (I don’t act like this with all my regulars, only the ones I like, and I have in fact crushed on a customer before) so just shoot your shot in an understated way, and if it doesn’t work out, it won’t be weird!

You should go for it!

Shoot your shot, worst case scenario he's not interested, but as a barista who crushes on many customers I hope every day that one takes the chance and asks me out. I sure as hell am not gonna be the one to ask.

As a barista I would definitely be like “what are you into” “I’d love to get to know you” or something along those lines! Because like if we were only doing mobiles and I still made ur drink, I’d have too definitely LIKE you. Because I like our regulars but I wouldn’t go against our rules for them you know? *not saying that like it’s a big deal but like they definitely didn’t have to make your drink* good luck