Starbucks Baristas: The daily grind
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I'm leaving starbucks and feel guilty (self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by Askandanswerquestion
Hello! 320******* here. As you can probably tell by my numbers, I am a very new partner, and I just put in my 2-week notice on Saturday.
After the initial euphoria wore off, I am now laced with a complicated feeling of guilt. I feel like I don't deserve to be this worn out. I feel like I should have been stronger.
The thing is, overall my starbucks is good. Unlike many of the horror stories I've seen on here, we have decent (though not great) managers, and the partners are awesome.
But Starbucks is my second job (and far worse paying). Between the two jobs, there are days when I work 12 hours. It has destroyed my mental health and even brought back suicidal thoughts I had been able to manage for over a year.
I don't really know how to tell everyone I'm leaving, or if I should at all. I don't want to go into how exausted I felt, or how it wrenched me emotionally. I am moving soon, so that's been easier to use, but it feels disingenuous. I'm not moving far enough to make the job impossible.
I guess I feel like I haven't worked here long enough to feel this down. I hate feeling like I'm letting my partners down, and it feels like I cheated everyone out of all they have poured into me.
It hasn't helped that I've had radio silence from the two managers since I put in my 2-week notice (on Saturday). I feel like I let everyone down.
Sorry for being so long-winded. I guess I just needed to get it all off my chest.
After the initial euphoria wore off, I am now laced with a complicated feeling of guilt. I feel like I don't deserve to be this worn out. I feel like I should have been stronger.
The thing is, overall my starbucks is good. Unlike many of the horror stories I've seen on here, we have decent (though not great) managers, and the partners are awesome.
But Starbucks is my second job (and far worse paying). Between the two jobs, there are days when I work 12 hours. It has destroyed my mental health and even brought back suicidal thoughts I had been able to manage for over a year.
I don't really know how to tell everyone I'm leaving, or if I should at all. I don't want to go into how exausted I felt, or how it wrenched me emotionally. I am moving soon, so that's been easier to use, but it feels disingenuous. I'm not moving far enough to make the job impossible.
I guess I feel like I haven't worked here long enough to feel this down. I hate feeling like I'm letting my partners down, and it feels like I cheated everyone out of all they have poured into me.
It hasn't helped that I've had radio silence from the two managers since I put in my 2-week notice (on Saturday). I feel like I let everyone down.
Sorry for being so long-winded. I guess I just needed to get it all off my chest.
jamosarous 9 points 1y ago
Ive worked for Starbucks for about four years now and ill tell you what I've told other baristas who have quit. This is nothing wrong with leaving a job for your mental health or personal reasons. I would rather you work somewhere else where you know you would be happier than work here and be miserable. If the people you worked with truly care about you they will understand you leaving to pursue something better. Don't feel guilty for putting your personal and mental health first, as you stated the stress has caused your suicidal thought to resurface. No job no matter how we'll get along with your coworkers or how excited you were to work there may is worth dealing with depression and suicidal thoughts. Honestly, you only truly have to tell your coworkers why you're leaving if you truly want to. Or you could simply tell them you found a better-paying job and leave it that. Sorry, this was so long but again never feel ashamed or guilty that you put your mental health first. As someone who also deals with depression and suicidal thoughts; I hope this change allows you to better manage your suicidal thought. Cause I know how hard that truly can be. ❤️
Askandanswerquestion [OP] 2 points 1y ago
Thank you! I really appreciate hearing this. This is just what I needed. ❤
alecxhound 9 points 1y ago
Don’t feel bad I just quit too- Starbucks sucks and it’ll be okay!! Better jobs r out there ❤️❤️
Askandanswerquestion [OP] 1 points 1y ago
Thank you! ❤
sugar_bnny 4 points 1y ago
Please don't feel guilty, I am also a new hire and I am already considering quitting too.
Working costumer service is hard, and working costumer service, in the food industry, and in such a big company like Starbucks is especially hard (even more if you are not used to it) especially because it seems like the pandemic has make it so that people has gotten into their heads that they can do whatever they want and face no repercussion, and Starbucks has done nothing to correct this (worse, they even seem to encourage it)
Anyways, remember that you don't owe Starbucks anything even if they somehow managed to make you to push you out of a tough spot (which I seriously doubt with their minimum wage). Working for someone means getting something in return for your job, and if they treat you like shit on top of not paying you enough, there is no reason for you to look for better opportunities somewhere else where they might treat and pay you better.
Keep your head up and continue your way, you deserve to put yourself and your health above anything else.
Working costumer service is hard, and working costumer service, in the food industry, and in such a big company like Starbucks is especially hard (even more if you are not used to it) especially because it seems like the pandemic has make it so that people has gotten into their heads that they can do whatever they want and face no repercussion, and Starbucks has done nothing to correct this (worse, they even seem to encourage it)
Anyways, remember that you don't owe Starbucks anything even if they somehow managed to make you to push you out of a tough spot (which I seriously doubt with their minimum wage). Working for someone means getting something in return for your job, and if they treat you like shit on top of not paying you enough, there is no reason for you to look for better opportunities somewhere else where they might treat and pay you better.
Keep your head up and continue your way, you deserve to put yourself and your health above anything else.
Normal_Human_4567 3 points 1y ago
Minimum wage might be alright if they allowed you enough hours. I'm on a 32 hour contract and I'm practically BEGGING my (extremely understaffed) store for more hours, or at least a set schedule so I could pick up another job, but it's not happening. If I'm only getting 32 hours, at least pay me enough to live off.
sugar_bnny 1 points 1y ago
Oh. I understand that completely, but OP mentioned having to juggle two jobs, so clearly working only 1 isn't giving them enough to their needs, add to that their mental health is being destroyed, it will 100% be better for them to take their changes looking in another place. Especially if it seems the situation isn't going to get better.
Askandanswerquestion [OP] 2 points 1y ago
Thank you for the encouragement. It's good to har validation that my feelings are legitimate.
soulsearxhing 3 points 1y ago
I am also a 320. I started this job when I was going through a rough patch with my parents and was worried about paying for college. Now that things have mostly cleared up and I'm going to a different school I kind of regret leaving my restaurant job. Although I love my hours (the latest I get off is 2:00 pm), I am earning a lot less and I'm really behind on my financial goals. My store is great but I've been thinking about leaving a lot.
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